When did you put in seperate rooms?

Hi
I was just wondering when you seperated there rooms, we have an extra room for one of the boys but I dont know when a good time to do this. I was thinking maybe when there a little older but wondering if itll be harder.. Just wanted to know what everyone else did..

Thanks Misty

 

Mine are not seperated yet, but honestly, I wish I could've done it a long time ago. I don't have an extra room, but I feel it will be very difficult when the time comes for me because they're just so used to each other being right there. I think it would've been easier if they were younger and could get used to being alone at night.

 

QUOTE(twoboys3 @ Jun 26 2007, 07:23 AM) [snapback]307355[/snapback]
Hi
I was just wondering when you seperated there rooms, we have an extra room for one of the boys but I dont know when a good time to do this. I was thinking maybe when there a little older but wondering if itll be harder.. Just wanted to know what everyone else did..

Thanks Misty



My girls will be 4yrs old tomarrow and they share a room together. They also sleep together in the same bed. We have two beds in their room but they insist on sleep on the same twin size bed. I have no intentions of seperating them unless they ask for it. Mine sleep good together and I dont want to mess with that. We do have the room for them to be in seperate rooms but for now them sharing a room(and bed--their choice)works for us. If they get older and want to be in different rooms then we will seperate.

 

My girls are 4 and still love to share their room. It's a comfort thing and it also works well at bedtime for stories and lullabyes. We do have an extra room, but we've turned it into their craft room which is nice to have because it keeps the mess contained. I'll wait until they ask to have their own room. DH and I are already planning an addition on to the house which will become the master bedroom. The rooms are rather small in our house and it doesn't seem cramped now, but I think by the time they become teenagers we'll all be feeling a little crowded.

 

We separated ours at 7 months. Like you we had an extra room so we just did it and it works great for us. All 3 of my kids are in their own rooms. The nice thing is if someone wakes up in the middle of the night or early in the morning no on else wakes up.

 

we did it at about 10 months old. . . best decision we ever made, they slept better starting the very first night.

 

We are keeping our boys in the same room, we did seperate them for about a month because one was sick and would wake the other up, but noticed that they actually sleep way better when they are in the same room.

 

Mine were around 18 months. It was an easy transition for all of us. The kids never looked back...they were so excited to have their own space with their own toys. The best part? We moved all their toys into their rooms so that we could reclaim the living room for ourselves.

 

I had them separated from 8-13 months. I did it initially to sleep train Ainsley, and then was scared to put them back together. We did, and they do great together now. At that time, Bea slept in the playroom downstairs. I really don't have an extra bedroom. I figure we will keep them in the same room until they want to separate.

 

Mine will share a room for a while longer. We only have 3 bedrooms so besides our room, our ODD has her own room and the twins share. There might come a day when Evy can room with Lauren (Lauren is dying to do this but we keep telling her Evy is too young), but that won't be until after the twins are out of their cribs. Right now, we plan to keep them in their cribs until they are at least 3.

 

Mine need each other to go to sleep. We put them in their beds and they start talking and talk for about 15 minutes till they fall asleep. Plus we don't have the room.

 

I didn't want to separate them. My doctor strongly suggested that we should at the 24 month visit. I held out a couple of months longer and they've not looked back!

They both sleep much better and don't fight quite as often. They've never had an issue adjusting, but they've never been as close as I had hoped they would be. But that's okay. They get their own personal space this way (of course, I lost my toy room, sewing room, and laundry room! LOL)

 

Mine will be 5 tomorrow, and share a room. They don't share beds, but will get upset if the other one isn't in bed. I have no plans to separate them, even though we do have the room.

 

Our boys are 4 and in separate rooms but we still go back and forth about what's best for them (and us). We separated them when they made the transition to beds at about 3 and it was an easy transition because we did it after a long trip. On the one hand, they seem to really thrive from the one-on-one time with mom and/or dad when we say good night. Some days it's the only real time they get to have a parent to themselves and we all enjoy that. We have conversations that we wouldn't get to have when both boys are there. It also has seemed important to them to have their own room since they share so much else. They are very proud of it and love to show visitors.

