Rude comment on blog

I'm sorry someone wrote that on your blog. I recommend you set your comments to requiring approval. Your boys are adorable!

 

Melissa, I'm really sorry about the rude comment! I have a hard time believing people have time to do that kind of nonsense! :hug: You didn't deserve it!!

That being said, you have opened it up to all who click on your link and that's the risk you take - VERY UNFORTUNATELY! We had someone on TS with a loss have very similar and horrific type things on their blog and were forced to make it passworded because it hurt them so deeply.

I don't think that anyone here is going to contact you to fess up if it came from here. It's hard to force someone in cyber space to do that!

:hug: :grouphug:

 

I agree that changing your privacy settings will help. I'm sorry someone posted hurtful comments :hug: .

 

I had someone call Ainsley fat and retarded on my Shutterfly album, and then this same person said I was abusing the girls because their dresses were ugly! The first time it happened, I was upset, the second time, I was just like someone has too much free time. The only place I had a link to the album was in my siggy here and on another site, so I know it was from one of those two places. Oh well, right? Keep in mind, TS has plenty of lurkers too. Just delete it and move on. If you have a public website, blog, photo album, you have to expect things like that.

BTW, yes I do think it has something to do with Babywise. A lot of people have a real problem with it.

 

What I find extremely funny is that she mentions the Lord and to be compassionate, yet she writes that nasty stuff. It's just so ironic, some people should really reconsider their faith and what it's supposed to mean.

I agree about moderating comments... It's what I do on my blog.

 

That person keeps commenting and it is getting on my nerves. I do not feel the need to defend myself because I think that person is being ignorant and rude and not very Christlike at all!!!

But I do want to say one thing. (I guess, in case that person is lurking) -

I understand that people have very strong opinions and views on Babywise and parenting in general. However, Babywise works for us! I do not follow it so strictly, but my boys have been on a feed/wake/sleep schedule since birth and it has worked beautifully for us! My children have never gone without and RARELY cry! When they do it is while I am preparing to feed them - b/c you know ladies, preparing to feed twins takes a few minutes - and right when the boys see me get ready, the cry wanting to eat - which I feed them! If they wake up an hour before feeding time and I can tell they are hungry, then I feed them! I don't make them cry for an hour. But in the mornings (Which is apparently what this is about), normally the play with my dh very nicely until 8, and once they start crying my husband comes and gets me.

Now, Babywise doesn't work for all families. I have a good friend that her baby didn't do well on it - and that's fine. She hates babywise now because of it. Will it work for all of my children? might not. But it works for these two and we have a very calm, happy household.

Just to clear things up

Thanks again for all the support.

 

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QUOTE(mama23boys @ Dec 3 2008, 09:39 AM) [snapback]1095138[/snapback]
I had to add....

Are you sure they are fraternal?? They look SOOO much alike!!


Yes they are fraternal. The OB got my placentas tested and it came back two egg's. EVERYONE says they look identical. Jeremiah has a red dot on his forehead and leg - so we call it our "God Spot" - God gave it to us to tell them apart - b/c it is hard sometimes if you can't see the dot.

 

They look 100% ID to me. You know placenta tests can be inaccurate, right? The only way to be 100% sure is DNA testing.

 

WHOA! :shok: That is so bizarre. What are they even talking about? I know your babies have had some problems gaining weight in the past, but from your sig it looks like everything's fine now. That's just weird. :wacko:

I can't imagine that anyone from TS would write such petty, vitriolic nonsense on your blog. This is such an incredibly supportive community - the ultimate moms' group, in some ways, because it's always at your fingertips. I really hope that that "hit and run" on your blog won't turn you away from TS. The internet is a huge place, and there are lots of psychos out there. (Remember that joke, "on the internet, nobody knows you're a dog"?) Pps have lots of great ideas on how to protect yourself from trolls like that - I hope the technology will cooperate! :hug:

 

