Rude comment on blog

QUOTE(Lesley Anne @ Dec 3 2008, 04:25 PM) [snapback]1095421[/snapback]
I totally do the same thing with Ryder (the covering/tapping his mouth) he loooooves it and always stops crying until I stop the tapping! Now he does it himself-too cute!


My kids love doing this too! This was one thing that used to make them stop crying too as they thought it was really funny. I hope this person can realise how ridiculous they are being and need to find something else to do with their time. x

 

Sorry to hear that some people are just plain old rude, I don't know where people get off. I don't have a blog but was wondering, doesn't it show who left the comment? I plan to start one soon and sure hope I don't have that problem.

 

QUOTE(Charly @ Dec 3 2008, 02:23 PM) [snapback]1095659[/snapback]
Wait! What is FTT?


Failure to Thrive

 

QUOTE(4lilmonkeys @ Dec 3 2008, 04:08 PM) [snapback]1095378[/snapback]
Looks like it IS a member of TS, or at least a lurker. Why else would they come back and comment after this thread was posted? Who does that? Seriously? Your boys look mighty happy to me. What a jerk (that was the nicest thing I could say).


I think this answers the question...


QUOTE(SweetpeaG @ Dec 3 2008, 06:06 PM) [snapback]1095620[/snapback]
However, I think this whole thread is probably feeding the commentor (if they are lurking here) and the more you come here and talk about how mean and hurtful it is, the more they are likely getting out of it, and therefore likely to continue the game. This is obviously not a person who is going to see this post and think, Wow, I really hurt her with my comments, I should come clean and apologize. Nor will they be inclined to cease activity because you've outted them here...they will consider it a win and up the ante further knowing there is now an audience keeping tabs on your blog to see what this person might do next.

I also agree with whoever mentioned it is likely someone who has philosophical issues with Babywise.

Best of luck to you and your family.


And I agree 100%!

There are some sick folks out there that do this sort of thing for the attention, and this thread with more than a 1000 views did exactly what the mean spirited person intended it to do...

 

This whole thread is troll food.... don't feed the trolls. Just ignore them.

I really am sorry someone wrote that on your blog. They sound like they are bored and want to start a fight. The best way to start a fight with a mom is to say she isn't a good mother.

 

Hey, never been there, but on my way over.. I too blog, however, I have to edit and accept all (moderate) comments before they are seen or can be posted. I am on blogger, can you do the same?

 

:hug: Don't let whoever wrote that get you down! I read some of your blog & your family is beautiful! Those babies look very happy & loved. Sounds like this person is miserable & wants to make others miserable too! I hate to sound like a moron but what is babywise anyways??? Hope you're feeling better & that you delete that mean person of your lovely blog!!!

 

It wasn't me. . . I've been to your blog before but it was months ago when I was on bedrest in the hospital.

That was a mean comment (I looked). You and your DH appear to be fine parents unswayed by the cowardly anonymous comments of others.

 

Ugh, I'm sorry that happened to you. I just checked out your blog, and your family is so gorgeous - you are so pretty, your DH is handsome, and your boys are ADORABLE ADORABLE ADORABLE!

And yes, they totally look ID to me.

 

I just looked at your most recent picture on your blog - and those adorable boys have GOT to be identical!! My boys are identical and their ears have slight differences and their head shapes are also different. One of mine also has a small birthmark on the back of his head that the other one does not have.

 

I think there is software where you can check the IPs of those who are reading your blog. It might be something to look into, especially if there is some crazy person reading your blog. I read the comments, and I thought they were really strange. I am not sure I would want them looking at photos of my kids too (They are so cute btw.). So, maybe you can block them if you find out who it is. Good luck.

 

QUOTE(spiveyplustwins @ Dec 3 2008, 09:21 AM) [snapback]1095525[/snapback]
They don't have teeth yet - I am waiting daily for something, b/c I am afraid they are teething. But who knows?!?

Jeremiah has a pointed ear and Michael doesn't. One of them (I can't remember which one ) has a crooked toe like their daddy.

What is Left to Left and Right to Right mean?

Jeremiah has more of a squared head and Michael's is more thin.

Somedays they look real different, and some days they look alot a like.

My OB said that it tested as two different eggs - can that really be wrong?


