I feel like a bad Mom-to-be

From the moment I got prego with twins, I wanted boys. I already had a son and he TOTALLY spoiled me rotten! I jokingly said that it would be my luck it would be girls. Turned out, that's exactly what I had. I was disappointed and I can tell you this, with all honesty, I AM NOT A BAD MOTHER! And NEITHER ARE YOU! It took a while for me to get over the initial disappointment. Now, I wouldn't trade my family for the world. Don't beat yourself up, once it soaks in, you'll be excited! AND once their here, you will adore them!

 

No matter how bad your feeling right now, you're going to be a great Mom to them when they come into this world!! Think about the good times to come and hopefully your feelings will turn around!! Good luck!!

 

QUOTE(xjustdizzyx @ Jul 27 2007, 02:11 AM) [snapback]345606[/snapback]
I dont want to be a false hoper but at 21 weeks they told me girl and it was a boy.

Goodluck! But I have a boy and 2 more boys and I really wish I would have gotten the chance to have a girl. I think God does everything for a reason though so I trust in that. You're definitely not a bad person!



You mean there is still hope my little girl will actually be a little boy??!!! LOL!!! Jeepers, I think I'm getting used to the idea... I'm not sure if I would be more thrilled or somehow then miss having a third girl!!

Seriously though... you know one thing that helps me is to look at someone who really wants the gender I'm getting..like someone who has all boys and desperately wanted a girl...then it makes me feel happier, that I did get my girls. Of course, I might feel differently I didn't have any boys at all... I did so desperately want a little boy for a brother for my ds this time around. But one thing I have already decided....my little girl will NEVER, EVER hear of that disappointment from me... I think I would jump through hoops to avoid ever admitting that to her...unless of course, she is on her third girl and is confiding in me her disappointments....then I might admit mine to her!! hee hee!! Honestly, in my case, I do think that were it not for this "disappointment" I might not have been open at all to the idea of having #5... and as crazy as it might sound, now my attitude is totally different...and not just for the sake of having a boy either... I can't explain it, but it totally shifted my "vision" for my family....in a good way.