Oh wow! Those comments were completely uncalled for and I am so sorry someone was trying to be so hurtful to you!
I do know how you feel-while I was pregnant with the twins as everyone here knows how that feels-I was quite uncomfortable and a bit scared of what it would be like to care for two infants and in daily conversations would voice this, I recieved an annonymous letter in my mail that was quite rude and bascially telling me to get over it and I should just be happy and if I was having such a hard time to ask for or hire help-not signed no return address! If they were so concerned for me enough so to write a letter why werent they offering to help?! huh?! While I was in my kitchen reading that letter my 3yo peed her pants, I was pulling a meatloaf out of the oven and my dog was jumping at the door and my phone was ringing-needless to say I just started crying...people are so mean and they just dont understand! I have my thoughts on who could have written it but I will never know for sure...
Again, I am sorry this happened to you-please continue to come to us at TS for support-we are all here for you and most everyone knows how you feel.
Your boys are absolutely precious and so obviously happy and well fed! What a jerk that person is and hopefully feels like for doing that!

 

I checked out your blog too (and it's soooo cute!) and so sorry someone wrote that!

it always seem 1 bad egg can spoil the fun...

BTW - I've used babywise for 4/6 of my kids and love it! it has been a lifesaver in this household!

 

The comments on your blog were very rude and I have little respect for anyone that would make such comments anonymously. I do however find it deeply disturbing that anyone would follow Babywise with failure to thrive infants. I've never understood what anyone hopes to gain by refusing to feed a hungry infant. Surely you don't really put your hand over your baby's mouth and try to explain to him why he can't eat. I'm all for scheduling but there is a fine line there and you have to be really careful that you don't let that book or any other over ride your instincts.

Blogs can be scary in a way, you put yourself out there so that just anyone can come in and judge you. I'm sure it was upsetting to read those comments and I hope you can determine who left them. If you were my friend, I would come to you in person and voice my concerns. Being snarky and mean is just cowardly.

 

Wow. It makes me glad my blog is private. One of my friends made hers private after receiving a random comment about her breastfeeding attempts. Totally uncalled for. I think there are "advocates" that just spend time browsing sites and trying to spread their messages through blogs. This site is one of the first 10 to pop up when you type in "twins" so it's a great place for them to start hunting.

I have a friend who works for the FBI in computer crimes and he won't even email us pictures of his little girl after the stuff he has seen. He said that having a public blog is very risky and even one that is private is still at risk. Be careful and think about gathering emails of your blog readers so you can make it private. You can have 100 people on the list.

 

I checked out your blog, and I agree the comment was rude and uncalled for. I hope it was no one here at TS.

Having said that, though, this is to be expected form the internet. Not saying it should happen, of course. But there are all sorts of losers and lunatics sitting in front of their computer screens for hours on end just searching the internet for stuff. And blogs, etc. get posted on various sites for those other folks to discuss, comment on, and make fun of. It's the nature of the beast. People get brave in the world of anonymity.

I personally would never have a blog, and have never posted any personal information let alone pictures on any websites, but then again I am a bit paramoid myself. LOL

I suggest making your blog password protected for friends and family only. Really, what's the point of having a blog for anyone in the world to see, KWIM? It just invites trouble (not against you in particular - just the concept of putting yourself out there to strangers anywhere on the planet kinda bothers me...) it doesn't matter whether they post as "anonymous' or not - they can make up any name when they register to comment, so that doesn't tell you much.

Hope you can get the comments deleted, and do suggest making it private in the future.

 

Looks like it IS a member of TS, or at least a lurker. Why else would they come back and comment after this thread was posted? Who does that? Seriously? Your boys look mighty happy to me. What a jerk (that was the nicest thing I could say).

 

QUOTE(Azmom23 @ Dec 3 2008, 12:05 PM) [snapback]1095366[/snapback]
The comments on your blog were very rude and I have little respect for anyone that would make such comments anonymously. I do however find it deeply disturbing that anyone would follow Babywise with failure to thrive infants. I've never understood what anyone hopes to gain by refusing to feed a hungry infant. Surely you don't really put your hand over your baby's mouth and try to explain to him why he can't eat. I'm all for scheduling but there is a fine line there and you have to be really careful that you don't let that book or any other over ride your instincts.

