Yeah, I'm a REALLY young mom..

I had my first at 22 and I was not married. I also looked 16 so I had a lot of those stares. No one made comments though but I've been told a time or two that I look intimidating ^_^

 

You can be mom at any age and you should feel good about it. And it doesnt matter what other people say or think. if someone becomes nasty its only because they are jealous and they know that they cant do what you do.

 

I get a hard time because of my age also except for being to old. My other ds is 20yrs old and my b/g twins are 4 yrs old and I am 43 yrs.
Ppl say you are so old I bet they were mistake and wow you sure messed up your life, you will be stuck with kids the rest of your life. Or with your son being 20 you sure messed up.
I think my beautiful babies who were surprise packages are the best thing that could of happen to me.
I don't understand what age has to do with it. Just ignore the idiots like I do.
Keep enjoying those babies. You are doing a great job they are beautiful and well loved, they are lucky you are their mommy!!!!

 

I can't say I know EXACTLY how you feel, but I'd say I know pretty darn close. I had my first son when I was 17. I managed and even graduated with honors from my high school. I was a single mom until a year and a half ago when I met DF and got pregnant with the twins. I'm a 22 year old mother of three!! I make sure every need is met for everyone in my family and then some. I do all the kids and taking care of the house and cooking by myself since df works from 5am until 8pm. I make sure everyone is fed and bathed every night beofre my DF is home. If I go anywhere I get these looks and comments that people just seem to pull out of their butts "looks like you got into some trouble and had twins" WTH is THAT supposed to mean?! I remember being treated different when is was 18-19 and taking my son to daycare. The parents excluded me from a lot of their social get togethers. When we moved, only one family came for a farewell playdate I sent invatations to for the whole class.
I hate being judged by my age and how that must mean that I don't care for my babies or I am just a liability to the government and tax payers.
Ugh I need to stop myself now.
Yeah I've had this on my mind for some time, thanks for posting this.
/rant....sorry if I rambled.

 

QUOTE(babymOmmax2 @ Feb 5 2009, 02:20 PM) [snapback]1177541[/snapback]
I can't stand going out in public with the twins sometimes. I mean, I love getting stopped by everyone (when I'm not in a rush) and having everyone admire them, but then they get a good look at me, and so the questions being. Yes, I'm ONLY 19, and YES, I have two beautiful 11 month old twin boys, but what does my age have to do with anything? I realize I'm young, they weren't a 'mistake', sure my hands are full, by why do strangers feel the need to point out the obvious? "I HOPE YOU HAVE FAMILY THAT HELPS OUT!!" or "GEEZ, YOUR JUST A TEENAGER!!" I knew what I was getting myself into when I wanted a baby and God just happened to bless me with twins. I wish strangers would just give me credit for seeing me with MY kids and realizing that I'M DOING JUST FINE! Ughhh.. just a rant. Maybe when I turn 20 in April, it won't sound so.. uhmm.. different!

Hi! I was in the same boat (well not with twins anyway!) when I had my first two children. I had my first son at 18 years old and my second at 21 years old. No I wasnt a single mom and I hated the looks and comments. Just because we were young doesnt mean we are not with the dad. It also doesnt mean we dont know what we are doing. I hate that "just a teen" I love my children the same and took care of them the same if not better than most moms. Trust me it doesnt get any easier the older you or they get (the comments anyway) "You dont look old enough to have a 12 year old" I tell them (I am 31 now) Im probably not but I do and he is mine! My son is now 5'9 and 210lbs so he is a big boy! It may look wierd to others but he is all mine! Now I get the twin comments "you are going to have two teenagers and two two year olds...lucky you!" People just dont know how to NOT say what they think. No one knows how you feel unless they are you and I also wish people would just worry about their OWN lives! We are doing just fine with ours!!

 

QUOTE(MamaD @ Feb 5 2009, 07:58 PM) [snapback]1177977[/snapback]
I was a young mother too. It never really changes, and I'm not "young" anymore. I'll be (gulp) 38 this year. What I get constantly is either "you are NOT his mother" or people who won't say anything and think I have a really young boyfriend. Gross, but true. My soon to be 16 year old is HUGE (6'1", 185 lbs of pure muscle... and really cute ) I HATE people thinking I'm a "cougar" way more than thinking I was a really young mom...

