When did you tell people?

Hi,

I'm 11 weeks preg tomorrow (twins), and we told everyone pretty much right off the bat about being pregnant (found out at 5 weeks) and about it being twins (found out at 9 weeks). I totally understand the reasons people wouldn't tell until after the first trimester, but I am just the world's worst secret-keeper -- plus we were too excited NOT to tell people the good news!

We still haven't told our work people yet (though I'm not sure people don't guess it, what with me eating and peeing constantly and always shutting my door so I can make phone calls!). I plan on telling after my appt. next week, provided all goes well.

Just curious when most of you told people? Did you tell just family first and then friends later? What about work?

- e.

 

We were going through IF treatments, so we told family the night we found out we were finally pg. Then everyone knew I had an u/s to see "how many" at 7wks, so of coarse we called everyone when we were done with the u/s. So right away!!

April

 

I think that when to tell is definately an indiviual decision. I waited to tell people that we were even pregnant until 12 weeks... I would have waited longer, but my mother-in-law was questioning my husband and then we found out it was twins at my 12 week appointment... I figured people were going to be able to tell!

 

We found out I was pregnant when I as only 4 weeks, and we were going to try to wait until after the first trimester to tell anyone. That lasted about 1 hour, I just had to call my best friend and share my good news! The next day we told our families, but I didn't want to tell anyone from work since I had just started a new job. I returned to work after my 7 week u/s - when we found out it was twins - and was so overwhelmed I couldn't keep it a secret! I showed everyone the pictures and then went home for 2 days because I was just so overwhelmed with emotion and crying all the time.

 

We waited until we were around 8 weeks to tell family. They didn't even know we were trying, we just bought a house, and I had just started a new job. In fact, I told my new boss, before she hired me, that I was pregnant. She was the first person I ever told. So people at work knew from the beginning that I was pregnant.

At 9 weeks, we found out it was twins, and we only told our parents. We waited until 12 weeks to tell the rest of our family and close friends. It wasn't until we were way further along that we announced to our coworkers that we were expecting twins (I found out what I was having at 14 weeks, and I knew I waited some time after that before telling people we were having TWO babies).

I just wasn't in a hurry to tell people at work. Since they all found out I was pregnant from my boss, I wanted to keep the secret of twins much longer and reveal it MYSELF!

 

I told immediate family the moment I found out I was pg and then when twins were confirmed at 7 weeks, we told everyone we knew. It's been so much fun telling people! Congratulations on your twins!

 

We told early too. I was six weeks pregnant (I think), it was Christmas and I wanted to tell the family in person. I framed an early ultrasound and gave it to my mom. We knew it was twins right away since we were doing infertility.

What's funny is, my mom only kinda knew we were trying and my older sister was due to have twins in March, and my mom thought, "wow that's weird, why is Marie giving me a picture of Beth's ultrasound?" Until she saw my face...

 

We told family around 6-8 weeks. But didn't tell anyone at work, I was working part-time then, until around 12 weeks. I was already showing by then since it was my second pregnancy so people had noticed I was putting on some weight.

 

Interesting! I always heard about people waiting to tell, but it seems like people can't wait to spill the beans!! I just figure it's such good news, why not share it?

The funniest thing is that the majority of our friends' reactions had some type of swear word in it -- not like they were swearing at us, just as an exclamation (like "Holy *#(!" and "Shut the #$* up!"). I was like, "OK, what is it about twins that makes people swear at us?!" Ha ha

 

I told a few DEAREST friends right away. Found out it was twins at 7w; told my mom and other family from 7-9weeks (it was around Christmas so I told people when I saw them). Told other friends and acquaintences around 11w (second u/s) and told work at 15w (3rd u/s).

 

A few select immediate family (mom & sister) and a couple friends knew right away we were pg (also fertility - so they knew we were waiting for results). Then probably around 8 weeks we told more immediate family and a few more friends. We waited until 12 weeks to tell the rest of the extended family and friends. I didn't tell work until almost 20 weeks - I'm sure they all thought I was getting really fat.

 

We told people pretty much right after we found out at about 7 weeks. I never understood the wait 12 weeks thing...I figure that if something happened to the pregnancy, I would be so upset that I would not be able to hide it. So people would find out and then I'd have to tell them I was pregnant and I lost it all at once. I would want the support of my friends and family at that time and would not want to hide my grief.

Anyway, I was far too excited to keep it a secret. I wanted to share my excitement and also be able to complain about my growing list of symptoms. I was in maternity clothes by 9 weeks and everyone said they suspected because I was gaining so much weight so fast.

 

I had a m/c at 8 weeks with my first pregnancy and was really glad I hadn't told anyone -- so I was determined when I got pg again not to tell until like 16 weeks -- but I wasn't counting on twins!

We told our families and close friends at 6 weeks -- they knew we had done IVF, but were still kindly refraining from asking us whether it had worked or not (I LOVE THEM!) until we were ready to share.

I told my coworkers (and the rest of the world) at 10 weeks because it was becoming obvious and I didn't want them to be speculating behind my back. Also, by then we had seen the heartbeats a couple of times and I felt safer. But I didn't tell them it was twins (just in case...) until 14 weeks, when someone flat out asked if if I had "more than one in there!"

 

We started to tell as soon as we left the ultrasound
I was just under 8 weeks

 

We told people when we were sure that we were preg. at about 6 weeks. after that we didnt find out that it was twins until 18 weeks.. So that news came fast because people already knew we were preg.

 

I didn't make it out of the OB office before I was on my phone calling people. I had to have a reason NOT to drive, I was shaking so bad. So, I sat in the lobby and called EVERYONE until I settled down :lol

 

I guess we are really not typical. As soon as we found out that we were pregnant we told our parents, family and close friends...when we found out we were having twins we told our parents and one or two friends and that is how we left it. There are very few people that know we are having twins. My DH wants to keep it as a surprise. It's closer then we think.

