When do you plan to stop working?

Discussion in 'Pregnancy Help' started by garden2009, Sep 10, 2009.

  1. garden2009

    garden2009 Well-Known Member

    Hi everyone. I know this question has been asked before on this forum but I am curious to hear from those of you that have office jobs. My ob told me yesterday that he takes all of his twin pregnancy moms off of work by 30 weeks. I have an office job and just feel like it isn't justifiable to do that assuming all stays as "normal" as it has so far. My ob laughed when I said that and he said "by 30 weeks, you'll be begging me to take you off work". Of course, I am more than happy to stop coming to work at 30 weeks (my STD will still allow me full pay) but then I will feel guilty about sending my 3 year old to day care if I am not working and I know that spending the day with him is a lot harder on my body than a day at work is now. Torn on what to do... although I know I may not have a choice in the end. Things can change so quickly it seems with a twin pg!

    Just curious what your plans or experiences were...
    Thanks ladies!
     
  2. Robynsegg

    Robynsegg Well-Known Member

    I'm leaving my office job at 30 weeks! I made this decision on my own and when I brought it up with my OB she said taht was perfectly fine.
     
  3. leahkatebrown

    leahkatebrown Well-Known Member

    I was really lucky in that the decision was made for me- due to the whole economy thing my job was eliminated around 22 weeks or so. I can say that it's been a lifesaver, there is no way I would have been able to keep working past like 29 weeks or so.
     
  4. ohd1974

    ohd1974 Well-Known Member

    I am stopping the end of September which would be 32 weeks for me. I want a month to try and sleep as much as I can-hahaha. Hopefully my 3 year old will co-operate with this plan.
     
  5. jromkey

    jromkey Well-Known Member

    I also have an office job and my doctor told me to leave work between 24-28 weeks. I left at around 26.5 weeks and was on bedrest for PTL and a shortened cervix by 28 weeks. So in hindsight I probably should have left work earlier and taken it easy. I was having quite a lot of pelvic pressure by the end of work which was likely a sign I was overdoing it. However, I am still hanging in there at almost 35 weeks and hope to make it for another two weeks.

    Everyone is different so listen to your body and make sure you get plenty of rest!
     
  6. christy.fisher

    christy.fisher Well-Known Member

    I have no idea myself. One of my doctors told me that bed rest was a possibility and that was all he said. None of them have said anything to me about not working after a certain point.

    I just figure that if I don't get put on bed rest, which would be a good thing really as much as I want to stop working :), I'll just go along until I feel too uncomfortable to keep going to work everyday.

    But sitting all day does make my tail bone hurt something awful, thus my visits to the chiropractor now.
     
  7. lorileahb

    lorileahb Well-Known Member

    I have a desk job and planned to stop at 35 weeks. Sitting was miserably uncomfortable at 33 weeks, and my doctor happily wrote me out of work at 34 weeks. Laying on the couch was really the only somewhat comfortable spot at that point.
     
  8. kmay

    kmay Well-Known Member

    I'm not sure yet. I'm hoping I can work from home when the time comes.

    Re: sending your son to daycare and the guilt, try not to feel guilty. I plan on sending my DD to daycare when I go on leave and when the babies come to keep her routine as normal as possible. IMO, the less change for the little ones, the better and you will need rest and relaxation because after our babies come, I'm sure we will have moments we wish for it. :)
     
  9. rrodman

    rrodman Well-Known Member

    I don't like arbitrary work cutoffs. I worked until 35 weeks with no problems whatsoever in an office job. I was then home from 35 to 37 1/2 when I delivered. With no problems, there is no reason you should automatically stop working at 30 weeks.
     
  10. hhc

    hhc Well-Known Member

    My OB said I can keep working as long as everything looks good. I want to work for as long as possible so I don't cut into my FMLA/maternity leave time after the babies are born.
     
  11. TwinLove

    TwinLove Well-Known Member

    I was put on part time at 30 weeks and off of work at 32 weeks. At first I thought it was silly since things were going okay but it was the best decision made. :good: The last few weeks for me I got more and more tired and bigger. I think you should take and don't feel guilty for sending your child to daycare (I know it's easier said then done) but you do need to rest up and keep those babies cooking. Good luck with your decision!!
     
  12. Tamaralynn

    Tamaralynn Well-Known Member

    I was planning on working until 27 weeks, but PTL kicked in at 24 weeks, so I am off on bedrest.
     
  13. ljmcisaac

    ljmcisaac Well-Known Member

    I have a friend (only 1 baby) who went to 3 days per week at 36 wks, then off at 39 wks, then got induced at 9 days overdue...

    It's different for everyone, but please don't be a hero, if you feel tired, or something doesn't feel quite right, take the day off, and be prepared to stop work when your doctor advises you to.

    Personally, thank god I carpool with my DH most days, because driving really makes my hip hurt.
     
  14. kingeomer

    kingeomer Well-Known Member TS Moderator

    I had an office job and my OB's office said as long as I had no significant problems, I could work until 36 weeks and I was able to do so. Good luck with your decision!
     
  15. Rach1137

    Rach1137 Well-Known Member

    I started working 1/2 days at 26 weeks. It was nice becasue I could sleep in later in the mornings and I scheduled al my appointments in the morning so I wasn't missing even more work. I stopped working at 30 weeks. I was not put on bedrest, but I spent a lot of time relaxing in a lazy boy recliner. The last 2 weeks of my pregnancy were by far the worst and I'm glad I was able to spend those days at home. I was able to get just about everythign ready for the babies. Even though my job was in an office at a desk everyday, it did get to be too much for me by that point. I know a lot of women who worked further than that, but for me it was the best choice. Early in my pregnancy I wouldn't have guessed that I would be off work as early as I was since everything was going so smooth at that point. Looking back I really think the last few weeks would have been much more difficult and uncomfortble if I had been working.
     
