Hi everyone, I just stopped EBF my twin sons after 7.5 months. I wrote a post on my blog about how I received some criticism from a nosy neighbor about this (link in siggy) and I STILL managed to get a negative comment from a reader (despite an overall positive responce). It makes me wonder. Why are some women so judgemental about what is good for OTHER people's children. It makes me question my decision to ween. And worse, makes me feel guilty. Anyone else experience this when weening off? Opinions greatly appreciated
Hey, Don't you hate how one comment can set you on a tail spin!? You did an awesome job BF for as long as you did with TWO babies! No need to question yourself! Just wanted to say good job and thanks for the link to your blog! You have me laughing out loud, and I need that today!!
Anyone who thinks that EBFing twins for 7.5 months is anything short of AMAZING is clearly out of their minds! :wacko: You did an awesome job. :bow2:
Sorry you didn't get the response you were looking for. I'm not sure why bf is so emotionally loaded. It seems not to matter whether you wean at 3 weeks or 3 months or 3 years but we (the moms) always have a smidgen of doubt over whether we are doing the right thing, so maybe we feel that negative response more painfully?
you've done a great job! and given your boys such a great gift!! I wasn't there so I wouldn't be able to understand the tone or intonations that the woman used... I wonder if she was just curious... I am a curious person, and don't mean anything by it, but sometimes I'll ask someone why they've done or quit something, I'm interested in how and why people make decisions for their lives... not that I'm passing judgement. Sorry you feel as if they were passing judgement.
I think you did a great job! I have noticed that there are some people who have really strong opinions about BF and are willing to share even when they are not asked. 7 1/2 months with twins is an accomplishment you should be proud of! And your blog is great! I'm going to keep going back for more when I need a smile or a laugh! thanks for sharing.
You did a great job and you did the best thing for your boys. I think sometimes people just so caught up with bfing because it is so different. I think all mothers that bf is very brave. I know I got so much critism at work when I was pumping for my son. Some people said it was gross( and that made me cry when I try to take care of my baby while he is at daycare. I think every bfing mother struggle someway, somewhow but at the end of the day its all worth it when we get to bond with our babies.
Just peeking in on this forum! I am expecting twins and will be formula feeding. It is so unfortunate that some women are judgemental on this topic. It totally goes both ways. I have a friend that acts so repulsed by breastfeeding, and then I have another friend that is so judgmental to those who decide for whatever reason NOT to BF and use formula. YOU have done a great job! Relish that fact. WHO CARES what anyone else says. You owe no one an explanation on how you decide to nourish your children. I don't understand the whoopla on this argument all the time, it's far from child abuse to give your babies formula. You should be proud. Take care
I think you did great BFing for as long as you did. I nursed my babies until they stopped on their own, but my sister tried with both of her babies and was not able to nurse her babies. I responded to someones post one time and someone responded negatively to me and I was so upset that I stopped using this website for a while. I am back now but I wish people would show respect to the other members and remember that we are all her to help and support each other! Do not feel guilty, you did a wonderful thing for your babies!
I have been breast feeding my girls for almost 9 months and I am VERY proud that I have been able to give them such a precious gift. I do believe that breast milk is the best choice for babies but I TOTALLY agree with you it is a personal choice and no one elses business!! Good job BF your twins as long as you did!! Good luck with your pregnency murtygirl!! I don't envy mommas that choose bottle feeding .......ugh I'm grateful to have ready made food for the girls in the middle of the night.
Thank you for your well wishes!! We are soo excited and nervous about having twins. It is actually very simple to bottle feed, even in the night. And (at least for my singlton it proved to be)...My hubby and I could each get a good chunk of sleep because he could help with the feedings. But we don't co-sleep either, so that may make a difference. I could never sleep soundly sleeping with a newborn right there. You must have had a beautiful experience BF...that is awesome. But trust me, from talking to some girlfriends, bottles/formula have their perks!!
I was lucky enough to be home with the girls for the first 13 months of their lives. If it hadn't been for that I would not have been able to bf. I think we don't take into account all the other factors that go into feeding a child. If it hadn't been for my super supportive husband, my two full-term babies that latched on right away, and me not having to pump for them I wouldn't have been able to do what I did. I do think its an awesome accomplishment but it could have turned out very differently. How can I judge someone because things worked out well in my case? Especially with only one experience so far?
You did great!!! and if it makes you feel any better in a recent article I read apparently only like 13% of women do any kind of nursing of SINGLETONS until 6 months... so you are waaaaay ahead of the curve for ebfing until 7.5 months! Most moms, american ones anyway, don't make it that far with singletons let alone twins!
My dh helped formula feed my twins at night as well...a definite perk! I did try to bf them but we needed to supplement because their weight dropped off so fast...way more than 10% in the first week. Anyway, we set up feeding station with piping hot water in a thermos and room temp water in a jug. Then we would have the dry mix in about 10-12 bottles lined up... then just used a pyrex measuring cup to measure the right amoutn of hot/room temp water to make the perfect temp bottle within about 10 seconds. No waiting for bottles to warm up, and wash them all in the mornings. And there is definitely some level of security in knowing when a feeding is done and how much a baby got!!! But on the flip side... I love not packing anything more in a diaper back than a diaper, wipes and a change of clothes!! LOL.