Blogs can be scary in a way, you put yourself out there so that just anyone can come in and judge you. I'm sure it was upsetting to read those comments and I hope you can determine who left them. If you were my friend, I would come to you in person and voice my concerns. Being snarky and mean is just cowardly.


Alright - there has been a TOTAL misunderstanding here!!! TOTAL!!!

My babies WERE NOT Failure to Thrive - let me repeat - THEY WERE NOT FAILURE TO THRIVE. At around 5 months they went through a phase were they were not gaining a whole lot - only to make up for it the following weeks and they are now ahead of their growth curve!

And NO I DO NOT PUT MY HAND OVER MY BOYS MOUTHS!!! It was a game that Jeremiah has started playing were if you tap is mouth he will make funny noises to hear it! It is rather cute and all I was saying was that even when he is crying you can do it and he stops crying to hear the noises.

My babies have never been denied a feeding! Darnett, I still feed the babies FIVE TIMES A DAY - at EIGHT MONTHS!!! And they get solids twice a day!

They have never gone without and are always happy THRIVING babies.

So, yes it does frustrate me that you find this "Disturbing" when you are not aware of the facts!

 

QUOTE(spiveyplustwins @ Dec 3 2008, 07:40 AM) [snapback]1095336[/snapback]
That person keeps commenting and it is getting on my nerves.

Then why don't you delete the comments and set your blog so anonymous people can't comment or comments are approved first?

I also think that all of this is not worth your time and energy. this person probably doesn't know you and is just messing with you. Very common on blogs and the risk you run by having a blog. If they do know you, they are not worth getting stuck in all this negativity. Delete the posts, change your settings and move on. Your beautiful family doesn't need the negativity someone like that is bringing to it. By getting so upset to the point you are posting all about it here is just giving that person what they want. To get you upset.

you know you are being a good parent and that's all that matters. Look at your boys, they are doing great! that is all the proof anyone needs to see what a troll that person is and you're right, you do not need to respond to that person.

Oh, and I think they look identical too! Do they perhaps looks a little less alike in person? They sure look identical in their pics. Both happy, beautiful and adorable!

 

QUOTE(twoplustwo @ Dec 3 2008, 12:17 PM) [snapback]1095398[/snapback]
Oh, and I think they look identical too! Do they perhaps looks a little less alike in person? They sure look identical in their pics. Both happy, beautiful and adorable!


They do look more different in person - however, I have to say that at times if I don't see the dot, I can easily confuse them.

Oh - I am making the comments to were I have to moderate them.

Thanks for all the advice!

 

I totally do the same thing with Ryder (the covering/tapping his mouth) he loooooves it and always stops crying until I stop the tapping! Now he does it himself-too cute!

 

Those boys are identical.

Gotta be!

 

Molly-do they have teeth yet? Are they the same? Are their ears and feet the same? Left to left and right to right? They are soo darling. Please ignore the stupid comments on your blog. By continuing to speak of it, you are playing the game, which is what he/she wants.

Now back to the identical fraternal game... Do you happen to have a spare 100 bucks to test them with??

 

Wow, there are some serious psychos out there who have waaaaay too much time on their hands. Why they feel the need to post negative things on your blog is beyond me. I guess some people just get a kick out of being *#&$&$&$ (insert whatever name you like in here).

The world is full of people, about 90% I think are good people, with good intentions, and the other 10% are dickheads. I think one of them found your blog.

Don't ever feel you have to justify your parenting. Your boys look incredibly healthy and happy (adorable, hello!!), so you're obviously doing a great job. :hug:

 

QUOTE(ivfbound078 @ Dec 3 2008, 12:40 PM) [snapback]1095455[/snapback]
Molly-do they have teeth yet? Are they the same? Are their ears and feet the same? Left to left and right to right? They are soo darling. Please ignore the stupid comments on your blog. By continuing to speak of it, you are playing the game, which is what he/she wants.

Now back to the identical fraternal game... Do you happen to have a spare 100 bucks to test them with??


They don't have teeth yet - I am waiting daily for something, b/c I am afraid they are teething. But who knows?!?

