Worry Wart :(

I worry about my twins a lot.

Since I found out only a week ago, at my 20 week ultrasound, that we are to expect two little girls, I feel like I have been thrown into the deep end. I have this feeling of I've done nothing to prepare or safe guard against the risk of my girls being born too soon. It seems it can happen any day now if I don't take care of myself, so I've put myself on almost full bed rest when I'm home. My doctor is not the least bit worried, yet I worry about every bit of achyness and pressure wondering if I'm dilating or going into preterm labor.

I don't know/remember what contractions feel like, so that amps up my worrying. Last night I could hardly fall back asleep after realizing that I haven't felt one if my babies move in a while. "She's the one I tend to feel least" I think to myself, but you never know and my half asleep mind started thinking terrible things! I know it's not smart to worry so much, and I know there are some expecting mothers that have much serious issues then I. I feel so silly when I read about terrible complications and people on strict bed rest bored out of their minds!

My last pregnancy had not a single complication except for him being born a month early (in great condition though). Yet I can't stop these episodes of almost panic (ampped up, no doubt, by crazy hormones) no matter what I think to myself to say it's fine.

 

Ahhh! A fellow worry wart! Do you know if your twins share a placenta??

I too found out at my 21wk u/s that we are expecting monochorionic twins. Not sure if they are boy or girls yet (our choice). I have been on edge since the immediate euphoria passed. I have trouble figuring out if I'm feeling one or two babes move, I've had lots of BH's, I can't get in for u/s when I'm 'supposed' to according to all I read, my OB is totally unconcerned that she couldn't get two heart beats (one heartbeat and one cord pulse) or the fact there will be 7wks between my u/s.

We can live thru the panic together! I'm now 26wks and am still nervous - I have an OB appt on Thursday and my next u/s on the 19th. I cant' do bedrest as I have three active children to look after with school and end of year activities.

Hugs!!!!!!! I worry too...you're not alone!!

 

I'm right there with you.

We've known about the twins since 7 weeks, but I haven't gone crazy about increasing my protein or doing anything more than I would with one baby. I started getting nervous about a week ago that I need more protein and have been making myself crazy ever since.

I also was worried about not knowing if I was feeling 1 or 2 babies. I asked my doctor at my last appointment (at 21 weeks) if I should be concerned that I don't feel much movement. He said it was too early and not to worry about it. Now, at 23 weeks I am feeling much more movement (DH and DS felt it yesterday) and am pretty sure that I can tell which is which now...although that is new asof a few days ago.

It stinks because I want to enjoy this pregnancy (it will be my last) and not wish it away, but the sleepless nights and worry are killing me.

 

I am a worry wart too. Just when I thought I had finally gotten used to the idea of 2 panic has hit me again and I am feeling overwhelmed LOL!

I keep having menstrual like cramps too but since I already went in to L&D for them once and they weren't registering as contractions and I haven't gone in again since (although I will mention to my doc at my appointment next week). It is probably from my babes being so low as I've never carried this low before.

Since I know that I am a worry wart that sometimes that makes me push things off (like the above) and then I worry that I shouldn't have and that I should have called LOL, isn't that the definition of a worry wart?! You're in good company! I think we all having difficulty figuring out which baby is kicking etc. :hug: Sounds like you are doing everything right cooking those babies!

 

Even though I knew I couldn't be the only one, I am so glad to see there are fellow worriers out there! The more I read and learn about everything twins, the more I feel better about being able to handle carrying them far enough for them to be healthy.

I know exactly what you mean chellebelle, I think that the almost constant pelvic pressure is just my body complaining about the weight and think nothing of it, but then I worry perhaps I should be worried about that (I plan to talk to my doc tomorrow about it). Thanks for the reassurance!! :blush:

I can't wait till my DH can feel the girls like your family has minivanmama! My DH has been so excited about everything with these two, I know he's just going to melt when he feels them poke at him. To cute!! :ibiggrin:

The doc told me they're "di/di"? Everything is separate, so it's possible they're identical, but most likely fraternal, ChaoticMum.

I'm hoping that with tomorrow's appointment comes more clarity and confidence. The more I see the doctor being completely unworried, the more I hope to actually enjoy this adventure!! :hug:

 

Just wanted to send some words of encouragement...

I had two miscarriages before getting pregnant with our twins, so I never knew what "normal" pains of pregnancy were...so I freaked out and worried over everything! Towards the end of 30 weeks I had contractions all the time, but my doctor was never concerned about it...said it was normal for twins....Every pang, every weird feeling I had I worried!
My babies were both vertex so all of their feet were in the same place - so I could never tell who was kicking me or who was moving...I never felt much movement on my left side...and I worried about that too!!!!!

My advice is that you should take a deep breath and relax!! Also, you will know (you really will) if something is really wrong - it is our great motherly, womanly intuition. After I hit 34 weeks I had a hard time breathing and could hardly talk, and just felt "weird" and knew something was off....well, I had preeclampsia! I went to the doctor and that was it! Off to deliver! And the funny thing was, I was so relaxed! I was ready for it to all be over and I just knew everything was okay! And it was!

Hope this helps!

 

QUOTE(KittenKoneko @ Jun 9 2009, 01:58 PM) [snapback]1347694[/snapback]
The doc told me they're "di/di"? Everything is separate, so it's possible they're identical, but most likely fraternal, ChaoticMum.


That would help make me feel better instantly!! My biggest concern is the fact my duo DOES share a placenta and there are so many more possibilities for complications!

 

Well I saw the doctor again a few hours ago he checked my babies and cervix, and he said everything was going fantastic. I can also start doing some water and/or yoga exercizes if I felt comfortable. So I think that's helped put my worries on simmer at the moment. I'm still really glad to see it's pretty normal to worry and panic, even more so in the first few weeks to months of finding out about twins. You guys are great! :hug:

 

I'm right there with you ladies. I'm constantly worried about my twins... It's crazy, with my singleton I had no parinoia and just assumed that everything was okay as long as I was feeling her move. With these guys even when I'm feeling them move I'm constantly worried about the other one and wondering which one it was that was just moving. Things are so much complicated this time around.

 

QUOTE(KittenKoneko @ Jun 10 2009, 01:29 PM) [snapback]1349016[/snapback]
Well I saw the doctor again a few hours ago he checked my babies and cervix, and he said everything was going fantastic. I can also start doing some water and/or yoga exercizes if I felt comfortable. So I think that's helped put my worries on simmer at the moment. I'm still really glad to see it's pretty normal to worry and panic, even more so in the first few weeks to months of finding out about twins. You guys are great! :hug:



YAY so glad that your worries were put to ease a bit now and that everything is going well!