  16. mommylaura

    mommylaura Well-Known Member

    I'm only 20 weeks, but I stopped scheduling patients for 32 weeks, and stopped scheduling meetings for 36 weeks. I'm hoping to work until 36 weeks. Who knows - maybe I am delusional. With my singlton I worked until 40 weeks (not comfortably, but I did it).
     
  17. faerieprncs

    faerieprncs Well-Known Member

    I had planned on stopping my desk/office job at 30 weeks. For me, my back just KILLED me having to sit up straight in a desk chair for that many hours and my feet started swelling because of it too. Just physically, it was hard to not be able to lay down for basically 10 hours. I ended up getting written out at 28 weeks though, but that was because my DS was having heart surgery and my OB wanted me to take it easy and be as "stress free" as possible before the surgery.

    All that to say, that if you aren't feeling 100% dont' feel bad about asking to go out earlier than a singleton pregnancy. Some twin mamas say they were able to work right up to the end, and that is fabulous, but not everyone is the same, and frankly, you only get ONE CHANCE to cook these babies...there's no reason to be in pain (if you are from sitting). (Oh, and yes I tried chair back supports and the little foot stool thing but none of it helped much.)

    Good luck!
     
  18. AmynTony

    AmynTony Well-Known Member

    my peri told me he was taking me out of work and putting me on full bedrest at 24 weeks - as he does all his multiple moms complications or not....I laughed at him and told him if there were no complications I'd be working till I popped as going out of work at 24 weeks would only allow me 6 weeks off postpartum...my endocrinologist fully supported me (I'm a diabetic) and felt that laying around would do nothing but raise my blood sugar...I worked until 35w3d when the pre-e symptoms had my doc take me out of work...I delivered at 36w...and got my full 12 weeks off...peri was amazed I worked that long!
     
  19. genagoodrow

    genagoodrow Well-Known Member

    Granted things are different for everybody, but arbitrary cut off dates are wrong and NOT BACKED BY EVIDENCE. Neither my OB or Peri ever suggested I go on bed rest. I have an office job (but no paid leave.) The health of my babies was most important to me, and if I had any indication that I needed to stop work I would have. I seriously limited non-work activities after 30 weeks, but I felt fine and worked until 38w5d, delivered at 39w on the dot.

    Honestly, the hardest thing for me was a longish commute. Work was fine, although I wasn't especially productive. :blush:

    Bed rest is right for some ladies, and twin pregnancies are not to be taken lightly. But, bed rest comes with its own hardships, and is terrible on a lot of women psychologically. If you feel good, consider saving your time off for after the babes come. Get a second opinion.
     
  20. bkpjlp

    bkpjlp Well-Known Member

    My OB never said a word about not working, but he was more of a "listen to your body" person. With that said, I had no complications and worked until 37w 2d when I couldn't fit my feet in any shoes.
     
  21. Melanie+3

    Melanie+3 New Member

    I am 27 weeks, 6 days and have just started feeling very tired working full-time. I have short-term disability, so I plan to work until 32 weeks unless I feel that it is too much. With that being said, I have a semi-desk job. I am a school psychologist and I am responsible for 6 schools. I commute over 30 miles one-way to work and then travel in my car at times during the day. I also have to lug heavy materials with me to different schools. So, my body is starting to really rebel at my current schedule. I must nap after work every night and DH is having to take on the cooking and the dishes. My pregnancy is going well. All scans look great, cervical length is great, and there are no medical issues right now that my peri can use to pull me from work. He is all about listening to your body unless something comes up on a scan or with my BP to cause concern. However, he told me I would be begging him to leave work at 28 weeks and he wasn't wrong. I am going to push through the fatigue as much as possible and see how long I make it.
     
  22. garden2009

    garden2009 Well-Known Member

    That is exactly what I am thinking and planning to do now! But yes, it is getting harder and harder every single day. Also, keeping up with daily life (grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, etc.) is hard to do when you are so exhausted after a full day of working. Would be nice to have a reduced schedule so I could stop going on super drive mode!
     
  23. Melanie+3

    Melanie+3 New Member

    I ended up staying home from work yesterday because I was so tired and could not imagine commuting to work. My boss told me that I looked exhausted today. :( So, I must have looked pretty bad. I plan to talk to my doctor about part-time commuting at my next appt. As long as my boss is okay with it, I will start coming in only a few times a week next week or the week after, and then writing reports at home the other days. This way, I can take care of myself and still work full-time, if that makes sense.
     
  24. jpgeyer

    jpgeyer Well-Known Member

    In terms of when to stay home from work, I can't comment. HOWEVER, don't feel badly about sending your child to daycare. Like a previous poster said, "they need that stability of their routine." I am just shy of 27 weeks and am a SAHM of a 2 year old and it is *extremely* difficult to keep up with him, by his naptime, on the days when he doesn't go to preschool in the mornings, I am ready to pass out. I think it would be a lot more taxing on your body to entertain and run around after a 3 year old than being at your work, plus your child would probably be bored at home since he's used to being at daycare. GOOD LUCK!
     
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