Where is the "fun" part of pregnancy?

Is it just me or does twin pregnancy not give you any reprieve? I think i have had maybe 2 or 3 "good days" this entire pregnancy and i still have so far to go. I spent the first trimester puking my guts out constantly and as soon as that started getting better i've been in pain ever since (back, belly, you name it). On top of that, i think i have gotten every sicky bug to go around (i can probably thank my DS & DD for all the bugs they bring home from school). I finally start getting better from one bug and then get blasted right after with something else. I look down at my belly and i swear i can practically watch it growing and am thinkin it aint going to get any better. I know from my past pregnancies that the 2nd trimester is at least semi-pleasant, but i'm well into it now and i'm already feeling kinda like i did in the 3rd trimester previously.

I feel like a whiner and admire all you women so much further along than me who actually have reason to complain and are still getting around. Has anyone else been basically miserable since day 1? It's not that i'm not happy or excited about the twins, my body has simply been rebelling since the beginning. I sure hope time starts to move a little quicker!

 

:hug: I am sorry that you are so uncomfortable. The Fun parts of pregnancy to me were feeling them move, seeing them on the u/s, finding out the genders, picking their names, registering for all the stuff I needed (ok probably mostly wanted ), and being amazed that my body was growing two beautiful little babies. I know its hard to enjoy some of these things when you feel so miserable, but I certainly missed it when it was all over! I hope you feel better soon!

 

I gotta say, pregnancy was much more fun when I didn't have little people at home to take care of! It's SO hard being pregnant with older children! I enjoyed my first pregnancy more, because I was really able to take care of myself, relax, take a break, etc.

Hang in there mom ... even if the whole pregnancy stinks, once you hold them in your arms, it will make it all worth while!

 

The only "fun" that I feel about being pregnant is them moving around. When I poke at them and they kick me back, I find that fun.

I have to admit, that I do not care for pregnancy. I cannot do anything that I love to do. I cannot workout like I am used to. I cannot kick butt and take names at work......I am a Deputy Sheriff, so as soon as I found out we were pregnant, I had to be careful all of the sudden. Oh and the biggest, I would love to have a glass of bubbly or beer would be great!

Jenn

 

This time around, I've been shocked at how crappy I feel and how soon...I had my bad days with DS, but I have found that I have them so much sooner this time around...I didn't have some of the feelings I do now until I was well into my third trimester last time! It does worry me how much worse I'll feel in 10 weeks! But, like everyone says, the fun is getting the nursery ready, picking TWO sets of names and daydreaming about the day you get to hold two squishy newborns!

 

Oh HOney, Please!!!!!! I'm at a whopping 16 weeks and I am losing my mind! This is no joke.
Tonight at dinner I am sitting at the table, not listening to my husband and thinking well if he died and I met another man- maybe I would want to have that man's child too. So, maybe I shouldn't get my tubes tied after this. Maybe my husband should get his. Because I can not go through this again. Having another child would have to be a single one and without the hell of morning sickness I've been living in.

Because this has been the worst experience of my life. For the month of Feb we spend $900 on groceries/fast food/ and resturaunts- you want to know why? Because I couldn't eat and didn't have any idea what I would be able to keep down. I was so hungry I would want everything but when it came down to the actual smell I wouldn't know if I could digest it or not.
There have been days I got out of bed adn was awake for a full 3 hours. Now at 16 weeks and finally 10lbs shy of original pre pregnancy weight I can eat- a limited diet because I am still nauseous, I am finally learning about constipation in a way GOd never intended me too. Ugh, with the ensure's high protein and Carnation Instant BReakfasts i feel like I"m doing more damage than good.
Excitement? WOnder? Maybe for a minute. But then the sickness comes back and all I want to do is Eat. Eat like I did before, have favorite foods before, or even fall asleep on a full stomach. Haha, not funny.
I think we are having the same kind of pregnancy except you don't seem to be as crabby as I am- thats getting worse too!!!
Women actually get through this. I was talking to a woman who said she was sick up until the day she gave birth, losing almost 30lbs and not being able to hardly eat anything, and her baby turned out fine. Her daughter went through same thing. This must run in families!


God, speaking of day dreaming indulgences, nothing sounds more wonderful than a glass of red zinfindal and a cigarrette. I know bad me bad me.

 

Sorry, there was NO fun time of pregnancy for me. Even with the singletons...don't get me started on the twins!

