Circumsision questions

Our son is circumcised, I left that decision up to DH as to whether we would have the procedure done or not. We had it done in the hospital. I don't think it's necessary for boys to be circumcised, I think it's more of a personal decision but I have not read up on it. We've had no problems with my son's circumcision at all, he healed nicely and has not had an infection or anything. Good luck whatever you decide!

 

I just want to personally thank each and every one of you for all your opinions/stories. It really helps out a lot knowing that I am not a horrible mother by not getting my son circumsised if it's just a cosmetic procedure. It definitley eases my mind a little that my son will not be the only one. I wish we could have got him circumsised, and we still will if his pedi thinks it is necisarry. But I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, so maybe there was something telling us not to get it done, and to research it a little further. I much rather use 3500 dollars on paying off some of our debt, than having a 'cosmetic' procedure done on my 8 month old baby. But, if it is not cosmetic, we definitely will be getting it done.

 

QUOTE(Melissatwins84 @ Jan 10 2009, 11:45 PM) [snapback]1141777[/snapback]
I just want to personally thank each and every one of you for all your opinions/stories. It really helps out a lot knowing that I am not a horrible mother by not getting my son circumsised if it's just a cosmetic procedure. It definitley eases my mind a little that my son will not be the only one. I wish we could have got him circumsised, and we still will if his pedi thinks it is necisarry. But I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, so maybe there was something telling us not to get it done, and to research it a little further. I much rather use 3500 dollars on paying off some of our debt, than having a 'cosmetic' procedure done on my 8 month old baby. But, if it is not cosmetic, we definitely will be getting it done.


3500- holy moly! That is crazy!!

 

I wouldn´t and haven´t circumsised my DS. It´s not tradition where I live or where I come from. It´s a personal choice though and I wish you luck with your decision. It does seem a lot of money to spend on something you´re not sure about though...

 

We didn't. I challenged DH to give me a GOOD reason why we should (not the locker room nonsense) and he never did. Whether it was because he agreed with me or because he is lazy I don't know but both boys are intact.

I've known circ'ed boys who've had problems and uncirc'ed boys who've had problems. But in my mind, I feel a lot better about leaving something as is and then fixing a problem if necessary rather than doing something optional (like circ'ing) and then having to have another procedure to correct the problem caused by the optional circ. I'd feel terribly guilty if my baby had to have his circ redone when it wasn't really needed in the first place. Whereas if my uncirc'ed baby had a problem, it would seem more like a regular illness he just got (like an ear infection or something). To use that ear infection analogy again, it's not like I'd have tubes put in until there was a problem even though I know kids that do have to get them, so why would I get rid of the foreskin until there was a problem.

 

QUOTE(blended6 @ Jan 9 2009, 09:00 PM) [snapback]1140519[/snapback]
If a women was turned off by a guy who wasn't circumcised than she really isn't worth his time IMO. I actually prefer a uncircumcised guy. (don't tell me DH :lol



lol! :rotflmbo:

 

The replies are long, and thus I haven't read them all.

How important is it to you that DS is circ'ed? If it's not a big deal, I say don't do it.

My twins were in NICU for 1 week and 2 weeks. One is circ'ed, the other is not due to hypospadias. The circ'ed one ended up with a botched circ. Ugh. All of our other sons have been circ'ed, and we thought the twins must have it too. It's not been worth the trouble, and I'm not certain it's worth the money in the long run. We are having to have two surgeries done now on both boys. . . one for hypospadias which needs to be corrected, and the other is basic plastic surgery to fix the botched circ. It's just been a nightmare. Poor babies.

 

Thanks again for all their responses, I am sure this thread will help a lot of other people out too. So my husband called my pedi's office on Monday, and he said that he would recommend it because of the infections and so forth down the road. I know this is probably his personal opinion, but one that I care about a great deal. My husband called another urologist at Texas Childrens and his fees plus the hospital fees they are asking for 1k up front. I am ok with that, so his consultation appointment is in April, and we are going to schedule his surgery for after his first birthday. Hopefully nothing goes wrong during the circumsision to where we need another procedure.

 

My DH is not circ'ed and has never had a problem in 35 years, honestly I didn't even know in the beginning b/c it still works
the same-KWIM. :lol:we chose not to circ the boys either. Our pediatrician didn't circ his 4 boys either.

 

My pedi smiled and gave a huge sigh of relief when I told her we weren't going to circ DS. Obviously she was prepared to be polite and diplomatic had we wanted to do it, but she dislikes circumcision.

If infections are your main concern, you could always ask the pedi whose judgment you value how common they really are. (And if you're saucy like me, ask for statistics - "x% of boys get more than x # of infections, x % of which are severe enough to require x treatment" not "Oh, I've seen kids get infections.") All the literature I've read says that they're very uncommon. And if infections do become a problem, you can always circ later. It probably won't even come up at all. It just seems unbalanced to me to spend a ton of money to permanently remove part of your son's genitals in order to prevent a highly unlikely problem, especially one that would be mild and treatable if it did come up.

Of course, if you just want to circ, that's fine! Go for it! I wouldn't let the infection argument sway your thinking, though.

 

QUOTE(fuchsiagroan @ Jan 13 2009, 08:26 PM) [snapback]1145951[/snapback]
Of course, if you just want to circ, that's fine! Go for it! I wouldn't let the infection argument sway your thinking, though.

^ i agree. there's nothing to suggest that infections are more likely in an uncirc'ed male. it comes down to hygiene or in the case of your DH's uncle perhaps the presence of STD (not trying to suggest anything, but it is a reasonable explanation).

it's all personal preference. we chose to have both boys circ'ed. it was a painful decision for me, personally, because the wound looked so painful. but honestly they never showed the slightest indication that they noticed, and these boys cried at cold baby wipes so i think they would have let us know if they were uncomfortable.

it really does come down to personal preference, though. for every story about a botched circ you can find a story about health problems in men who are uncirc'ed. there really is no definitive argument for or against it.