Jeremiah has a pointed ear and Michael doesn't. One of them (I can't remember which one ) has a crooked toe like their daddy.

What is Left to Left and Right to Right mean?

Jeremiah has more of a squared head and Michael's is more thin.

Somedays they look real different, and some days they look alot a like.

My OB said that it tested as two different eggs - can that really be wrong?

 

QUOTE(spiveyplustwins @ Dec 3 2008, 10:40 AM) [snapback]1095336[/snapback]
That person keeps commenting and it is getting on my nerves. I do not feel the need to defend myself because I think that person is being ignorant and rude and not very Christlike at all!!!

But I do want to say one thing. (I guess, in case that person is lurking) -

I understand that people have very strong opinions and views on Babywise and parenting in general. However, Babywise works for us! I do not follow it so strictly, but my boys have been on a feed/wake/sleep schedule since birth and it has worked beautifully for us! My children have never gone without and RARELY cry! When they do it is while I am preparing to feed them - b/c you know ladies, preparing to feed twins takes a few minutes - and right when the boys see me get ready, the cry wanting to eat - which I feed them! If they wake up an hour before feeding time and I can tell they are hungry, then I feed them! I don't make them cry for an hour. But in the mornings (Which is apparently what this is about), normally the play with my dh very nicely until 8, and once they start crying my husband comes and gets me.

Now, Babywise doesn't work for all families. I have a good friend that her baby didn't do well on it - and that's fine. She hates babywise now because of it. Will it work for all of my children? might not. But it works for these two and we have a very calm, happy household.

Just to clear things up

Thanks again for all the support.


I just wanted to say that I didn't mean to stir up trouble by mentioning Babywise. :hug:

And that what you wrote up there is such an amazing and beautiful summary of the choices you make as a parent. What troubles me about Babywise is when people use it and ignore their intuition about their kids (which you totally don't do!!), and in skimming Babywise and listening to people I know in real life who have used it, I sense an attitude of viewing babies as "bad" or "manipulative" (which you totally don't do, either!!). I don't care what book you use as a starting point, you just seemed incredibly tuned in to your kids' needs, and I can hear in your blog how much you adore them. I mean, even the fact that they almost never cry speaks volumes. So, keep up the good work and enjoy your beautiful babies!!!

 

QUOTE(spiveyplustwins @ Dec 3 2008, 07:42 AM) [snapback]1095339[/snapback]
Yes they are fraternal. The OB got my placentas tested and it came back two egg's. EVERYONE says they look identical. Jeremiah has a red dot on his forehead and leg - so we call it our "God Spot" - God gave it to us to tell them apart - b/c it is hard sometimes if you can't see the dot.



QUOTE(ivfbound078 @ Dec 3 2008, 08:40 AM) [snapback]1095455[/snapback]
Now back to the identical fraternal game... Do you happen to have a spare 100 bucks to test them with??


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My OB said that it tested as two different eggs - can that really be wrong?


I have no idea if it can be wrong. I suppose it is people doing the tests, so mistakes can be made. I guess that question would be best answered by your doc at their next check up.

 

Those boys are identical!
Can't one egg not take and one split? I don't know for sure about that, sorry, but I do know the ONLY way to know for sure is DNA. Doctors CAN'T be 100% sure they are fraternal without DNA. (Some doctors don't even know this, drives me crazy....)
They are gorgeous!!!!

Sorry you are going through all this!

 

I am sorry someone is targeting your blog. I think you have gotten some good suggestions here on how to minimize the comments hitting your blog, publicly.

However, I think this whole thread is probably feeding the commentor (if they are lurking here) and the more you come here and talk about how mean and hurtful it is, the more they are likely getting out of it, and therefore likely to continue the game. This is obviously not a person who is going to see this post and think, Wow, I really hurt her with my comments, I should come clean and apologize. Nor will they be inclined to cease activity because you've outted them here...they will consider it a win and up the ante further knowing there is now an audience keeping tabs on your blog to see what this person might do next.

I also agree with whoever mentioned it is likely someone who has philosophical issues with Babywise.

