When did you start enjoying your twins...

My b/g twins are 5wks 1day old, and I am finding this routine of breastfeeding, and taking care of the twins to be exhausting, montonous and overwhelming - I do have help, my dh is home for a few more weeks to help out, but so far I am not enjoying any part of this.

Please tell me when it gets better....

 

I would say that I started to really enjoy mine a few weeks ago. They are now 3 1/2 months adjusted so somewhere around 3 months. My colicky baby stopped being colicky and they started smiling and cooing. They are getting really fun now. Also, they sleep pretty well at night now...they each just get up once.

I will caution you though...even though it is MUCH better than it was...they are still TONS of work and I am EXHAUSTED at the end of each day. They need WAY more interaction now and I find it very hard to play with them at 4pm when I'm so worn out.

But...believe me - It WILL get better!

 

I've always enjoyed them, but it's that first smile you get is when I was really grateful for them. Now that smile makes the worse days into good ones.

 

Each day it got better, each month I enjoyed it more, but for me personally I didn't enjoy it until 6 months, but I had bad ppd.
I was lucky that each really bad day was followed by a good one, so that helped me do the "routine" (bf, change diapers, bf change diapers, on and on) daily.

 

Things got a whole lot easier at 3 months, and around 4 months I really started to enjoy them. And each week/month it just gets better and better. Hang in there, you are at a really tough spot, it gets SOOOOOO much better.

 

I may not be the norm but I really didnt start "enjoying" my babies until they started crawling, cruising and interacting more at about 9-10 months. It's not that I dont treasure the baby stage, but once they get mobile thats the stage I love.

 

It was definitely after 6 months for me.

 

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I am finding this routine of breastfeeding, and taking care of the twins to be exhausting, montonous and overwhelming


Oh, yeah, I've been there too. :hug99: Newborns are not fun. I did not like that stage AT ALL.

It definitely got better with the first smiles (~1 mo adjusted age). And like pps said, it just gradually gets better over time. The babies get less fussy, they start doing all kinds of cool things, they get much faster at nursing, they show their love for you, they start sleeping better... I don't think there was any magical turning point, but every month is a little better than the last.

 

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I may not be the norm but I really didnt start "enjoying" my babies until they started crawling, cruising and interacting more at about 9-10 months. It's not that I dont treasure the baby stage, but once they get mobile thats the stage I love.


Exactly this for me! Things got better for us at 6 months, but when they started crawling/cruising that's when I started really enjoying things.

:hug99:

 

I think I really started enjoying them about a week before I went back to work (which made going back to work so much fun )... so at almost 12 weeks. I know what you mean about the monotony- someone here once described it like you're running a production line- feed, burp, change, rock to sleep, feed, burp, change, rock to sleep. Not to mention all the other things you have to do outside of caring for 2 newborns- like maybe caring for another child or trying to keep up with your house or have a conversation with your spouse or trying to pee or shower... Once they start smiling at you- it really makes it all worthwhile.... Hang in there- it will definitely get easier!!

 

still waiting!!...

dont get me wrong we have our good days/moments too but we have equally if not more 'rough' days, so once the good outweighs the rough

 

For me everything got better when I got sleep which like many was the three month adjusted mark - prior to this I dreaded the nights and only just survived the days! it really is the hardest thing Ive ever done. Everyone used to say "it will get better" and I was nearly counting the weeks... and am amazed they were right.
Hang in there and read lots of TS for everyone else is or has been there too!

 

:hug99: You are at a challenging stage. Those first 3 months were ROUGH! For us it has just started getting more enjoyable. At three months it got a little easier, and now at four months, it is easier AND more fun ! They can smile and laugh and interact. Each week gets even better. Hang in there... there will be days that feel like they will never end and yet time goes by so fast. It is the strangest paradox :huh:!

 

I always loved them, of course. I always thought they were the cutest things on the planet. I lived for their smiles and when they would cuddle without crying. I didn't ENJOY them until about 6 months. They are almost 8 months now and the light of my life. We can get them rollicking in laughter and I swear I LIVE to hear that! They are on 3 meals of solids so only nurse 3-4 times a day and once at night. They don't fuss all the gosh darned time and when they do they are easy to console (unless overtired).

You will get there. It will go by in a flash ... I almost (ALMOST) miss when they were teeny and would fall asleep in my arms (albeit ONLY in my arms ... LOL).

 

It got a little more "enjoyable" every month, but I really couldn't say that I loved, loved, loved having twins until after 6 months. They finally started sleeping great at night and during the day and I guess that really made a big difference. And then at 9 months I remember thinking that it was finally FUN having two. They are really a blast now and I'm loving every minute of it.

 

6 months minimum...but every month since has gotten better and better. Now it's a true joy, but the first 6 months were all about maintenance....

Reyna

 

It took me till 6 months were I really started enjoying being with them. And it gets better every day now

I remember feeling gulity in the beginning because I was like is this it...change a diaper, nurse, cry, all over again and again....plus I had been on bedrest for 3 1/2 months before...ugh

Just hang in there! :love0028:

 

around 3 months i really started to enjoy them. and now even more so. you start to enjoy them more and more each week because they are learning new things, and making new soudns, and you can make them laugh... it will get better!

 

I've always enjoyed things about them, but life with them has really been a blast since about 6.5-7 months for us. We had a fun spell from 3-4 months, but then from 4-6 months was REALLY hard for me. SO much fussing. Hang in there though... the first 3 months are by far the toughest!