I didn't think testing the placenta could tell you much except if it was one placenta or two. Mine was one big one so they tested and determined it was two that have fused. But that doesn't mean they are fraternal since you have have two separate eggs and placentas and still be identical. If you want to know for sure i would get a DNA test. I'm going to do it for my boys one day even though I'm 99.9% sure they are fraternal, everyone keeps telling me they look identical, so I'm going to do it to shut them up lol

 

Ok, enough people have responded to this and I haven't read all of them, BUT - and I really mean this - you have two of the most beautiful, happy, healthy babies I've seen. I think mine are beautiful, and they are, but really your babies are exceptional - I even made my husband look at how beautiful they are - and I think any comment made has been made by a little green monster and I would not worry a bit - let them be ugly.

 

Just wanted to say that person is just plain stupid that left those comments! And what you can do is set up a tracker on your blog and you will be able to see IP's of the ppl who are visiting your site. Just time that with the comment time of the "mean person" and you can find out who it is- just an FYI But dont let them get ya down...ppl leaving mean comments just show their insecurities!

 

Thank you guys for all the nice things you have said. It is really encouraging. And for those that commented on the blog. My sister just wrote a wonderful comment that really explains what I want to say. It took me to long to be able to feed these babies and I am so proud of myself for breastfeeding! and for still breast feeding at 8 months!

I am a good mom!

 

ok i feel like an idiot but i have been looking at this post and your blog for like a half hour and cant find where people Say things....but your babies and family are beautiful and i wouldnt let anyone get to you they ar just jealous!

 

j@a, I believe under the pics it shows how many comments there are. Click on that and it will bring you to it.

 

The person is a troll. I have seen it on my friend's blogs before. I actually saw stuff like this happening before I started mine, so I made sure and had my settings to not allow anonymous comments. Some sickos just get a kick out of upsetting people.

 

QUOTE(blended6 @ Dec 3 2008, 09:50 PM) [snapback]1096348[/snapback]
I didn't think testing the placenta could tell you much except if it was one placenta or two. Mine was one big one so they tested and determined it was two that have fused. But that doesn't mean they are fraternal since you have have two separate eggs and placentas and still be identical. If you want to know for sure i would get a DNA test. I'm going to do it for my boys one day even though I'm 99.9% sure they are fraternal, everyone keeps telling me they look identical, so I'm going to do it to shut them up lol



Christy,
You're not going to 'shut me up' anytime soon! LOLOL! YOURS ARE IDENTICAL TOO!

Molly's and Christy's are both ID. You heard it here! ID ID ID! And I think you're right about finding out if they're frat or id through placenta-- never heard of that! Maybe you mean they found 2 placentas NOT ONE?? I dunno.

Anyone ever heard of that??

Whatev.. at this pt, I'd be saying "Yes. They are identical." (both of you )

 

QUOTE(irebren8 @ Dec 3 2008, 11:41 PM) [snapback]1096607[/snapback]
I think any comment made has been made by a little green monster and I would not worry a bit - let them be ugly.


This is true! When someone needles you about something they think you may be sensitive about (which very well may be the case here), it's more about them than you. Sometimes people will tear down others to build themselves up. When you see things from this perspective, it's easier to let go. It also makes me feel a little sorry for this person. They must really have issues . :hug: I hope some of these responses have helped you! We think you're doing great .

 

Your family picture on your blog is a great picture of your family. It's too bad this world is made up of spineless people such as the one that commented on your blog. They obviously just wanted to cause trouble. I did like what your brother said though (I think your brother)--quite appropriate :aggressive: (even though violence doesn't solve anything )

 

I can't believe some people can be so nasty...I am sorry you even had to read that.

 

I wasn't going to post anything when I saw this at first. But when I went to your blog it was amazingly wonderful and I thoroughly enjoyed it. You have an absolutely beautiful family and I love all the text. :wub:

Now on to the comments...

Please. This person is very ignorant and knew from your Christian blog, he/she would get under your skin and offend you. Don't give "it" that power. No one is going to fess up to it because they obvisouly like messing with you and hurting your feelings. They are most likely sitting back and laughing at all the attention. I would just delete it and ignore it especially when they are acting like a child.

Sadly and scary enough, people like this do have kids. We can only pray for their well being when a person is that emotionally unstable.

Coming from a fellow Christian...please don't give them the power to take the joy the Lord provided away! :hug:

I hope they get the hint that when they are ignored, they will go on (probably to find their next victim).

On a side note: Where did your DH go to Seminary? :lol: After My DH received his BA from Bible College he was going to go on to seminary at AGTS. I wish he did. Maybe one day!

 

I see you're still happily feeding the trolls (both here and on your site).