But then I think they would also love to be together. They are extremely close. We have experimented with letting them sleep together on Friday nights and sometimes it's great but mostly they stay up way too late and we all pay for it the next day. I know they'd get into a routine if we really made the switch and that it would get easier. Another factor is my boys still nap or at least have an hour of quiet time after lunch and the down time is important to them (and us!). I'm sure the napping would stop completely if they were in the same room. We plan to get bunk beds in the future (6-7?) and ask them if they want to share a room then. I'm pretty sure they will answer with a resounding YES!

 

QUOTE(twoboys3 @ Jun 26 2007, 07:23 AM) [snapback]307355[/snapback]
Hi
I was just wondering when you seperated there rooms, we have an extra room for one of the boys but I dont know when a good time to do this. I was thinking maybe when there a little older but wondering if itll be harder.. Just wanted to know what everyone else did..

Thanks Misty


I have 30 month old twins and a 38 month old singleton. They all share a room. They will continue to share a room until their oldest brother leaves for college in 3 years -- and then I will split them only if they want to. The singleton will get his own room and then 4 years later when my 2nd oldest leaves for college the twins will have the option of having their own rooms. All of my boys have preferred to sleep in the same room, even if they had their own rooms. I don't think there is a right or wrong time -- whatever works for your boys and your family.

 

Mine share a room and will continue to indefinately. We live in an apt for now, but when we are in house again we will consider separating them as space permits. Honestly, right now, I don't think mine would tolerate it very well. They share a twin bed because they do not want to be separated at bedtime!

 

We split ours up when they were 14 months old. They shared until then b/c we were in an 3 br house, but when we moved here there was room for everyone and Ryan loves to wake up early. He always woke Alec up with him and Alec definitely needs his sleep, otherwise he's as grumpy as you can get. We'll see what they want to do when they're a bit older and ready to redecorate the rooms from more baby-ish themes to little boy themes. Who knows - I could actually get a sewing room out of the deal if they want to share. That'd be nice...

 

I shared a room with my (non-twin) sister until I was 12. Since mine do not wake each other up a night, I have no plans to separate them. I separated my boys when they were 8 and 6? 9 and 7? Something like that, because we were in a tiny house with tiny rooms, and DS1 was being too aggressive with DS2.

 

We have the rooms to separate them but I don't plan to until they want to. Probably around teen age years. I shared a room with my sister and I loved the late night talks and how close we were because of it.

 

We had them in separate rooms when they were 4 years old. I thought it was going to be difficult but the rooms were adjoining each other. The girls loved it.

We moved a couple of years ago into a smaller house and the girls shared a room again. They loved that too. But lately they were fighting alot so I have split them into separate rooms again. They are now 8yrs old. They are enjoying their own space.

 

I wouldn't worry about it. If it is meant to happen, it will happen naturally. I shouldn't be harder as they get older because I doubt you would force them to separate if they didn't want to.

 

My boys turn 6 in a couple of weeks, and they are still in the same room. Heck, they are still in the same bed. They don't want to change that. I am going to let them decide when they want their separate rooms. Good Luck.

 

I don't know if anyone has said this since I didn't get to read all the replies, but do they ever have to be separated? Especially if they aren't asking to be. My sister and I aren't twins, but we shared a room until I left for college. I even still shared a room with her when I came home for holidays and weekends. Even though we may have fought some when we were younger I think that we are closer because of having to share so much. We have memories of time spent together that we would never have otherwise.

I actually wish that I could keep mine together longer than I will be able to. But, I have b/g twins, so...

 

I think when your twins are the same sex you can do it whenever. Mine are b/g so i seperated them last month... When they turned 3.

 

I don't plan to seperate mine unless they want to be. At this point they are doing fine together, and I like it that way.

 

We moved to a house when they were 14 months old and they were able to have their own rooms. It was the BEST thing ever, as our boys had totally different sleep habits and it was hard to put them to bed, with one screaming.

They can still hear each other, as the rooms share a common wall, but we put each crib at the opposite ends of each room.

I would say it depends on what kind of sleepers they are and if they have always slept together in the same crib/bassinett or not. Ours were separated always after about 1 month home from the hospital.

Best of luck to you!