i've been sooo nasty and irritable - i dont want to be bothered with anything - i dont know if it's a twin pregnancy thing or what - i warned dh that it will probably last for the next 5 months! is this a twin pregnancy thing?
You have got a double dose of hormones coursing through your body! So - try to be gentle with yourself, and in your lucid moments, tell your DH that you're sorry but it really is out of your control (because it is) It will not ALWAYS feel like this. Do whatever you can to make yourself feel better: if you want chocolate, eat chocolate. A warm bath, candles, a pedicure a trashy book, a conversation with your oldest friend, some alone time crying - WHATEVER it takes to get through the moment. You are not alone!
I could be evil and I knew it so I would ask noone talk to me. I would let them know when I was feeling better. I found it usually happened for a reason, I was hungry/tired etc. I would do what I could to fix the problem eat/nap and then would give the 'all clear'. Do you think you can pinpoint a more exact reason or time you are particularly grouchy other than pregnancy in general?
I was at the ob today, and I mentioned how irritable I am, and she said, "tell your husband it will get better, and that I said so!" See...medical professionals know we're "normal"!!! hang in there. Reyna
I dunno, but I'm right there with ya! I don't feel so bad for DH, as he can just deal, LOL. But I feel really horrible when I lose patience with my daughter...I'm okay most of the day, but when she's whining to play the umpteenth game of Candyland, and I just want to lie on the couch and chill for a bit, I get grumpy. Tonight, I snapped at her because she was horsing around instead of putting on jammies before bed (imagine, the nerve of a 3-year-old acting like that! The horror!) -- and I had to apologize, and tell her I wasn't feeling well, and that I didn't mean to lose my temper. She patted me and said, "It's okay, Mommy. I put on my jammies now." Oy.
Oh how sweet. It does seem that my toddler is more emotionally responsive to me sometimes than his father! He pats me and says I love you and asks if I'm tired. I hope he will not be scarred for life by having mama lay on the couch for a few extra hours here and there. I try to perk up and get a shower and then play with him more in the mornings when we are both fresh. Then thankfully, he and I take a pretty long pm nap. Good luck with the evil hormones. I really think that my bad moods come and go. I can't tell when to expect them. Poor DH. Mj
I know exactly what you mean. I was just telling the gals at work the same thing today. I work in an elementary school ~ and it seems like there are days that I have a harder time dealing with the kids. I know they haven't changed...it's me. They're all figuring out or hearing the "rumors" that I am pregnant(with twins) ~ so they're all starting to ask questions and be 'helpful'. They're such great kids!! April
Wow, I thought i was the only one...I am so glad to hear that this seems to be "somewhat" normal...I had a total melt down yesterday. I work with my mother-in-law (she's the boss here) and she did something that really bothered me and i just lost it! Relieved to hear that it could be just a part of these twin pregnancy hormones! I feel especially irritable today too...doesn't help that I work with her day in and day out either! Nic
As if you didn't have enough to be stressed about, pregnancy hormones can make it feel 10 times worse and being pregnant with twins you're getting a double dose! My oldest was often in the line of fire during my worst days pregnant with the twins, it was often difficult to not lose it. I didn't always succeed. But the amazing thing about kids that age is that God made them wonderfully, unconditionally forgiving. I would apologize afterwards for losing my temper, and she would be so concerned, she would say "does your back hurt mommy?" and try to give me a hug, and a backrub since she'd seen me ask DH for one so many times! Try to relax when you're stressed, try not to beat yourself up if you do lose your cool. You're normal, you're human, and this too shall pass.
thanks ladies - it's been tough - i'm still working full time and i'm sleeping like crap, so i'm exhausted most of the time and uncomfortable with groin pain and a heavy belly - i've been keeping to myself at the office, b/c most people irritate me (which they also did pre-pregnancy)
I have been going through the most miserable mood today and was about to post the same question. I was ok mid pregnancy but my sense of humour has gone south again today. And i can not even tell what is making me feel this way. Except for the obvious, being big, heavy, swollen ankles and hands, headaches, bedrest, aches and pains, lack of sleep (yeah,even on bedrest). And of course the list go on. DH seems to understands but I dont buy it, to much in a bad mood i guess.
I spend all day with a 2yr old, my the time my husband gets home with the 6yr old I have nothing left. I feel like I'm on the 2yr level now, cry for no reason Yelling,falling over asleep. to my husbands credit he is doing great at damage control. I'm only 16 weeks how did you all make to the end? Krwlsn
I was feeling that way today, too! DH asked me how I was doing this morning and I told him I didn't want to answer because I was tired of complaining. I told the nurses at my OB's office the same thing and they laughed and completely understood. Hormones do crazy things; sometimes it feels like I'm plugging a volcano and can only warn people away when it's about to blow. I had to take extra progresterone supplements in the beginning, so that added to the ride. If it's any help, I can say that some days and hours are better than others and in general there were a lot more good ones during the 2nd trimester. I've found that venting on this board and reading the posts have helped me get through the inevitable "highs" and "lows," as this is my 1st pregnancy and I had NO idea about what to expect. Good luck and keep posting! You are in very good company here.
Right there with you girl!!! I feel like other people should not be bothering my with all their petty crap!!! Okay, I'm not really evil--I know that it is hormones! And yes the people in my office who irritated me before are reaching a whole new level of annoyance! You are not alone!
I definitely have those days. Sometimes I just wake up irritable. Somedays I wake up emotional too. It drives me crazy but DH is understanding (most of the time). I am in the no tolerance for BS stage right now and I had a "friend" causing drama and tried to explain away me getting upset on my double hormones. You can only imagine how angry I was about that one.