Best of luck to you and your family.

 

QUOTE(joannabug @ Dec 3 2008, 01:28 PM) [snapback]1095536[/snapback]
I just wanted to say that I didn't mean to stir up trouble by mentioning Babywise. :hug:

And that what you wrote up there is such an amazing and beautiful summary of the choices you make as a parent. What troubles me about Babywise is when people use it and ignore their intuition about their kids (which you totally don't do!!), and in skimming Babywise and listening to people I know in real life who have used it, I sense an attitude of viewing babies as "bad" or "manipulative" (which you totally don't do, either!!). I don't care what book you use as a starting point, you just seemed incredibly tuned in to your kids' needs, and I can hear in your blog how much you adore them. I mean, even the fact that they almost never cry speaks volumes. So, keep up the good work and enjoy your beautiful babies!!!


Thank you! I really appreciate it!

 

Girl, just wanted to stop by & give you big :hug: s for dealing with this!!! Your blog is adorable & your family is gorgeous!! Your boys look happy & healthy, way to go momma! I think you're doing a great job & it's probably smart to protect yourselves by monitoring your comments.

I have a blog too, but it's not public, however I found out my SIL was secretly reading it!!! I guess the only part that bothered me was that she was doing it behind my back, b/c if she told me she was, I wouldn't care, although I do vent about her sometimes. Anyways, I just wanted to say, I feel your pain! Being so open on the internet can get you hurt sometimes. I hope that you can confront whoever commented on your site & move on.

 

Wait! What is FTT?

 

QUOTE(SweetpeaG @ Dec 3 2008, 12:06 PM) [snapback]1095620[/snapback]
I am sorry someone is targeting your blog. I think you have gotten some good suggestions here on how to minimize the comments hitting your blog, publicly.

However, I think this whole thread is probably feeding the commentor (if they are lurking here) and the more you come here and talk about how mean and hurtful it is, the more they are likely getting out of it, and therefore likely to continue the game. This is obviously not a person who is going to see this post and think, Wow, I really hurt her with my comments, I should come clean and apologize. Nor will they be inclined to cease activity because you've outted them here...they will consider it a win and up the ante further knowing there is now an audience keeping tabs on your blog to see what this person might do next.

I also agree with whoever mentioned it is likely someone who has philosophical issues with Babywise.

Best of luck to you and your family.


I totally agree with this. This person only has the power to hurt and upset you if you allow it to happen. Allowing it to go on and on both here and on your blog is probably only doing nothing but fueling whatever sick motivations this person has.

I say ignore, ignore, ignore.

Sorry this happened to you, though.

 

I just looked on your blog and found the comment...too much. Here I was thinking that I'm mean for laughing sometimes when my babies cry! They're just so dramatic! It doesn't mean that you don't love them or that you're not feeding them...what kind of person would say that?

 

QUOTE(spiveyplustwins @ Dec 3 2008, 01:21 PM) [snapback]1095525[/snapback]
They don't have teeth yet - I am waiting daily for something, b/c I am afraid they are teething. But who knows?!?

Jeremiah has a pointed ear and Michael doesn't. One of them (I can't remember which one ) has a crooked toe like their daddy.

What is Left to Left and Right to Right mean?

Jeremiah has more of a squared head and Michael's is more thin.

Somedays they look real different, and some days they look alot a like.

My OB said that it tested as two different eggs - can that really be wrong?



Hi! I am so sorry someone wrote mean things on your blog. I can't read it here at work, I will when I get home. By the way, my boys are definitely identical (monoamniotic) and Clay has pointy spots on his ears and Cooper doesn't. Also, Clay's head is thinner and longer and Coopers is more rounded. Also, Cooper has a dimple on one cheek and Clay doesn't. I would swear they were fraternal if it was possible. I have no idea about the placenta testing, but I have heard DNA is the only way to know for sure.

I am going to PM about the 13th, I am still game if you are. I would love to get together.

 

the family photo on ur blog is adorable, sorry u are getting upset with the comments of the crazy person.

I do have to say ur babies look identical just to add to all the others who have said it.