 

We first found out that we were pregnant by 5 weeks...We decided to keep it a secret for awhile...some family tends to get over excited and stresses me. (we had 2 previous M/C so we were being cautious) At about 9 weeks we told our parents but swore them to secrecy due to our past...at 11 1/2 weeks we ended up telling a few more people to due an emergency surgery...then at 13 weeks we told everyone else....we really wanted to get past the first trimester...I think it was nice just enjoying my DH and i knowing for the first little bit!!!

 

I waited until after my first appointment and we heard the heartbeat to tell anyone, I was 12 weeks. We found out there were two at 19 weeks so it was fun to tell everyone twice. My mom was especially happy when I told her because she was really beginning to worry about me. She lives next door and could just tell something was up with my health, she was soo thankful it was pregnancy and not some kind of illness.

 

Wow, I can't believe I am one of the few people who waited to tell! We knew I was pregnant at around 4 weeks, and twins at 12 weeks - but we waited until the 12th week to tell anyone. I hear stories about how many people have complications and I didn't want to go through the ups and downs just incase. Plus, not everyone was going to be happy about our happy news - so I wanted to make sure that everything was ok before I spilled the beans!

 

When we found out we were pregnant, it was unplanned. I told my mom the next day, but we didn't tell anyone else for four days. When we found out we were having twins, we were on the phone as soon as we got reception outside of the dr's office!

 

we usually tell people right away too... I can't stand keeping a secret. This time we waited though. I had a pretty big bleed at 5 weeks and 7 weeks and 11 weeks... I had to tell my mom at 5 weeks b/c I needed her in a hurry to get to my doctor (needed her to watch the kids-that is.) We waited for the rest of the family until around 9 weeks I think... until we had a second u/s confirming a healthy baby- especially after that second bleed... I waited to tell friends and the rest of the world until 13 weeks... at that point I'd already had 8 u/s b/c of all the bleeding. I really kind of wanted to wait until the subchorionic hemorrage cleared...but I figured by that time I would have been showing already and people would have figured it out. We also waited for family out of respect for dh's cousin and his wife who had just lost, very early on, IVF twins... so even without the bleed we would have waited a month longer than we usually wait to tell people, just to give them some time to heal before we pounce on them saying "hey guess what we're having #4.." And I didn't want to keep it a secret from just them... I thought that would be even more hurtful.

 

We found out pregnant at 7 weeks. Told everyone. We found out it was twins at 10 weeks but only told our parents and siblings. Then at 12 weeks after the vanishing twin thing was not a problem anymore we told everyone.

 

LOL we couldent keep our mouths shut :lol: we told everone at 5 weeks when we found out we were preggos and than again at 8 weeks when we found out that there were two!!!!!!

 

We waited quite a while to tell anyone. We had just relocated and know no one so it was quite easy to keep the secret.

My parents came to visit the first week of May when I was about 10 weeks and I really wanted my mom to be the first to know. She just loves being the first to know anything! So since it was the first time they came to visit we had to give them a tour of the house. When we got to the "nursery" which is just an empty room at the moment, I said "This is the room we're going to work on next. It's going to be the nursery.". It took her about 3 seconds to figure out that I was pregnant. They completely freaked out. I think they were worried that we'd never have kids and she's been dying for more grandchildren.

Then, I said something like "But we're worried that this room isn't big enough." And my dad said "sure it is, blah blah blah". And I said "yeah, for ONE baby". That took a bit longer to sink in. Then they were like "TWINS?????". They were so excited. It was so cute.

So we told the rest of the close family (in-laws, brothers, sisters,) but no one else til we were about 14 weeks. I was pretty freaked out about vanishing twin syndrome! It was so fun to tell everyone.

 

I also waited after having a previous m/c. I didn't want to get anyone in our family to get too excited since they would be over the moon happy and didn't want to have to break any bad news to them. I knew very early and waited till 11 wks to tell family, and have only told 1 or 2 friends since then. Now 16 wks still haven't told other friends or work. The longer you wait to tell the easier waiting a few more weeks gets, IMO.

 

QUOTE(mar66rus2 @ Jun 12 2007, 03:44 PM) [snapback]289559[/snapback]
We were going through IF treatments, so we told family the night we found out we were finally pg. Then everyone knew I had an u/s to see "how many" at 7wks, so of coarse we called everyone when we were done with the u/s. So right away!!



Actually, same here!! Everyone knew about the procedure, and knew I had a higher chance of 2...

As for this pregnancy, I told everyone, since I was in a state of shock!

 

My mom and mother in law knew we were trying so they found out the same day we did that I was preg. I was about 4 weeks along. My dad and sisters found out a little later. My brother found out through my mom. I'm a stay at home mom so my husband was very willing to tell his work when we knew since he also has to ask for time off for the check ups and such. We found out for sure (I had a feeling about it) that I was having twins last week at 8 weeks along. Most of the family members who knew also got told it was twins since the rough pregnancies run in the family and most people know to wait until later to be really excited. Some friends are just now finding out that I'm pregnant with twins. I can't really hide it. I had a previous child and am already having to switch to some of the maternity clothes I wore then, so it's going to be very obvious soon. Friends I don't see as often will find out along the way. While I am very excited I also had some problems with the pregnancy and birth of my first child so I'm a lot more cautious this time around.

 

We told everyone about the twin pregnancy within a few days of finding out ourselves. I was probably about 3 weeks at the time. We didn't find the twins until our first u/s at 19 weeks so we phoned everyone as soon as we got out of the hospital since I needed an amnioreduction for TTTS right away.

With Dax, I think we waited a week or two before telling everyone. I don't know why though.