when does the 4 month sleep regression STOP?

ahhhh! lol they were sleeping 4-6hour stretches, now its every 2-3 hours. so last night i tried the paci approach, when they would fuss i would give them the paci. NOPE! as soon as i put it in their mouth they spit it back out and started fussing again. so instead of giving them full bottles i only gave them 2oz each time, usually its 4-6oz. they eat every 3 hours during the day, and each take 4-6oz at each feeding. im gonna try and offer more, but they probably wont want it. so tired of being tired! this has been going on for about 3 weeks now. anyone have ideas? cio is still not something im comfy with, plus their adjusted age isnt old enough to do cio. maybe when theyre older, if im still having issues i might, but for now, im willing to try any other approach, or not sleep lol

 

I would like to know the same thing. It's been going on for weeks here. Some nights she is back to her old sleeping patterns and then other nights she is up multiple times. I thought it meant she needed to eat more (started her on rice cereal), but last night we fed her before bed and she was up more than ever. Ugh...

 

Ours lasted 3-4 weeks. But it came with many different phases that I lump together as the 4 month sleep regression. They really only needed to eat the first week or so. After that I realized they were just waking to be awake. Because the bottle would do nothing to put them back to sleep. They just wanted to play and talk afterwards, bottle or not. Within our 4 month sleep regression we had the waking to eat phase, the wanting to stay up or wake up to play phase (all throughout the nigt), the really crabby throwing tantrums at bedtime phase (for 1-2 hours straight for my daughter - we had to drive her around some nights as if she was a newborn all over again). Then came the waking every hour for the pacifier phase. It was awful, because I would jump up for every peep and got no sleep. I hope it ends for you soon!

 

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Ours lasted 3-4 weeks. But it came with many different phases that I lump together as the 4 month sleep regression. They really only needed to eat the first week or so. After that I realized they were just waking to be awake. Because the bottle would do nothing to put them back to sleep. They just wanted to play and talk afterwards, bottle or not. Within our 4 month sleep regression we had the waking to eat phase, the wanting to stay up or wake up to play phase (all throughout the nigt), the really crabby throwing tantrums at bedtime phase (for 1-2 hours straight for my daughter - we had to drive her around some nights as if she was a newborn all over again). Then came the waking every hour for the pacifier phase. It was awful, because I would jump up for every peep and got no sleep. I hope it ends for you soon!


Ditto.

Ours lasted a little over 3 weeks. At first it was waking to eat every 3 hours (despite being on a 4 hour schedule during the day and having been STTN since 9 weeks). Then after about a week and a half it was up to play - I stopped giving them bottles and they weren't starving even when they woke up at 7am. Then the next week or so it was up to throw a tantrum. That's when we started the 5 min wait to go get them phase. And after 5 min if they were still crying I went in patted them on the back and talked to them for a couple of minutes (but never picked them up) and then out for 10 minutes. Later, rinse, repeat. It generally never took me going back into the room more than once or twice. It was hard to listen to them throw a fit and not go in and get them, but it was the only way to get back to sleep. We tried rocking - they would just wake up the second we put them down or 10 minutes later when they realized they were in their crib and not still rocking. We also tried putting them in the swing for the rest of the night. Then voila one night one of them went back to STTN - even through his brothers' temper tantrums. And a few days later so did the other.

For the next couple of weeks one or the other would still wake up once or twice a week between 3-5am, but typically went back to sleep before my stopwatch ever hit 5 minutes. Then one day it just stopped all together. Knock on wood. I am so not looking forward to the next one at 8months.... Let's hope we just skip that one all together!

 

do they sleep in the same room? im sooo afraid ds crying will wake up dd. she gets so upset when she hears him cry. maybe ill stick 1 crib in the office for a lil while.

 

Oh gwad... please help us! DD's are five months, 3 1/2 adjusted and have started their sleep regression. They used to love to be swaddled.... now a thing of the past as they fight and fight to free themselves and then they're all worked up so they cry or play. Can anyone tell me when they stopped swaddling? Was it because the babies were able to break free? so i tried no swaddle and they just played in their crib for over an hour. I've tried the paci and... Basically everything I've tried is not working with any consistency. I am so tired. I can comfort them to sleep by cradling them and walking all over the house but they'll only stay asleep longer than ten minutes if they are just exhausted! Plus, I want them to be able to self soothe and not rely on me rocking/comforting them to sleep every night. One of them will still fall asleep swaddled if I make it SUPER hard to get out of (probably because she's quite a bit smaller and so not as strong). She basically gives up the fight and falls asleep. They have never STTN yet so l that part hasn't changed. They are still getting up once per night for a feeding. I'm reading HSHHC and have we were having such success w/napping. This is like having newborns again!

I know it will pass.... just so so tired. can hardly stand it. frustrated. DH is exhausted and frustrated too... n I needed to vent.

 

:hug: I'm so sorry that they are still going through this. I think that if you are opposed to CIO then time is the only answer. I have read that if you feed them before you go to bed then that may save you a couple of hours. I wish I had more help for you, we only had to CIO once and they have been fine ever since. They have only gotten up once a night for a few nights because of an early bedtime or not enough naps. GL! :hug:

 

I read the book "Healthy sleep habits happy child"HSHHC (quite a few people on here have read it) and it helped me sooooooo much. It is worth finding the time to read it. I'm sure every library has one, but you will want your own copy since it covers until about teenage years !!

 

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:hug: I'm so sorry that they are still going through this. I think that if you are opposed to CIO then time is the only answer. I have read that if you feed them before you go to bed then that may save you a couple of hours. I wish I had more help for you, we only had to CIO once and they have been fine ever since. They have only gotten up once a night for a few nights because of an early bedtime or not enough naps. GL! :hug:


There's actually quite a bit you can try short of CIO (Which even Ferber does not reccommend until 6 mo so I'm not sure why it's the solution here).

The No Cry Sleep Solution is a good read for suggestions.

We've been trying to rock back to sleep & offer the paci except for the 1-2 am feeding, which I can tell they still need (hungry cry). And it's been working well. The past 2 nights neither woke at 3-4 am & they slept to their previously normal 6ish.

My twins are 4 mo & 1 wk, BTW, & are EBF.