When you you all have to start getting someone else to help you with the house work, laundry and such? I went to the laundry mat tonight since our dryer crapped out on us and I had sooooooo much laundry to do. I toted it all inside by myself and into and out the washers and dryers and then back to my car, breathed long enough to start the car and then had to make my bed so i could sleep. we also had my FIL staying tonight and those extra bed clothes had to be cleaned too. I know that it is pretty inevidable that I will need someone to help me but when do I start asking or telling??? I was soooo exhausted and i can barely sit up right now. I'm fixing to go to bed but thought about this and wanted to post. Lots of love! and totally exhausted! meshell
When you you all have to start getting someone else to help you with the house work, laundry and such? I went to the laundry mat tonight since our dryer crapped out on us and I had sooooooo much laundry to do. I toted it all inside by myself and into and out the washers and dryers and then back to my car, breathed long enough to start the car and then had to make my bed so i could sleep. we also had my FIL staying tonight and those extra bed clothes had to be cleaned too. I know that it is pretty inevidable that I will need someone to help me but when do I start asking or telling??? I was soooo exhausted and i can barely sit up right now. I'm fixing to go to bed but thought about this and wanted to post. Lots of love! and totally exhausted! meshell
I haven't really reached that point as of yet, and I am almost 22 weeks. But I have been slacking, and have found that my husband doesn't mind helping me do atleast 1/2 my work load. Instead of doing the dishes alone, he has been helping me. And when i have to do laundry, he lifts it all, and I will seperate it, throw it in the wash and fold and put it away. I find that my kids want to help me more, but sometimes its too painful to watch and I end up doing what they are trying to do anyways. I do plan on getting a maid in my house once before the babies arrive, just to do the bathrooms and floors. Then just 4 months after the babies arrive we are moving, so that might be when I require more help. If you feel like asking someone to help you once a week, go ahead, if it does help. I know that if I ask my mom or mil, things just don't get done the way I like, so I don't ask. (I am just fussy that way) Juli
My hubby has been helping out since they put me on bed rest 11 weeks ago ---I'll occasionally go downstairs and start a load of laundry but he does all the basket carrying up and down the stairs and we've had to teach the big kids to help out more He also has had to take over all the cooking and cleaning as well - all things considered he's doing an incredible job - this has been a long road for us all
I did everything myself untill the last day (well mostly everything!)But then i didnt have any problems throughout my pregnancy and my partner is pretty good with helping with the housework. x
I was so sick for the first four months that i couldn't do anythng -and certainly food prep or cleanup was out of the question since EVERYthing made me nauseous and vomit..... I'm 28 weeks and stopped carrying laundry weeks ago; the 'deal' i've made is that he'll carry it up and down to the basement and generally I fold it and put most of it away (except for some of his stuff cause I can't figure out his 'system'.) If i'm ok to do stairs i'll change it from washer to dryer and put in another load but i won't carry it - too precarious and not worth the risk to me. I also found in the last few weeks that washing dishes is really problematic -because of my belly i'm far from the sink and it puts an enormous strain on my back. We have cleaning people who come twice/month who do the major stuff - bathrooms, floors, etc.; so at least that's off the table for us. That sounds like WAY too much for you to have been doing - all the carrying etc.. Perhaps you can get a local high school kid or someone to come in and help once or twice a week and pay them less than you might have to for a full blown maid service? I will say that this pregnancy has been exhausting all the way through: even though I felt better after the 4th month, i was still exhausted and needing a nap every day, and now it's just getting worse (sorry to be a bummer). I think you just have to accept it and prioritize the chores and figure that some just aren't going to get done (although laundry is a tough one. But - is there a laundry service near you? even if you drop it off, not to have to do it all, and to have someone else put it in teh car for your and take it out - if you can swing the dollars, i think it's well worth it even if it means cutting somewhere else.
I was right about where you are when it became too hard to carry the laundry up and down the steps. Even sitting there folding it hurt my back. I would just start asking now. Why not? I remember being totally exausted after trying to do housework.
I'm 36 weeks and have had a very heatlhy twin pregnancy up until now. Now I am pretty much having to lay down all the time to control my blood pressure, so we hired someone yesterday! She is just going to do our bathrooms, kitchen, dining room, and breakfast nook. Mopping is way too hard (has been for a few weeks) so DH was helping but he hates it so bad he would rather pay someone to do it. We have a roomba so I don't need a lot of help vacuuming bedrooms and doing the living room. I seriously recommend a roomba! DH said he will do laundry from now on (as in forever) because he is good at it and he knows he is going to have to pitch in.
AT 30 weeks when they put me on bedrest - but I could not carry or lift things like laundry throughout my entire pregnancy.
I stopped doing laundry around 31 weeks. The baskets were way to heavy and my belly was getting to big to fold anything. Sometimes I will throw things in and fold a load but that is it. It's hard to ask for help or have your husband do it all but your body tells you when it has had enough. Hope this helps!
I think around 29 weeks I started having a harder time with household chores. Now I'm almost 32 weeks and my mom insists that she come over and clean my house. Last week I cheated and did it all myself but it was a challenge. We have almost all hardwood floors and mopping is hard on your back. I decided this week and on I'm going to let her do it. She also comes over and cooks a few meals so we have some home cooked meals during the week. This week she is going to come and stay for three days to help out because I'm getting further along. I am grateful to have her help. My DH thinks she should be here every second of the day to watch me. Ha. Guess he's nervous.I would say you need help definately by 30 weeks. Melanie- 31 weeks 4 days with b/g twins
I was determined to stay active during my pg b/c my cousin had been placed on bedrest really early for preterm labor and i wanted a healthy pregnancy. Anyways, all that aside, i did most stuff with help with laundry baskets up and down the stairs some times. I would ask for help and if i didnt get it (DH was kinda a pain...) I would do it myself by dragging them down or up the stairs. I went shopping up until the day I had them and washed my car on a daily basis (In a Bikini! I was the talk of the neighborhood. LOL. I was ready to have them and was hoping that it would help speed them along. I even aske dmy doctor if i could wash his car...) Anyways, if you are having trouble, dont press doing things, ask for help. As long as you feel comfortable doing them, then do them...unless your doctor has told you not to. Good Lucka nd carry them baies as long as you can...
i was pretty nauseous the first trimester, so my DH handled anythng food-related. Now that that's passed, i actually like making dinner every now and then, so I can do that. But that's about it. though i've had some back pain and quite a lot of fatigue, I've still tried to help with the laundry (my DH brings it down to the laundry room, I sort and wash, he takes it back up to our bedroom), but I have to admit even that was very difficult for me to do this past weekend, so i think i'm just about done with it. And I've had a cleaning lady since before I even got pregnant, which is good b/c there's no way i could clean our house feeling like this! I think the best thing to do is to recognize your limitations - if something feels too tiring/difficult, then say so. Don't worry about whether it's the "right" time to ask or not. If your body is feeling strained, then it IS the right time to ask.
I have no idea because no one let me do anything anyway, even when I felt like it. My whole family, including DH's, have all treated me like the Queen of Sheba. Won't even let me carry in a grocery bag holding bread and chips.
I stopped doing anything that required heavy lifting since I found out I was pregnant!! It took us forever to get here, so I decided no chances and DH agreed. Plus all I do is go to work, and sleep when I get home b/c I'm so exhausted. I work evenings, so that pretty much put a stop to cooking. DH has been cleaning the bathrooms, and anything that requires household cleaners. I do wash the dishes and I actually still do laundry but that's b/c we have a laundromat in our building. DH puts the laundry in a shopping cart for me so I can wheel it downstairs. I have no problem once downstairs. When I get back upstairs w/it, I'm usually pretty pooped. DH folds all the clothes for me while I take a well deserved nap!! We're working to convert the office to a bedroom, the other bedroom into a nursery, so my job is to clear out the office. It's been challenging for me, but I'm trying since DH will have to do all the transporting of beds and furniture, and cribs assembly, etc...... Good luck!!! I say get help if you need it. I have no qualms in asking. In fact my best friend is coming over Friday to help me finish the office.