 

I had 9 months of morning sickness with both of my girls where just the smell of coffee made me run for a bathroom, but those pregnancies seem like a dream compared to a twin pregnancy. Hands down this has been the hardest physical and emotional 7 months of my life. I stressed over having a massive bleed due to a subchorionic hemotoma, then as soon as that resolved we discovered that I had marginal placenta previa which causesd another massive bleed. I finally got the all clear on the placenta previa only to be diagnosed with gestational diabetes. Now not only am I physically uncomfortable, but I can't eat anything that I want to eat. I was living on carbs and fruit because I am having huge food aversions to protein and yet I now need to muscle it down 6 times a day. Argh!!!!! I keep telling myself that I only have 10 1/2 more weeks, but then I realize that in only 10 1/2 more weeks I'll have 4 kids.

 

I was a pretty crabbbbbbby pregnant person :lol:
Some of the bright spots were the ultrasounds and feeling them move/kick :wub: BUT overall I was a grump!!
Looking back NOW I can see so many wonderful times & feelings, but it was hard for me to see that while pregnant.
Hang in there :hug:

 

Hands up over here for a miserable time too.. if it hasn't been something physical, it's been something emotionally stressful happening. The wonderful things.. seeing ultrasounds, having some amazing friends help us out when we needed it most. But mostly, it's just been lots of suffering. That being said.. I will take it all to have two healthy kids at the end. I am sooo looking forward to that day!

 

I was the same with the twins (first pg) the puking then pain. It seemed every week I had a new symptom and each time it was gross, tiring or painful. Now being pg again and having the twins I am complaining so much more eventhough I don't have all the nasty twin pg symptoms. I just don't have the opportunity to nap or just rest like I could when i was pg the first time and no kids to take care of. You just can't sit down because there is so much to do, and when you do sit down your butt starts to kill you and you can't get back up. I've been very very grumpy this time and just not enjoying the wonderful amazing pg stuff........

 

I agree that this has not been that much fun. I am forcing myself to look at some of the fun and the positive because this will be my last pregnancy. I took some belly pics instead of hating them like I did with my 1st pregnancy. I try to focus on how fun it is to feel them move and get an idea of their personalities. I have one boy who is way roudier than the other. But, all of these are conscious efforts and a little forced. I am also very thankful to have made it to 35 weeks and know that I will probably leave the hospital with 2 healthy babies. Hang in there and try to enjoy. The reward at the end will be worth it.

 

lol at mommaofone....

I can tell you one fun part of pregnancy is that you can "talk crazy" to people and there's really nothing they can do...Blame it on the double dose of hormones. Im what some call "southernly polite", but have found that I can say things with rude humor when someone says something unnecessary or because they think I will let it go. Or get snappy and tell them to come again before you savagely chew half their butt off.. Is it nice of me? No. But my awesome patience has worn thin and Ive been watching too many Madea movies lately..
I hate to say take advantage of the condition, but honestly that's what Im saying. Find your own way of making this pregnancy fun, I doo understand where you're coming from. But make it fun before your exclusive time for YOU is scheduled between naps, feedings, burpings, and poopy diapers.

I've had a smooth pregnancy so far. My doc said yesterday that Im approaching the point of pregnancy ugliness, I wasnt sure what that meant, but I may find out the hard way..Ive had no real problems besides the recent aches, pains, numbness in my right leg, constant indigestion, desire for a cigg or 3 or 5, quickly growing out of my maternity clothes (about to make my own dresses, no I cant sew, Ill figure it out).....

I requested to go on bedrest, be taken off from work a week early, so I could enjoy something about being pregnant, and so I didnt have to deal with the drama/foolishness at work since they (department of the army) were trying to find a way to fire me due to my pregnancy..And throughout the foolishness guess what, I got rude back, felt better about it and make no apologies..
Now that Im off, I can attempt to enjoy my pregnancy in whatever way I can find possible, so like the ladies said, wait for the babies to move, read, make up a baby belly dance, jam out in your own way, Pick out names (we are sucking on that part), live it up, if someone says something rude (talk rude back then smile) you'll feel better, and make no apologies..and make an attempt to look fab (if you dont feel you look good then you wont feel good). Oddly I can feel sexy in sweats and a tank in the middle of summer sweating like a man, but Im trying to get out of that mode.. Pregnancy is supposed to be sexy nowadays, make up your own sexy, I know its easier said than done, but its possible... Go do things for you, get a manicure, celebrate your Birthday when its next year, take time away ALONE to collect, regroup, buy yourself a gift because you just feel like it, and make no excuses.. just dont go out and buy a LV luggage set and you're on a beer budget

 

I had a pretty good pregnancy overall. The highlights would have to be getting spoiled with so many ultrasounds/pictures to show off to everyone! I also loved the added attention at restaurants (I went to Old Country Buffet & they seated me closest to the buffet table so I wouldn't have to walk far!). But, there were some miserable parts that just kind of washed away when I thought about the outcome - & that would be the twins! I had HUGE, swollen, achy feet.. blahhh.. I wanted to go shopping at the mall all the time for last minute baby stuff but could barely move around! I also didn't like the fact of strangers whispering "OMGosh, she's huge.. she must be having twins!" I just looked at them like "WOW, IN A MATTER OF FACT, I ACTUALLY AM.. WANT A COOKIE FOR GUESSING RIGHT???!!!!" Don't worry though.. time will go by faster than you think it & you're buddles will be here in a flash!

 

I hear you! i think that a twin pregnancy is way harder on the body than a single pregnancy. the best part will be in all honesty, after they are born! just imagine yourself holding them and kissing them to make it through to the end! it will be so worth it and you may even miss being pregnant, even if for a fleeing moment!

 

I'll admit i'm glad i'm not alone in this. misery loves company right? I'm definitely excited to hold them in my arms and while i'm anxious for them to come, i do want them cooking long enough. I'm starting to feel baby A frequently, but baby B is nice and hiding being the placenta so i rarely feel the lil bugger, soon enough they'll both be easy to feel i'm sure. This i think will definitely be my last time in pregnancyland, i dont think i can do it again! oy!

 

QUOTE(agentplatypus @ Mar 28 2009, 06:36 PM) [snapback]1248554[/snapback]
I'll admit i'm glad i'm not alone in this. misery loves company right? I'm definitely excited to hold them in my arms and while i'm anxious for them to come, i do want them cooking long enough. I'm starting to feel baby A frequently, but baby B is nice and hiding being the placenta so i rarely feel the lil bugger, soon enough they'll both be easy to feel i'm sure. This i think will definitely be my last time in pregnancyland, i dont think i can do it again! oy!

youd b surprised at how much you forget how bad the pregnancy was. i am not counting out anymore kiddos! i love my twins so much!

 

I gotta jump in here, too. This is my first pregnancy, so what do I know???? But I spent the first 14 weeks puking. I felt good for three weeks, but then woke up with a heavy bleed thanks to a full-on placenta previa. I went to the hospital for two days and then bed rest. One month later they found a subchorionic hematoma that was quite large and alarming. My cold lasted for three weeks.

In the mean time, I could not sleep. Heartburn got worse. Then indigestion.

The hematoma and previa have now healed at 28 weeks, so I can get up and move around after ten weeks of bed rest. Everything aches because I am so out of shape. I get out of breath walking across the house. The heartburn and indigestion is so bad that I can't sleep. I catch 30 minutes of nap time at a time before waking up to a horrible taste in my mouth. Basically, I feel OK for about three hours a day...and I use that time to eat, do the laundry, and prepare myself for feeling miserable.

I cannot believe anyone gets pregnant twice. But since I have nothing to compare it to, I defer to you. Thanks for letting me *****. It took four years to get pregnant...and I swore I would not complain. But I had to do it hear. Thanks for listening. Thanks for the sympathy.

 

It feels so good to vent, doesn't it??? I've been trying so hard not to complain, too...but MAN...I feel SO uncomfortable already and can't imagine going another 2 1/2 months. Seriously!!! My first pregnancy was no picnic so I had resigned to myself how important I felt it was to have more than one kiddo and that I'd suck it up...Well, here I am and it's worse than the 1st!!!

This body will never be pregnant again. I smile when I think about that.... and I also remember how quickly you actually forget how awful it was. Sometimes I can take comfort in that.

Oh, and it also doesn't help that I live in Fargo, ND and we are dealing with flooding and I'm stranded in my home. It sure makes the days go SLOW....

 

I have to agree with MaKettle.

I use to think I was a strong person till I got pregnant. It's NOT the pregnancy I thought I would have. I've been on modified bed rest since week 15 and now I have gestational diabetes. and as my stomach gets bigger and bigger I am getting more and more uncomfortable. I sleep in 2-3 hour naps. and I have gas like a trucker LOL.

I have had many other surgeries in my life but this by far the hardest thing I've been though.

I praise all the women who go through pregnancy twice. :bow2:

 

QUOTE(jodirdh @ Mar 30 2009, 04:36 AM) [snapback]1250031[/snapback]
I have to agree with MaKettle.

I use to think I was a strong person till I got pregnant. It's NOT the pregnancy I thought I would have. I've been on modified bed rest since week 15 and now I have gestational diabetes. and as my stomach gets bigger and bigger I am getting more and more uncomfortable. I sleep in 2-3 hour naps. and I have gas like a trucker LOL.

I have had many other surgeries in my life but this by far the hardest thing I've been though.

I praise all the women who go through pregnancy twice. :bow2:


I swear you block out a lot of the bad and your babies make what you remember seem oh so worth it. My first pregnancy was also really difficult. I had pregnancy induced high blood pressure and was on partial bedrest from 14 weeks on. Add in 9 months of severe morning sickness and I was one misreable mama. I would have told you never again, but here I am pregnant with babies 3 and 4.

 

This is one time in my life I can appreciate that misery loves company. If this had been my first pregnancy, there would never have been another in this body! I can't imagine 19-21 more weeks without being able to eat PLUS all of the pains I've been reading about as your stomach grows. CRAZY!!!

 

QUOTE(agentplatypus @ Mar 26 2009, 07:18 PM) [snapback]1246118[/snapback]
Is it just me or does twin pregnancy not give you any reprieve? I think i have had maybe 2 or 3 "good days" this entire pregnancy and i still have so far to go. I spent the first trimester puking my guts out constantly and as soon as that started getting better i've been in pain ever since (back, belly, you name it). On top of that, i think i have gotten every sicky bug to go around (i can probably thank my DS & DD for all the bugs they bring home from school). I finally start getting better from one bug and then get blasted right after with something else. I look down at my belly and i swear i can practically watch it growing and am thinkin it aint going to get any better. I know from my past pregnancies that the 2nd trimester is at least semi-pleasant, but i'm well into it now and i'm already feeling kinda like i did in the 3rd trimester previously.

I feel like a whiner and admire all you women so much further along than me who actually have reason to complain and are still getting around. Has anyone else been basically miserable since day 1? It's not that i'm not happy or excited about the twins, my body has simply been rebelling since the beginning. I sure hope time starts to move a little quicker!


Ugh. I remember those days. I was about 2 months when my legs starting swelling like crazy, which they continued throughout the pregnancy. Around 20-25 weeks is when the pain really set in. Yes, it sucks, and no, it is probably not going to get much better. BUT, it goes away at delivery! You'll get through it, I promise.

 

QUOTE(agentplatypus @ Mar 26 2009, 06:18 PM) [snapback]1246118[/snapback]
Is it just me or does twin pregnancy not give you any reprieve? I think i have had maybe 2 or 3 "good days" this entire pregnancy and i still have so far to go. I spent the first trimester puking my guts out constantly and as soon as that started getting better i've been in pain ever since (back, belly, you name it). On top of that, i think i have gotten every sicky bug to go around (i can probably thank my DS & DD for all the bugs they bring home from school). I finally start getting better from one bug and then get blasted right after with something else. I look down at my belly and i swear i can practically watch it growing and am thinkin it aint going to get any better. I know from my past pregnancies that the 2nd trimester is at least semi-pleasant, but i'm well into it now and i'm already feeling kinda like i did in the 3rd trimester previously.

I feel like a whiner and admire all you women so much further along than me who actually have reason to complain and are still getting around. Has anyone else been basically miserable since day 1? It's not that i'm not happy or excited about the twins, my body has simply been rebelling since the beginning. I sure hope time starts to move a little quicker!


Pregnancy was not fun for me at all. IN the beginning it was ok but that last trimester was hard. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't breath, I would get full eaating just a bite. And the swelling of my feet and legs were awful!! Also bedrest was sooo boring (even though I was only really on it for a week when the twins decided it was time.) But trust me its all worth it and you'll forget all about it once you see thier faces Shopping is fun when you find out what your having !

 

I felt decent from about 10-16 weeks and pretty good from 16-20 weeks. Unfortunately it went downhill pretty quick after that.

I wish I had had this site when I was pg -- I had no one to complain to but DH, my parents, and my IRL friends (none of whom had ever been pg with twins). They were sympathetic, but I'm sure they thought I was complaining an awful lot. My SIL even said "I hated being pregnant" (with her singleton) -- I'm sure she was trying to make me feel better, but I was like "You have no idea!"

But you do block a lot of it out. I would never voluntarily do it again, but I remember it a lot more rosily than I actually felt at the time. Now that I know and love my babies, I can sort of imagine them being back in there and it makes me feel warm & fuzzy.