scared and sad about other people comments

When people say things like that to you, just repeat to yourself "I can handle it because I am twice the mom" say it until you believe it. Say it until it's true.

 

The boys were my first kids and I heard lots of those stock comments, too. Just smile and ignore them (as a twin mom you will have this down pat in no time.) I was scared enough as a first time mom with absolutely no experience with babies what-so-ever. Would I be a good mom? How am I going to know what to do? And how am I going to manage with two of them??? I wasn't even sure I was qualified to have one, much less two. I couldn't fathom the hospital staff willingly sending two helpless babies home with me, and without an instruction manual. But you know what? When they got here, it all just came naturally. And everyday I thank God for the best things that ever happened to me. I can't even imagine what it would be like with just one. I still want to try for "my girl", but I think I would be disappointed to have "just one." Isn't that ironic? I love them more than I ever thought possible. And there are still alive and in one piece 5 months later. They are even amazlingly happy babies, who amaze me and make me smile and laugh every single day.

 

Thank you so much for all your support and encouraging words. I feel them kicking all the time and I can't wait to meet them It feels so much better to hear and get advice from moms who know what they are talking about

 

I heard the same thing throughout my pregnancy. My favorite was "Thank God its you and not me", my reply was "I thank God it me and NOT you too". I felt blessed to be having them. Now don't get me wrong, I was scared. My boys are two months now and I feel so lucky to have two babies. My husband told me last night he couldn't imagine just having one. I feel exactly the same way. God gives twins to special people. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

 

I totally understand!! I was so sick of the comments. They kept saying, "You will have your hands full!" Or even now they say that and my response is "Full of LOVE!"

It is totally doable...this twin thing. If I can do it, you can do it!

People told me I couldn't breastfeed my twins and that I was "crazy." My twins are 7 months old and I am still breastfeeding them!

It's super fun having twins. We are special parents because we have them and they are special children (I know, all children are special).

Enjoy your pregnancy, even this end part. Before you know it you will have two bundles of love!

 

I heard all the negative comments too when I was pregnant. Yes, having one child let alone twins is hard work. However, you should feel very special that God chose you to be the mother of two babies your first time around; the Lord never gives us more than we can handle.

My twins are my first too. Not to mention I have two stepchildren ages 5 and 10 that I am raising. It is sometimes stressful but overall, they have been such a joy in my life as I know your twins will be to you.

Best of luck!

 

QUOTE(ladybenz @ Aug 1 2008, 11:07 AM) [snapback]908343[/snapback]
When people say things like that to you, just repeat to yourself "I can handle it because I am twice the mom" say it until you believe it. Say it until it's true.



I LOVE that!

 

i heard all that too and i never knew anyone who did have twins. i found out about twinsstuff when they were 8 months old. wow ya know all the help i could of gotten.

having twins is the best thing that has ever happened to me and i can honestly say it is a blessing. the first few months were hard of course because of lack of sleep. once i started to get more sleep i felt alot better and stronger. you will get into your own routine. don't let anyone scare you. your hormones are so strong now anything can make you wacky. all of us here survived twins so will you. there is so much good in having twins i can't even put them all down on paper. i have B/G twins and oh it is wonderful. i did it all alone to with nobody to help. I had DH and he would get me bottles in the middle of the night so i didn't have to get up. they slept in the same bed with me in there little snuggle nests i had the bed pushed up against the wall and the 3 of us were nice and cozy it is the only way i was able to get more sleep. i would prop bottle wake one feed both at same time. you just get into your own grove and what works for you. if i had one i would probably say the same thing how hard it was for my first child but these were my first kids and i wouldn't change it for the world. plus you have all of us here to help you out or just send a hug when u need it. you will find that we have all done something you have so never feel weird about what u post on here.

pm me whenever you want i am on here every day as i am addicted to twinstuff :laughing:

congrats on you babies.....the best is yet to come......

 

Don't listen to those people. People are full of awful comments. Yes, it is a lot of work and you will be exhausted, but you definitely CAN do it and it is SO worth it!!! You will be amazed at everything you can do. Seriously, I've never been that strong and now I regularly carry my twins in their car seats down to the car- down some steps even. And, I don't know any different. These are my first and while I do realize it is more than twice the work, it is also more than twice the joy!! The good really outweighs the bad. I cannot imagine ONLY having 1. There is so much I would miss out on! Just seeing my girls next to each other, looking and smiling at each other. Or to wake and see Maya curled up holding Sofia's arm- it is too precious! With a singleton, you would never have any of those experiences! It is truly a blessing.

 

Yes, it is hard, but it is so rewarding. You're in a pretty special group having two at the same time!! Not everyone gets to experience what you are about to experience and it is the greatest experience I have ever had. Like a pp said, you'll be amazed at how well you do even if these are your first children. It hasn't been as bad as what I thought it was going to be either. Oh, and by the way, there is nothing better than being able to hold two babies at the hospital. And now, I will lay in my bed in the mornings and just listen to the monitor to two chatty girls laughing, playing, singing, and talking to each other every morning and I wouldn't give that up for all the money in the world!! It's a great way to start the day.

 

QUOTE(caba @ Aug 1 2008, 12:21 AM) [snapback]907323[/snapback]
Do you have any other children? I noticed in your siggy you didn't have any others listed. My twins (b/g) were my first. I was scared to death. But it's not necessary. It's all I ever knew once they showed up, and it was fine. Me and my best friend had our babies 5 weeks apart. Me first with the twins, her 5 weeks later with her son. She had a WAY harder time than me. Maybe it's just because we got them on a schedule and me and DH really worked as a team since there were two of them. But it's really not bad. And it's so amazing to watch them together.

Of course it's overwhelming, esp as a first time parent, but you will be amazed at how well you do, and at how much you can love two very special people!


Well put. I couldn't agree more! God chooses who gets twins and you were picked for a reason! He will never give you more than you can handle!! Though sometimes that seems hard to believe. You're stronger than you give yourself credit, look, you've already made it to 31 weeks! You go girl!

QUOTE(Mairoge @ Aug 1 2008, 05:03 PM) [snapback]908530[/snapback]
I heard all the negative comments too when I was pregnant. Yes, having one child let alone twins is hard work. However, you should feel very special that God chose you to be the mother of two babies your first time around; the Lord never gives us more than we can handle.

My twins are my first too. Not to mention I have two stepchildren ages 5 and 10 that I am raising. It is sometimes stressful but overall, they have been such a joy in my life as I know your twins will be to you.

Best of luck!


oops I just posted the same thing you did!! lol...great minds think alike!

 

QUOTE(Gimena @ Jul 31 2008, 06:37 PM) [snapback]907186[/snapback]
I'm 31 week pregnant with my first babies, boy/girl. I just hang up the phone with my sister in law, who was one child, and all
I hear from her and others is "oh my god all the hard work, I don't know how you are going to do it.. I have one child and is tough, I can't imagine
two babies at the same time"

Comments like this one upset me and scared me at the same. I can't wait to meet my babies and I wish I would be 100% happy, but
I am so scared of handling two babies at the same time. No one ever comes back and says to me how beautiful it will be, they only
mention all the hard work.. maybe is hormones.. but I need to hear positive things from those who are experienced with twins



it's the hardest thing I've ever done, but also one of the most rewarding. Holding and kissing, cuddling, breastfeeding two beautiful healthy babies is indescribable.

You get through it ... one hour/one day at a time. Enjoy the early days .... they seriously go by so fast!!

Relax, and concentrate on taking excellent care of yourself and grow those babies!