You don't owe these people any answers. Tell them you are "pushing 30" and laugh as you walk away... It really is NOTFB.

Hi five tou you! I am 31 and my oldest son is turning 13 next month. He is 5'9 and 210lbs! I get comments all the time! See my above post. Why cant people just keep their opionions to themselves??? At least I have great help now with the twins and I still get carded for alcohol purchases except for when my oldest is with me! lol

 

QUOTE(Kimani @ Feb 11 2009, 05:34 AM) [snapback]1185504[/snapback]
I can't say I know EXACTLY how you feel, but I'd say I know pretty darn close. I had my first son when I was 17. I managed and even graduated with honors from my high school. I was a single mom until a year and a half ago when I met DF and got pregnant with the twins. I'm a 22 year old mother of three!! I make sure every need is met for everyone in my family and then some. I do all the kids and taking care of the house and cooking by myself since df works from 5am until 8pm. I make sure everyone is fed and bathed every night beofre my DF is home. If I go anywhere I get these looks and comments that people just seem to pull out of their butts "looks like you got into some trouble and had twins" WTH is THAT supposed to mean?! I remember being treated different when is was 18-19 and taking my son to daycare. The parents excluded me from a lot of their social get togethers. When we moved, only one family came for a farewell playdate I sent invatations to for the whole class.
I hate being judged by my age and how that must mean that I don't care for my babies or I am just a liability to the government and tax payers.
Ugh I need to stop myself now.
Yeah I've had this on my mind for some time, thanks for posting this.
/rant....sorry if I rambled.


This almost mirrors me exactly. I was also 17 when I had my DS, turned 18 a month later. I went through my senior yr of highschool pg....it was hard but made it through. I got married when I was 19 and now I am a 22 yr old Mother of Three! Seemed like the perfect time to have another baby, we bought our first house in March 08 after renting for 4 yrs....got blessed with two beautiful babies. When I was 19 and my DS was a yr old, a nosy woman at the bank actually asked my mother if he was my little brother or if I was babysitting. When my mother told her "no, that is her son" the woman asked "how old is she?" my mother told her I was 19, married, and asked her what buisness it was of hers! I was so proud of her!!

Some people think that since we are young we can't possibly raise children....My DH and I both have very good jobs, our own cars 2007 & 2008 (one paid off), and our own home. I bet us young ones are prob doing better than the nosy ignorant people that look down on us for being so young! Congrats to you for doing such a wonderful job as a momma and I bet your boys are adorable....they are lucky to have a young mommy that still has the energy to play with them. I don't remember my mother ever having time to play with me nor the energy.

Wait till your boys are in Pre-K. I feel like the outcast at my sons school. He goes to a private school and I am the youngest mom. The other mothers are in their late 30's and 40's and I am always the one left out of the conversations or not invited to the shopping trips....When I had the twins, born November 28th, I was told "your only 22 and you have 3 kids!" "Bless your heart, you poor thing" "How will you afford them all?"......the last one made me soo mad I swear I wanted to bite her head off!!

I have to admit though, I sometimes feel old having 3 kids at 22 but I wouldn't change my life for anything! The way I look at it, the younger you are the faster your body bounces back. Just think when you are in your mid 30's the boys will be grown and you will still be young enough to have fun. My Ds will be 18 when I am 35 (36 a month later)....I am happy we will still be young.

 

QUOTE(Rach28 @ Feb 5 2009, 04:50 PM) [snapback]1177768[/snapback]
Well I was just heading out the door with MIL last week with the twins and a woman stopped us and asked who the mother was! :umm: Holy moses I was insulted! My MIL looks great for her age (60) but what did that say about me?! Im 33!!!!


I was just remembering a similar thing that happened to me! My MIL (who is 66) went with me to a dr's appt with the babies, and a woman asked who the mom was. When I said it was me, she looked at me like she didn't quite believe it. I think she assumed that I was still pregnant??? It was less than a week after they were born so my belly was still pretty big. Still, I couldn't believe she thought my MIL was the mom. Maybe she thought my sister was in the bathroom? Who knows. People are crazy.