When can they take themselves to the potty?

my girls are 3yr 4months, and i still have to take them to the bathroom and sit with them. (i'm talking about when at home, not out in public obviously lol) they don't want to be in there alone. when can they start just taking themselves? i have no problem going in to wipe and help them get their pants back up, but can't they just walk themselves in there at this point?

 

I think as long as they can get themselves on and off the toilet independently then you could try encouraging them to go alone. Maybe you could phase yourself out, like instead of sitting in there just stand in the door a few times, then stand in the hall outside the door, etc. I remember my nephew used to want his mom or dad standing in the door when he was first trained. Im not sure how long they did that for. Good Luck!

 

My boys are the same age and they pee by themselves cuz they can stand up but they cannot get ON the potty by themselves for poop and they want me in there for that. (REally nice when I'm morning sick.) Anyway, they can't get their jeans up and down so I help them. I'm grateful they can pee standing up cuz I'd be in there A LOT!

 

If you're sure they can get on & off the potty without help, I'd start telling them that you aren't going to sit in there with them anymore. It can be yet another one of those things where if you tell them about it in advance, it will go down easier. You can also ask them what, specifically, they need help with.

 

I have no idea :gah: :lol: Mine don't mine being in there alone and can get on the potty by themselves but they always ask to go... they won't just go until we say "GO". I do have to still help put their pants on but I am able to walk out of the bathroom and then come back when they yell all done.

 

Our kids are the same age, and my boys go to the bathroom on their own. They are like monkeys climbing onto the toilet. LOL! The only time they ask for help is when they poop. Anthony will usually ask for help getting down because he is just that short. Sometimes he does, other times he doesn't. They usually come out of the bathroom with their pants and underwear around their ankle, or they are dragging it behind them with one foot.

We're working on that. :laughing:

 

We have to get a step stool...both of my kids are leery of the big toilet, so I have to help them up there and help them down...so DD is good about telling me when she has to go and pulling her pants down and up.
DS is not a fan of the big potty yet and still prefers his Elmo potty.

 

probably just takes time, practice and the desire.... my dd doesn't use the step stool anymore and just inches her way up somehow and sits there on the big toilet seat. my ds pees standing up mostly and does that by himself too. he won't poop up on the toilet, but both will go into the bathroom and do it themselves.... the problem is the other issues they get into when they are there....

ds - splashing in the toilet - mainly b/c he saw me washing out poopy underwear from a week of me (inadvertantly) sabotaging their diet... who knew that my mandarin orange reward in the morning for staying dry was making their poops runny! anyway, the other days this week they've gotten to the baby wash and poured it into the bathtub, and then there's just the constant running of water in the sink. but other than that.. good luck with yours getting them to be more independant!

 

I like the idea of phasing yourself out. My dd didn't pt until she was 3.5, so by the time she was 4 she could get herself onto the potty, but she's 4.5 now and just recently started wiping herself. I can finally, finally, let her go all by herself at home and not worry about her