so here's the latest issue that i'm faced with...money. we estimate that it is going to cost about 5k to get everything we need for our twins, furniture, clothes, bouncers, diapers, bedding, high chairs, toys, etc. so naturally we are stressing out over this and are trying to get key items from our parents. my mother committed to the stroller and car seats and my father (who is on social security only) has committed to diapers and a crib. now DH's mother is farely well off financially (no house payment, no car payment, good steady income, etc) and she is only interested in buying clothes, nothing else. in the meantime MIL has helped my sister in law buy a house (payed for her closing costs, 5k) and is paying my brother in law's bills. now, DH is her first born and these are her first grandchildren so you would think that she would be more inclined to help us out to make sure we had what we needed but nooooo she is simply interested in clothes, clearance clothes to be exact. but it gets better......... realizing that we need everything that we can get i went shopping with her yesterday for baby stuff. now i knew that she wanted to buy clothes but i thought that she might buy some bigger stuff like bouncers or high chairs, something that costs more than 4 bucks. nope. we went to babies r us first and she made a bee line straight for the clothing section where we spent a good hour looking through everything. now, we aren't sure what the sexes are yet (doc is thinking girls) so we looked at mostly neutral things yet the majority of the neutral things i liked (with bears and dogs on them) MIL considered to be "too boyish" and refused to even look at them. she picked up every pick item in the store and talked about buying them yet refused to look at anything that was geared towards boys. she also refused to buy anything except onesies and newborn sizes. saying that her children lived in shirts and diapers and that's all that i will need while saying "you can never be too sure on how big the babies will be so i dont' want to buy anything to big"....ummm, they will grow into them. ughhh. so frustrating, my children will have nothing but onesies with ducks on them and will only be clothed for 2-3 months since no one is willing to buy clothing that is for older babies. i finally got her to look at other things than clothes and she just walked buy picking out all the pink bedding, hating everything with primary colors (reds, blues) and complained that things were so much more expensive than they used to be. i took her by the high chairs we are asking for, the bouncers, the winnie the pooh table and chairs, the diapers, she wanted nothing to do with any of it. seriously, this is soooooo frustrating. she even had the nerve to say i would have the best dressed girls in town. not so considering i HATE frilly pink things. if i am having girls they will be non girly girls who like to play and get dirty (hopefully). i don't want cattyness when they get to be teenagers and they have to wear designer jeans and short short skirts. oh and get this, MIL also refused to buy things that didn't match. she said that my children had to be color coordinated and/or matching completely since they were twins. they couldn't be individuals and wear clothes that were different from eachother. so some of the things she bought in doubles, two of the same. why, why, why??????