Would it be wrong to ask?

Ok, I had another check up today and it looks like my big boys weights have begun to even out (thank goodness, I thought they were going to be monsters ). they both now weigh 6.9 lbs and I am 34 weeks one day. The Dr checked my cervix, I am at one and he says it's still very high. My BP is fine, the babies looked fine at the u/s this morning and so did the fluids. So I am wondering if it would be wrong to ask him to pick a date next week for a c/s (one of the babies is breech and the other is transverse still after 3 weeks)? My MIL is ready to come stay with us for 2 weeks but she goes back to work August 8th, she is a teacher. She could probably only get 3 days off after that date. She is our only help!!! My dd's b-day is the 28th and I am soooooo worred that they will come on her day. Would it be totally wrong to ask for c/s like I said since the babies are both so big? They also seem to be practice breathing just fine, etc. I feel really selfish for asking but I am just worried about not having someone here.....

 

I don't know that most doctors would allow an elective c/s at 35 weeks for no reason other than your MIL's schedule... I know that you don't really mean it this way... you can try asking, but I know my doctors would have said a very nice, "No!" Most are more comfortable after 36 weeks ...mine were only super comfortable after 37 weeks. When I got the stomach bug at 35 weeks with my twins I came very close to having my c/s that day. I was having a lot of ctx, dilated to a 2. My doctor could have just said, "okay let's do this...you've been pg long enough...it looks like your body might be going into labor anyway." But that's not what she said... Instead it was, "well, I'd rather wait a few hours to see if this settles down. The problem with doing a c/s at 35 weeks is we really don't know without an aminocentesis if your babies' lungs are ready." And I was also in favor of that...not to mention I didn't really want to go into a c/s and arrival of my babies after being so ill. I felt like I would have been really weak for a good recovery. So if my doc told me that after so many indicators that might have made a very good excuse for delivering at 35 weeks, I'd say that there must be some good reasons out there for making it past 36 weeks.

 

Ultrasound weights this late in the game are guesstimates. They were off by two pounds on mine and going before 38 weeks does not mean the babies will not require NICU time. Let them cook as long as possible becuase if you take them too early and they need NICU time then you will feel awful!

 

Officially u could have them in there another six weeks. Hold on to them, the longer the better, you can do it


amanda

 

The longer the better! I know it doesn't seem that way but it's true!

My doctor won't even think of inducing until 37/38 weeks!

Ultrasound weights are just estimates. And there are other things to worry about like lung development etc.

 

Thanks! I needed your answers to bring me back to reality. I called my nurse to have her ask the dr when the earliest he would do a c/s and she even seemed hesitant to ask. That should have been my first clue! I called her back and left a message telling her to scratch my question, that I was just panicking with the loss of mil's help. Arrgghh!!! I feel evil now. It's easy to think just because they are big they'll be fine. But I didn't realize that the weights were guesses.

 

My OB will not do a scheduled c-section or induction til 39wks....even with twins. Obviously if there is a reason to take them earlier he will, but if they are fine and I am fine....no scheduling earlier than 39wks for me....gosh I hope I go a week earlier though!

April

 

My boys were huge and I was huge and I asked my peri for a c-section at 35 weeks instead of my scheduled c-section at 37.5 weeks. Although everything looked fine with them, he said we didn't want any potential NICU time so we waited until 37.5 weeks -- no NICU time at all. I would be surprised if they did it early for a non-medical reason. BTW, my supposedly bigger baby was a few ounces less at birth than they the ultrasound measured. My smaller baby was way bigger. They were 6 lbs 6 oz and 7 lbs 8 oz at birth. So, the weights via u/s are not accurate.

HTH! Keep them cooking as long as possible.

 

Please don't deliver your babies before 37-38 weeks if you don't have too. This time in the womb is about them.

 

Having had preemies, and desperately wanted them out because I was so big, I understand your pain but please be patient! My boys were also very big for being so early. They were 31 weekers and both weighed 4 pounds, but the ultrasound I had the day before they were born put them at over 5 lbs.... I would be really shocked if a Dr. would okay a birth at 35 weeks, it is just too early. Seeing your little ones in the NICU, which could be a possibility at 35 weeks, is so hard and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.... My Dr. told me he would not schedule a c-section with twins any early than 37 weeks, which many Dr.'s consider term for twins. With my daughter, he wouldn't schedule one till 39 weeks, though she decided to come at 36 weeks..... Good luck! The end will be here soon! :hug99:

 

I'm glad you decided not to try for the early c/s. The "cooking" time will definately ensure for healthier babies and therefore a happier mommy! Even if you don't have as much help as you'd like once they get here, just know that you WILL get through those first few weeks. Yes, you'll be exausted and overwhelmed, but you will find the strength you need. If you have friends close by, don't be afraid to lean on them if you can.

Good luck! I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly.

 

don't feel evil... I think most twin moms who hit 34 weeks are pretty ready to be finished! And as far as the whole notion of "the longer the better"..in the case of twins that's really not necessarily true... Earlier I advocated waiting until 37 weeks if you had no other issues..but there is a lot of evidence that bad things can happen when doctors push it past 39 weeks... or even late into the 38th week... Rather similar to how singletons don't do well at all when the pg goes past 42 weeks... I'm not saying that a singleton or twins will necessarily have problems being born this late... I'm just saying that the risks of staying in start to outweigh the benefits of staying in... It's a game of odds...

 

i know that my doc won't do a thing until i'm 38 weeks. cook them as long as you can!