Devastating News

I am praying for you and your family.

 

QUOTE(TwinLove @ Feb 20 2008, 01:30 PM) [snapback]631387[/snapback]
[SIZE=12pt]I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. :hug99: You are in my thoughts. :hug99:[/SIZE]


I am so sorry to hear that! My thoughts are with you and your family.

 

I lost my twins last time at 21 weeks so I know how you feel about the crying. It does go away, but there will never be a day that goes by that you don't think about your little girl. My family will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. :love0028:

 

I can't imagine all of what you're feeling right now. That's a lot to carry all at once. Will pray that A continues to thrive but will also pray as you carry this loss. I'm so sorry.

 

:love0028: So sorry to hear of your loss.


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I just wanted to let you all know that at our ultrasound this morning we found out that our Baby B is gone. She had been measuring three weeks behind at our last ultrasound 3 weeks ago and they think she became an angel about a week later. I really can't say much else at this point. Baby A is thriving and growing wonderfully and we are trying to cling to that hope that she's going to be fine, which the peri thinks she will be. I'm not sure if the pain or tears will ever go away at this point.

 

I am so sorry to hear your news. Take care.


Lisa

 

So sorry to hear of your loss, I pray the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly. My thought are with you and your family.

 

I'm so sorry :hug99:

 

I"m so sorry for you loss. Here is an excerpt from something I wrote after I lost my twins. I hope it helps a little.......

To those of you who just recently suffered the loss of one of your twins and to those who are new to the board....

Some things that have helped us:
- Read books. I recommend "A Silent Sorrow", "Empty Cradle, Broken Heart" and "Pregnancy After Loss".
- Search out websites and online support groups.
- Talk to someone experienced with pregnancy loss/infant death (therapist, clergyman, support group). Ask your Dr, hospital, online for recommendations. Many times parents go to a therapist who doesn't have much experience on the subject. This can often be more frustrating, so search out someone with the proper qualifications.
- Create a Memory Box. Fill with ultrasound photos, sympathy cards, letters, poems, etc. Whatever you have for the baby. This will be especially important for the surviving twin when he/she gets older.
- Write letters to your baby. Read them aloud and put them inside the memory box. This helps to keep him/her a part of our lives. Write letters whenever the mood strikes, happy and sad times. When your son/daughter is old enough, encourage him/her to write to their angel twin.
- Create Christmas ornaments or other momentos. We have angel xmas ornaments with their names engraved. We have them for our tree and gave them to their grandparents and great-grandparents. We don't want the family to forget the boys. It's bittersweet, but important.
- Surround yourself with people who understand. Or atleast people that don't criticize your choices or grief process. We've lost touch with many friends and family. And honestly that's been a much easier road, isolating from them.
- Allow yourself to go through the stages of grief. Sadly, none of us will ever fully get over the loss. We'll always have a hole in our hearts. But hopefully over time that hole gets a little smaller.
- Don't be hard on yourself. Remember you did everything you could for your babies. It's normal to sometimes feel guilt, anger, and many other emotions.
- Remember that men and women tend to greive differently. Even if your spouse isn't showing the emotions, it doesn't mean he/she isn't experiencing them. He/She might be trying to be strong for you. Try to open up the lines of communication. It's important to support each other during these difficult times.
- Remember it's normal to experience good days and then bad days again. Anniversaries of conception, birth, due dates, death, etc. are always going to be difficult and important.
- Visit this website frequently. If and when you are ready, visiting the "During Pregnancy" board to help others going thru TTTS. There is something very empowering about helping to educate others.
- Consider Antidepressants or Anti-Anxiety Medications. Don't rule out meds, even if you want to get pregnant again right away. Sometimes it's necessary.
- On the topic of trying to conceive again. Each set of parents must reach this decision together. Some couples can't even think of going through another pregnancy. Other couples want to try again immediately. There is no right or wrong answer. Ask your Doctor how long you should wait based on physical factors. Some doctors will tell you to wait up to a year, but that may be based on emotional factors and ultimately the emotional factor is something to decide as a couple.

 

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and I will continue to pray for Baby A; that she will grow and be strong and healthy! :hug99:

 

I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug99:

 

Sorry for you loss.

 

:hug99: and much love and prayers to you all!

Tina

 

:hug99: I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.

 

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

I am so sorry. I hope that your remaining baby is healthy and happy. I am sure you will tell her about her special angel.

 

Was always scared with the ultra sounds that maybe they would say only one baby, so sorry it had to be you, hope and pray baby A will thrive and be good.

 

I am very very sorry for your loss. This happened to me also with my 1st twin pg, although much earlier. On a positive note, the rest of pg continued without any complications and my DD was born healthy. ((((Hugs))))).

 

I am very very sorry. You and your baby girl will be in my prayers. When you have lived your life you will have a special angel waiting for you at Heaven's gates!!! :hug99: