WWYD for another twin mom?

Yesterday while walking in our new neighbourhood, I met a couple with a 2.5 year old and a set of 3-month old twins. I don't know them at all but I still feel like I should do something as a fellow twin mom. They did mention that life was VERY busy and they are accepting all the help they can get from family and friends (they told me this because they were comparing what the difference was when they had their singleton to now when they have twins - not because they were asking for my help)!

Anyway, I was thinking of making them a meal that they can either eat that night or freeze.

What would you do?

 

Absolutely make a meal! Or, even if you didn't want to make a meal, a friend of mine brought some groceries over one day. It was fruit, cereal, bread, lunch meat, just some general things. It was so welcomed. That's what I have been doing for people now when they have a new baby. I also put in some nuts, high-protein granola bars, gatorade, whatever. Just a thought. Also, she might just want someone to visit with here and there! Very nice of you to think of her!

 

A meal, yes. Also, if they would be open, taking their 2.5 year olds to play with yours. I know there's a year's difference in ages, but my girls like to play with a couple kiddos that are about a year younger than them (actually, I think the younger ones like it better than my duo).

 

I think that would be a great idea! Or, like a PP suggested, just bring them some snack foods.

 

Absolutely - what a lovely gesture. I would probably stick to 'portable' foods, however, as you don't know if they have any food restrictions (perhaps she's nursing and doesn't eat certain stuff, perhaps they have allergies/religious food restrictions).

As i tell every new twin mom, the biggest lesson i've learned in the last year is accepting help!
I also found that i felt so very isolated (except for my virtual community here on TS) and to actually KNOW another set of twin parents would have been really helpful for me and DH.




and, of course, you've told her about TS, right?? I tell EVERYONE who tells me that their wife/sister/SIL/daughter/third cousin is having twins about it.

 

What a sweet gesture! I would defintaely say a meal or groceries. Maybe offer to run an errand if it is feasible for you. All of the pp were Great ideas and def. tell her about TS!

 

One of my favorite meals to make for others is Chicken enchiladas in a throw away foil roasting pan (then they dont have to worry about returning dishes) and they can be frozen as is. Our church memebers made us a ton of meals when the twinks came, we didnt have to cook for two months! It was the best gift we could have ever been given.

 

A meal is a great idea. They'll appreciate that.

 

I have to agree with the meal that can be frozen or eaten that day. Include the recipe on a card. Maybe include something for the older child. A coloring book with washable crayons or a magna doodle... The older sibs are easily forgotten when there are new twins to cuddle and "help" with.
A list of places that do twin discounts and free stuff.

 

A meal would be great, offering time would be another. If you can and have the availability, offer to pick up a few things for her when you run an errand. Or ask if you can do the shopping for her some day or for that matter, offer to watch the kids (if you're capable) while she goes alone or has some alone time with the older c hild.

I tried connecting with another twin mom and it just didn't pan out, so don't be upset or hurt if she doesn't follow through with a friendship. I love to help, and was totally bummed when this mom didn't ask me a 1000 questions! LOL