Would this bother you?

My MIL is constantly calling the girls "fatso", "fatty" etc.. because they have chunky thighs. My girls are anything but fat. The only place where they seem chuncky at all is their thighs. I just cringe everytime she says it. I know it's probably not a big deal and it shouldn't bother me but it drives me absolutely nuts. Would it bother you?

 

YES IT WOULD!! I do not get that bothered with chunky monkey comments but fat comments bother me - maybe that's
weird but as the girls get older - the last thing they need to hear is the word FAT!! girls and women have a hard enough time without hearing that nasty word!! I know our babies are too young to have a complex right now - but I would want to break that habit!
sorry - I think I am PMSing!!!

:hug99: , Heather

 

Yes "Fatso" or "Fatty" Would bother me. Chubby, Chunky, Fluffy. etc I think of as cute words but Fatso and fatty are very ugly and demeaning words in my opinion. Babies are not fat. Actually I think it might bother me more to see a baby without chunky thighs. My sons chunky thighs actually put a smile on my face just thinking about how skinny they were when he was born. After looking at the birth weights of your daughters I must say I think you should be very proud to have chunky babies now and would point that out to your MIL next time she says something like that.

 

I am EXTREMELY bothered by it. A lot of my family say it to Emma which is a very hard pill to swallow because everyone says how much she looks like me and I have had a weight problem my whole life. It breaks my heart when they say it.

 

yes i would be annoyed by those words. i don't think saying those to a small child is even appropriate in my opinion.

 

Yes, it would really bother me!!

 

The chunky wouldn't bother me, but the fatty and fatso would. Chunky is cute, fat/fatso aren't, not sure why. :blink: I guess it's because when you hear about an adult being overweight it's fat, not chunky.

 

Yes, I'd have a hard time not saying anything to her about that one.

 

I don't think it would really bother me because I am sure she means the same as chubby or chunky.

 

I would be EXTREMELY ANNOYED!!! Just like I am with my MIL when she calls the boys "crankers" or "crankpots". We just correct her and say no they are just vocal and "talking". Apparently, my DH must have been mute until grade school or as he says apparently he must of been afraid to make any noise or be ridiculed.

 

I would be very upset. I find I am very sensitive about what people say about my babies though. My SIL called my DS Lurch (because of her long arms and legs) when she came to visit after they were first born and I was so ticked.
Chunky doesn't bother me or even chubby so much but fat would definitely get under my skin. I would nip it in the bud now before your DC understands it and starts associating herself with being fat.

 

My MIL calls everyone fat including my girls and yes it bothers me.

 

My helper does the same thing but I know she means it as a compliment - she thinks my boys are adorable. So I don't worry about it.

 

Yes that would bother me. Babies are supposed to have nice rolls and looking at your kiddos birthweights you should be one proud momma that they are doing so well. I don't know how I would handle saying something to her though. Maybe just correct her by making a little joke- "We prefer the term 'chunky monkey'!" Or make DH talk to her. Good luck, Leighann

 

Absolutely. I made it very clear from day one I would have none of that.

 

Yes that would bother me. When she uses the term Fatso u could try switching to "yes they are chunky monkies" or whatever u choose. If she doesn't change it then I would say to her u prefer not to have that word used.

On a side note not to steal ur thread, I had some pants altered for the girls and the lady measure their waist there woz an inch difference and the lady (who had told me she had two girls), oh I always had a "chubby one" chubby for one inch I woz so mad. I didn't say anything, but have gone over the replies in my head a hundred times. Jessica is also taller and she always gets Oh she's the bigger one drives me nuts I just say "yes she's taller" I don't want her going thru her life thinking she's big just because she is taller than her sister. Yikes words can hurt!!


amanda

 

Looking back through pictures, my guys were FAT babies, LOL my dad always said, things like 'look at the hamhocks' on him!

I never got bad comments, but if I had, yes it would bother me.

 

The constant comments about weight kind of bother me, whether the child is a baby or older. I definitely wouldn't like fatty or fatso. Babies are meant to be chubby!

 

It would annoy me, but my Grandma does the same thing. She calls my kids little fatties until they are about 10-11 months, then they start getting tall so she stops. Maybe she'll stop on her own?

 

OMG, I would have a huge problem with that. I would say something to her, but thats just me. I'm be very careful with whats said about my girls because soon they will understand and I don't want to cause any permanent issues, I'm sure you feel the same way.

 

I would probably be bothered by it too. I call my girls chunky monkey or chub rocks, but fatso would bother me. Shoot if she wants to see chubbers, show her a pic of my girls. At 10 months they are weighing in at a whopping 24 pounds.

 

I don't know.. my grandmother calls the babies "Gordita or Gordito" which is translated as fatso or fatty. She means it in a good way as she think healthy babies are fat babies and truly Norah is my skinny Minnie with chunky thighs. As babies its cute but anything over age 1, its not so cute!

 

Yes, that would bother me. She needs to realize that "chunky" thighs = a healthy baby! She's applying her adult perspectives on weight to babies and it's inappropriate. Thin isn't "in" in the baby world. I'd tell her to cut it out and stop calling people names

 

Yes!!! My MIL did that on Father's Day. When I stapped back and told her that my babies were not fatso, but health, she accussed me of being cracky. I was sopissed

 

If it's meant as a total term of endearment, it would be OK. But, if it is just a kind slam, then it's so not OK. I also get comments on my kids that annoy the bajeebas out of me (and I've gotten them for each one of my children). Things like "they sure don't miss any meals", or "wow, I guess eating must be a favorite past time for them" or things like that (my dh always wants to say ditto back, but I make him hold his tongue). Anyway, I think negative weight comments are soooo unneccessary. Can't everyone just be happy that they're all healthy? Besides, I think squishy babies rule!