 

QUOTE(SweetpeaG @ Dec 4 2008, 01:34 PM) [snapback]1097179[/snapback]
I see you're still happily feeding the trolls (both here and on your site).


I am not sure how you can say that. "happily?" give me a break!

I have moved on from it on the blog.

 

the comment was certainly uncalled for. however, i'm sure most of us have found that emotions surrounding parenting decisions can run very high, and any topic from co-sleeping to attachment parenting to exclusively breastfeeding, etc can get people hot and bothered. it's likely this person has very strong personal opinions about feeding on-demand or on schedule that have nothing to do with you.

it's not an unlikely scenario that this person doesn't know you and simply ran across your blog. or it could be someone who lurks here and found your link. if you've mentioned babywise in your blog it could have been picked up by google and for all you know this is a nutcase who goes searching for advocates of babywise to loose their fury on. it's the internet, it's just too hard to know why people do what they do or where they come from.

the point is, it doesn't necessarily have to be someone from here or someone who knows you. i've never looked at your blog before today and it took me about 0.0003 seconds to figure out you have a strong christian faith, so this person didn't have to know you in order to know that piece of information. there honestly could be no rhyme or reason to it. someone with strong opinions about feeding could have just stumbled upon you that day. i would think about that before deciding to confront anyone you know personally.

the IP address thing has been mentioned, but i would definitely turn that option on. if nothing else you could clear up whether this person is local to you or whether it's just some random person elsewhere in the world.

 

QUOTE(ivfbound078 @ Dec 4 2008, 07:23 AM) [snapback]1096742[/snapback]
... And I think you're right about finding out if they're frat or id through placenta-- never heard of that! Maybe you mean they found 2 placentas NOT ONE?? I dunno.

Anyone ever heard of that??...


I think they can test the piece of the cord that is attached to the placenta and determine if they children are ID or FT.

 

my OB ballparked the accuracy of the placenta test at about 60%. that's not so great if you really want to know whether they're ID or frat.

 

QUOTE(SweetpeaG @ Dec 4 2008, 01:34 PM) [snapback]1097179[/snapback]
I see you're still happily feeding the trolls (both here and on your site).

This sounded a little harsh-I think that this post received lots of attention because TS is so supportive and really wanted to make sure that OP knows we do care and understand.
Maybe the person got what they wanted out of the mean comment by such a reaction but the OP also got a great response of people really supporting her and trying to comfort her (which is what she needed at the time). It is nice to be able to come some where that other moms know what you are going through.

 

On the ID or not ID- My OB said they would look at the membranes of the 2 placentas to see if they were ID or not. It was done on my girls even though the moment they were born you could tell they were not ID. She said if there were 4 membranes between the placentas, they were fraternal. 2 membranes and they were identical.

Oh, the comments were just rude BTW. I'm sorry you are having to deal with that. I also have a blog and would be very upset if someone said something so hurtful on the comments.

 

Alright this is my last post. I hate to have to do this but I am having to block my blog. I was hoping that just moderating the comments would help, but that person (or someone else, not sure) sent another comment that told me to do the world a favor and die.

that was uncalled for and my blog will no longer be able to be accessed by the public.

i hate that i have to do this, but enough is enough.

 

I'm sorry, that's sad. If you ever do find out the IP addresses you should get in touch with Craig (twinstuff) and see what he can do to help. This kind of harassment is not ok.

 

how can i figure out the IP address? I dont know where to go to get that info. someone help please.

 

You have to consider that figuring out their IP address could mean nothing. If it's a static IP then maybe you could identify them, if not, you don't stand much of a chance.

Blogger allows custom javascript to track visitor IPs, Google Analytics also does something along those lines. But at the most you'd get it narrowed down to a city. Which again, means nothing if they're using a proxy. People can view sites using proxy IDs placing them in cities/countries of their choice. If they're using Google Reader, you won't be able to view their IP.

Also, if you feel this person is from TS, or lurking on TS, why announce your plans on an open board? I would advise you to let the matter rest and keep your comments section closed, not just moderated for a while.

 

Yikes, I'm sorry the troll struck again! Probably a smart decision to go private. Or to close the comments, like Anne suggested, if you still want your blog to be visitable (is that a word?).

I just wanted to let you know too that if you ever receive harrassing PMs here on TS, you can click the report button (bottom left corner), and they'll be reported to the mods. We take this kind of thing very seriously. I can't imagine who on TS would write nasty stuff like that, or why, but on the off chance that it is someone here, you have options for protecting yourself.

:hug: I hope this will all be behind you soon! :hug: