Whens the next 'its getting better'?

I think I'm suffering from twin burnout! My girls are 4.5 months. We had the 6 week improvement and the 3 month one, when do things get better again??? I need something to look forward to! I'm just so tired and so sick of being stressed all the time. I want to go far away and lay in a beach.

 

I guess it is different for everyone, but I was just thinking about this the other day... when is it "easiest" with twins. Every age brings new challenges, but for me, the easiest stage was from the time they started sleeping through the night until the time they became really mobile... about 5-14 months. There is still the monotony of the daily grind... diaper, sleep, diaper, eat, play, diaper, sleep, diaper, eat, play (x2) and I didn't leave the house much... but they stay in one place, smile at your goofy faces, let you sleep at night, don't fight, and don't talk back!!! But, I guarantee you that I was a crazy stressed person at that time too... I didn't know what I had when I had it! Hang in there!

 

I would say 6-7 months got easier for me. They started to sit up and crawl and really show their personalities. I didn't go out much either with them but they got more "fun" I guess

 

5-6 months got easier for me, the routine started developing, went all crazy at 7-8months and am now loving 9months.... Hang in there Miriam, when they start showing you all their lovely tricks like clapping, crawling, giving you mischievous smiles with all four of their teeth, you will momentarily forget how hard it is and love those two pairs of beautiful eyes following you around the room.

 

There was a huge turnaround at six months for us. I can barely stand to think of those first six months, they were so difficult! (Not that it's all a cakewalk now! ) Once they started turning into little people with personalities, instead of just eating and pooping machines, they really started to get fun. It seems like they are learning something new everyday and it's amazing to watch!
Hang in there! I remember those first few months seeming endless, but you will get there!

 

6 months!!

 

At 6 months they were a lot more interactive, feeding on their own, spending time awake during the day and we were able to get into more of a routine. Like a PP said, every age has it's challenges but there's a lot of fun and joy ahead too.

My best advice is to give yourself something to look forward to outside of the kids. They will have all kinds of moments that will melt your heart, but you won't enjoy them as much if you're feeling crazy and stressed out. Ask your husband to take them for an afternoon and go to the spa. Or better yet, enlist grandparents or someone else to babysit for a few hours and get out with your husband. I know that's hard advice to take, but it will be well worth it for you to get out from under the twin burnout. :youcandoit:

 

Thanks everyone. I think its the exhaustion that's really getting to me, I'm just not functioning well anymore. Guess we will have to figure something out. Thank you!

 

I think the next its getting better is somewhere between 6-8 months depending on when your kids can start moving. But when the boys could crawl to toys to get them and play on their own for little bits of a time it made a big difference. Also, they start showing their personalities which makes it more rewarding

 

this really helps, I am also hitting a wall.. The girls will actually be 6 mos in a little over a week, but they were 8 wks early so I figure I have another painful 8 wks to go through. I truly am exhausted though. People keep saying to enjoy it and that I'll miss it, but I'm not buying it. The only time I enjoy the girls right now is right after the dream feed when they are curled up next to me (they don't like cuddling with me otherwise).

hey 3under2, let me know what beach, I'll meet you there lol!

 

6 months gets easier I've heard it gets easier at 3 as well. I will let you know when we get there! haha

 

Hmmm....someone was pulling your leg I think They forgot to tell you about the horrible three's! Terrible two's really got nothing on 3's for most kids :lol:

Around the 5-6 month mark it got a bit easier for us too. Dh and I had a little chant we used. "First 6 wks will be hell, first 6 months will be hard, after that, things will start to fall into place." We looked at each other around 4.5-5 months and said "Wow, we made it, we're finally falling into a groove and we survived!" :hug: I agree with the taking a time out, preferably a date with the hubby, it's amazing how much your perspective will change when you get a little time away!

 

I dunno I think it depends on your babies personalities. Clara has been easy since the day she was born, and well, Milo won't ever be easy, I know that already. But it's manageable and fun!

 

I agree, closer to 6 mos. mine are 6.5 mos now and they've been playing in the exersaucer and jumperoo. they just started being able to sit up for several seconds and i can't wait till they can do it on their own!

 

We are at 5.5 months now and it's still the same. I'm managing lol. But waiting for the magic day when they can sit up and play!! Rivky was a fairly easy baby (she was my first though, so who really knows lol) and Mushka is a dream, but Chana is giving me a run for my money!!! I guess I need to accept that she will never be 'easy' but it's gotta get better at some point, right?? I have no idea what to do with such a fussy, unhappy baby