Friend calling every day, begging for play dates

Discussion in 'Childhood and Beyond (4+)' started by Oneplus2more, Oct 29, 2014.

  1. Oneplus2more

    Oneplus2more Well-Known Member

    H & N have this friend that has started calling every day. If she gets my voice mail, she will hang up and call back several times before leaving a message. Then ahe calls the home phone. After leaving a message, she calls back some days an hour or so later. It's making me crazy. How do you handle frequent callers?
  2. megkc03

    megkc03 Well-Known Member TS Moderator

    Unplug the phone.

    God. I'd go crazy! Talk to the parent maybe??
  3. MNTwinSquared

    MNTwinSquared Well-Known Member

    I agree with Meaghan.. perhaps a chat with the parents or with your kids.  Good luck!
  4. miss_bossy18

    miss_bossy18 Well-Known Member TS Moderator

    I'd talk to her directly. Whatever the limits are, set them, and communicate them to her. "You are welcome to call once a day to see if the kids can play. If you get my voicemail you may leave a short message or hang up. If you hang up, you may not call again. If the kids can't play, you can try again tomorrow." If the calls continue, you could try talking to the parent then. In these kinds of situations, I try to keep in mind what the child is trying to accomplish (playing with your kids) and what information they need to learn or know to be able to do that (phones are a great tool for communicating but there are rules about how to use them).
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  5. kingeomer

    kingeomer Well-Known Member TS Moderator

    We encountered a similar problem with a neighbor kid over the summer, except it was with knocking on the door and ringing the doorbell.  And if the kids were not available to play at the moment, he'd come back several times.  My husband gently talked to him and told him to knock once and if the kids are not available, our kids will come out and find you when they are.  It did get better, thankfully.    Now, when he does knock to play, it's once and done.
  6. lharrison1

    lharrison1 Well-Known Member TS Moderator

    Yeah, I'd either talk to her parents or tell her to call, leave a message and wait for you guys to call back.  But then I'd make sure you actually do call back to let her know one way or the other. 
  7. KCMichigan

    KCMichigan Well-Known Member

    I would approach the parent and explain, gently, the concerns.
    Same with 'door-knocking' children. A friend even posted a sign on the door to remind neighborhood kids not to knock--- during dinner, homework, etc. It said " We can play!" on one side and the other " Please don't knock, we can't play right now!" With simple pictures. Stopped the craziness!
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  8. Oneplus2more

    Oneplus2more Well-Known Member

    Thanks all! She's already toned it down. I don't know if her parents said something to her or she decided on her own. 
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  9. Fran27

    Fran27 Well-Known Member

    Good to hear! My kids are only 6 and I'm already so over playdate requests!
  10. Kessedi

    Kessedi Well-Known Member

    Such an annoying friend. Say you got sick
  11. WhiskeyTangoFoxtrot

    WhiskeyTangoFoxtrot Well-Known Member

    I would definitely talk to the parent. That is annoying. Why do they allow that? I wish my friend called me so frequently. I have to use a list of the best free online dating sites in Alberta province to find a person to meet. I am currently talking with two nice guys. I hope to meet them one day.
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