Expecting Twins and Terrified

I love having twins! A lot of people who never have twins give opinions based on their pre-conceived notions and the fact they would not be able to handle it. I knew no one with twins when I was pregnant or for the first two years after mine were born. I always tell people it is a joy and a lot of fun, and if my first were twins I would have wanted to keep on having twins. That always shuts people up. I honestly don't remember the first few months. I think I was just so thrilled with my girls I just couldn't complain. I just felt so blessed they were here!

Try not to worry. Having a baby or two for the first time is an adventure. They will teach you how to care for them. You will do great!

Rose

 

I will not lie to you the first few months were exhausting, but if I had to do it over, I would. I would also ask and accept more help from others. I also had a 3.5year old, so I couldn't just nap with the babies. Don't let others scare you. We all are human and we all have bad days, twins or not.
Also, as tired as we were we have talked about trying to adopt twins in the future. And ours are only 14months old. We feel so blessed that God chose us to be their parents. They are truly a gift!!!

 

Congrats on your twins!!! You will LOVE it!

Having ONE newborn is hard,of course 2 is harder but it isn't PAIN and DRUDGERY! LOL!
My twins were babies #5 and #6 for me so maybe that helped(maybe not!), also my youngest child was only 11mo. old when they were born(which didn't help matters much either!) but thats a WHOLE other story!!!!!
Hang in there and enjoy the double blessing!!!!!

 

I know we all complain about how hard it is but the truth is, it really is ALL worth it. To wake up to those smiling faces every morning or to see and feel how much they love and NEED you is truly fulfilling. Twins are MY first kids as well so I feel I don't know any different than if I had had a singleton. I think it is probably just as hard for a new mommy of one. I know we say that we laugh at mommies who complain when they only have one baby but the truth is, being a mommy is hard no matter what. Yes, you will have some challenges to face that a mommy of a singleton will never even have to think about but you some how kick it in to gear and just do it. It really is amazing and awesome to have two babies to love, to have two babies to love you back and to have each other growing up. They learn a lot of great skills that singleton babies aren't always exposed to so early on. Having to share, learning how to take turns, how to be sensitive to another child are really great life lessons that they will be able to learn before they even enter school! Trust me, when those two little sweethearts come into the world, you will be amazed at how much love you have for them and how you will want to do everything in your power to make sure that all their needs are met. Parenthood is truly the most selfless thing you will do in your life. You will be fine Shellie. Being scared about having twins is very normal. Heck, being scared about having one baby is normal. But you will be fine because it sounds like these babies are something you wanted not something you are doing because that's what women are suppose to do. Best of luck to you (and dh of course!)

 

I know it's kinda hard right now, especially because they aren't here yet, you don't know what to expect.
I totally thought it would be harder than it was because i was the last in my group of 7 friends that had twins....strange stuff.
I babysat for a few of my bud's over the years, when I didn't have kids yet and I went through **** moments thinking I would die if I ever had twins. Well I had twins and just had another baby and I can honestly say that I didn't find it and terrifing as I thought I would. In some ways twins are great because they always play together and I think they are the luckiest people because they always have each other. My DH always says; it's like having a best friend that never has to go home.
The only advice I can give is too not freak out too much. We were very laid back with the girls and it has paid off, as they are laid back toddlers....for the most part. ( let's keep it real, they are twins)
Congrats & Enjoy each minute,you are a very fortunate mommy~ I'd have another set if I could order them that way! cheers, P

 

I was scared at first. But, I decided that I was going to have a great pregnancy and not let people get me down. I believe that your expectations greatly influence your experiences in life.

Looking back, I've had my moments but it really hasn't been as hard as people said it would be. Some of us who have a relatively easy time with things tend to keep quiet about it for fear of envy daggers flying at our backs.

To see my boys interact with each other is priceless. I think to myself often that people with only one baby never see this or that. It's an incredible gift that they were born with a best friend.

Everyone worries about whether they'll be a good mom. The fact that you worry about it tells me you'll be great!

 

Of course, there are hard parts. Parents with just one baby have a really difficult adjustment period too. You should see what some people go through when they add a 2nd child to their home after having only 1 for a few years. We're lucky because we get to have TWO babies who grow up together as best friends and (if you so choose) you're done with all the infant stuff at once. Taking care of two babies is hard but I doubt there will be a minute after they are born that you'll wish you had only one. Once they reach 18 months old or so and start playing together, I even think it's easier than having just one.

 

I just want to say thank you to all the wonderful replies from my post. It really does help to hear that it is all worth it. When I first got pregnant, before we knew it was multiples, I was sad when my Hcg number suggested a singleton. I was concerned that my baby would likley never have a sibling (I'll be 40 when I deliver and we spent ALL our money on IVF to get this pregnancy, so it seemed likely that this would be our only pregnancy). Then I was thrilled to have twins and then I started my research....and became terrified. I think having a built in best friend is totally cool. I'm feeling better now in my 26th week and am finanlly enjoying being pregnant. Thanks again for all the support - you are a wonderful group af woman and I understand why the Universe sent you all twins

 

I have to add my two cents worth. I honestly have to say having my twins has definitely added tons of joy and hard work. I always tell everyone that I'd be lying if I said it was easy because at times it's the hardest work I've ever done, but it has brought me the most joy I have ever experienced. Hang in there. You will be amazed at what your twins will teach you. There's nothing like the smiles they give you when you walk into the nursery. My DH and I could not imagine life without either twin right now. Good Luck to you and vent when you need to.