 

Last week.

Only kidding, but yes, I totally remember (still) where you are at. It gets better and better as their personalities emerge. But yes, it is tough.

 

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My b/g twins are 5wks 1day old, and I am finding this routine of breastfeeding, and taking care of the twins to be exhausting, montonous and overwhelming - I do have help, my dh is home for a few more weeks to help out, but so far I am not enjoying any part of this.

Please tell me when it gets better....


I really began enjoying my girls once they started to smile. That happened at aroun 3 months. That's also when the laughter start and their personalities because to come out. Granted, I still want sleep and get annoyed by the interruptions at night and endless tasks. But now you get rewards with giggles and smiles while you do things for them.

Hang in there.

 

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Things got a whole lot easier at 3 months, and around 4 months I really started to enjoy them.


Ditto.

Hang in there... :hug99:

 

Things got easier at 3 and 6 months, but for me, things got fun around 7/8 months. Mine finally started STTN at 8 months and my very very independant and frustrated Lily was finally able to pull up to standing and cruise around. Becoming more independant made my babies soooo very very very happy and their dispositions changed as a result.

Amy

 

I agree with most ladies on here. My boys are 6 months now, and it is just starting to get fun. The first 5 months I found very challenging...

 

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My b/g twins are 5wks 1day old, and I am finding this routine of breastfeeding, and taking care of the twins to be exhausting, montonous and overwhelming - I do have help, my dh is home for a few more weeks to help out, but so far I am not enjoying any part of this.

Please tell me when it gets better....



For me, it was about 3-4 months. I was in the same boat as you...why wasn't I enjoying these babies I wanted so badly. Those first 3 months were difficult, but now it is much better and much more fun.

Trust us, it gets better

April

 

Yeah I'd say once they start smiling, laughing, you realize how worth all the work really is!

 

6 months for me too...that is when the all the colic seemed to pass and they finally good sleepers all around. Before then, I loved them to pieces, I just didn't always like them. Now that they are almost 10 months, every day is wonderful with them and it just keeps getting better.

 

I think it was about 4 weeks. Don't get me wrong, it still is hard, but they are cooing, smiling, laughing, and just do silly things to make us giggle.

 

You are in the hardest stage right now.....I honestly did not enjoy the newborn stage with my twins AT ALL. They are almost 3 months now and it is finally starting to get easier. They are on a schedule and are only waking once at night to eat, they smile, coo, and will lay content to look at something for a while. Those first few weeks were horrible for me. I still have bad days but they are not as bad as when they were newborns. Hang in there, it will get better.

 

I was having a melt down today and thought the same thing "when will it get better because I hate this" It is exhausting (I have a 15 mo. old as well who was colicky) but I know it will get better. Sometimes we have to take it min. by min. Best of luck to you!

 

It does! It does! Don't give up yet! You are in the thick of it right now, and it definitely gets better around 4 months, sometimes 3 months for most people! :hug99: We are here for you every time you need to vent. :hug99:

 

I agree with some of the pp. I didnt really "enjoy" my boys until they were moving around on their own. I remember when they started sitting on their own i was SOOO happy because it made them happy and they werent whining so much. Once they started crawling and getting to things on their own they were like different babies. My whining, crying babies turned into happy babies who saw what they wanted and went after it! :icon_biggrin:
I promise you it gets sooooo much easier (and FUNNER too!)

 

The first 5 weeks were pretty much a nightmare for me...I wondered what in the world we had done & why we decided to have kids! I had PPD (started zoloft at around 3-4 weeks pp which helped SO SO much). Once I gained confidence in myself & my capabilities of taking care of the girls on my own the anxiety & doom & gloom went away.
My husband went back to work when the girls were almost a month old & I was scared to death to take care of them on my own, but having to do it & being able to get through the day gave me so much pride in myself.
I got the greatest advice from others on this site that helped me through that dark time & I was so grateful for it!
Now I get excited about each day, even though it is frustrating at times & hectic & a huge change from my old life of just me & DH & our cat I wouldn't change a thing. They are starting to smile & coo & it makes my whole day & makes it all worth it!
Hang in there because it will get better & easier with each day.
~tamara

 

I think it was about 7 months, but mine had colic and thrush and Im a single mommy soooo it took a while before I was even awake enough to enjoy it, now, omg, it is totally and completely the opposite. I love every minute of the day with them! Absolutley love it! :a_smil09: Good luck and Im sure it will get easier soon! It really does fly by

 

I've always "enjoyed" them, especially since we had lost four babies previously. There were some REALLY Looooong and tiring days (and nights), but I tried to focus on those fleeting sweet moments...like when I just held them on my EZ 2 Nurse pillow while they slept. I knew they would wake up if I tried to move them. :winking0009: But I won't hide the fact that there were many days when I just cried a lot, b/c I was so exhausted and had such a difficult time with breastfeeding. I felt like I was just on the couch constantly, trying to get them to nurse well. I felt like I was such a horrible mom to my very demanding 3 yr. old. I still feel guilty for the time I DON'T seem to have for her. But I'd say it really got easier somewhere between 4 and 6 months. By 6 months they were sleeping way better at night and my older daughter started to really enjoy playing with them. By the time you get past 3 then 6 then 8 months, you'll look back and think "That really was such a short time in the beginning when I didn't think I could make it through another day." :hug99: