When can I be sure...

I'm pregnant with twins, and I've had some very mild spotting. The doc did an U/S and found a small amount of bleeding in one of the sacs. We did see two heartbeats, and the babies look healthy. But the doc ordered bedrest for me for the next week. She's hoping whatever is causing the bleeding will heal itself. I go in for another U/S Monday to see how things are going.

I know spotting is somewhat common in twin pregnancies. I'm wondering what others' experiences might be...

Mostly, I'm wondering when I can feel sure that I'm going to actually have twins. In other words, is there ever a point in a pregnancy when things get to be more stable? Or will I be feeling like a ticking time bomb until the end???

 

:hug: Good luck on Monday, I hope that the doctor doesn't see anymore bleeding. :hug:
As for when you'll feel more stable, I don't know. I think everyone is different in this. Some never worry, others worry until the babies are born. I was one of the ones :wacko: who worried until the end. :blush: I still wish to this day that I could have enjoyed my pregnancy more and not have dwelled so much on the "what if's". I'm sorry I can't give you an exact answer, I wish I could, and I hope that for you the unstable feeling ends soon. :hug: :hug:

 

I think almost all of us twin Moms, have goals to determine when we can happily tell others "ITS TWINS". We ride on the roller-coaster until that goal is reached. But I dont have an exact answer for you, only you will know what that is.

Im so sorry you are worried/stressed. Youre in our thoughts. I hope all turns out ok. :hug:

 

I had spotting early on too, but I didn't know I was having twins until an ultrasound was ordered and I got a suprise of my life. I honestly thought I had miscarried and that the ultrasound would prove it. They didn't say anything about bleeding in a sac or anything like that so I can't tell you much about that. I was told that spotting is pretty common in pregnancies esp during the begining of a twin pregnancy.

As far as when things get more stable, for me it was when I stopped spotting and after my first trimesterwas over. I did get scared reading a lots of the other ladies posts on here. My mom and dh would calm me down and help me realize that worrying over something that might be is silly. I realized that this very well might be my last pregnancy and that I need to enjoy and cherish this time. I've had a few bumps in the last couple of weeks but I think that staying calm and taking care of myself has really helped.

Goodluck and keep us posted!!

 

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I think almost all of us twin Moms, have goals to determine when we can happily tell others "ITS TWINS". We ride on the roller-coaster until that goal is reached. But I dont have an exact answer for you, only you will know what that is.

Im so sorry you are worried/stressed. Youre in our thoughts. I hope all turns out ok. :hug:


I found out mine were twins at 5 weeks. My dr. told me if I made it past 8 weeks she thought I'd carry to term. I felt pretty "safe" after I passed 12 weeks.

Good luck Monday.

Christy

 

Probably should have added, I had more then one goal... first was 12 weeks, then 18, and finally 20. After 20 weeks I felt like I had little to worry about.

Again good luck! Thinking of you!

 

I hope u get some good news when u go back to the doctor and the bleeding has stopped. I am so sorry u are having to worry.

As far as telling people, at 12 weeks when I had my first ultrasound my doctor saw only one baby. When I had to go back for an ultrasound at 17 weeks due to abnormal blood work results we found out it was due to twins. We also were told the genders then. Dh and I were too excited that we couldn't wait to tell everyone we knew about the twins!

Everyones comfort zone on when to tell people is different. It really depends on how u are feeling. We told our family about being pg at 5 weeks along. Some people are scared about disclosing early and miscarrying. I have always been one to stay positive and blocked that risk out of my mind.

Take care of yourself Momma and try not to worry yourself sick.

 

We told people it was twins when we found out at 7 weeks (yes, I was way too excited!). As far as being worried, I try not to get upset about the "what ifs" unless my doctors are upset (and so far, so good). However, I think we all have our moments when it just seems impossible that this could really happen. Probably once a month I break down with a good cry and proclaim that I'm soooo scared. Then the next day, I am a fearless twin mommy again. Don't let those days get you down...you've got hormone overload with two babies.

Wishing for good news for you. Keep a positive attitude because that's half the battle.

Oh, and I should mention that I've had tons of "possible" problems (ie, spina bifida, cystic fibrosis, pre-e) thrown at me so far and all have proven to be negative. Just be ready and know that your doctors (perinatologists especially) see the abnormal every day and will discuss these possibilities with you like it's normal. Don't let it get to you.

 

I'm still pretty early on, but every time I go to the doctor she tells me "well, I'm concerned about X" or "We really need to keep an eye on Y". And while we're dealing with some pretty serious potential complications in my case (could be early TTTS), I finally hit a point where I crossed the line, and decided that I was going to just ride it out and try to enjoy the fact that I'm part of a small group of people who get two kids at once. We're special!

I can't tell you when the worrying will dissipate a bit, but for me it just happened a week or so ago when we had a "better" ultrasound. Not great, and not out of the woods certainly, but things seemed to be on the upswing and that was enough for me to say "screw it, I'm going to let myself get excited!"

Twins are higher risk than singletons. There's no getting around that, but in most cases there is nothing that you can do other than take care of yourself, get good prenatal care, eat right, and think positively.

Good luck with your next u/s - I'm not in the medical profession but the blood could maybe be subchorionic hematoma? It is common and may take a couple weeks to go away.

 

I am very afraid of loseing one or more. I lost one in my last twin pregnancy, and this time I lost one of my triplets. My specialist told me that 16 weeks was sort of the magic number to him. If you make it 16 weeks with 2 then you will carry on as a twin pregnancy. However there is never really a stage where you can relax completely because complications can arise. So I told people all along what I was carrying, I figured I needed to just enjoy what I had while I had it because I could lose it all.

 

I had spotting early on in my pregnancy and it lasted on and off for about a week and a half. I went for 3 early u/s and on the third one we found out it was twins! We were so shocked, no history of twins, I wasn't on any fertility treatments. That was about 7 weeks...we were excited we couldn't help ourselves. Not to mention my mom knew I was pregnant the whole time and it was killing her not to say anything, we couldn't make her sit on twins Anyway, I had some more bleeding at week 12, that was a little over 2 weeks ago. Naturally I panicked, but everything was fine. I think with this not only being my 1st pregnancy and twins to top it off, I'm more nervous. No one in my family has had twins so there isn't anyone I can relate to because my pregnancy is different. However, I am trying to be as positive as possible because I figured it can't help to sit around and play the what if game. I'll just freak myself out and drive my husband crazy I like both my regular OB and my peri and feel comfortable calling if I have a concern. Besides, these ladies have been wonderful with support and advice, I'm glad I found this message board! I figure I want these babies to have the best chance and be as healthy as possible, so if I am concerned or nervous until I can get things check out or get an answer, I have every right to be...what mom doesn't?

 

I bled off and on through my whole first trimester, which was stressful b/c I've had many m/c's, so it was hard to just accept the bleeding as normal (and sometimes it was red, not just brown)... once I hit 13 weeks we had another u/s and both babies were still there, so I felt a lot better. Then I started worrying about PTL! I remember the big sign of relief around 32 weeks, like I just knew they were going to be ok at that point. Now here I am at 37 1/2 weeks wishing they'd come out already!! I'm a worrier by nature, so I can honestly say I was stressed out throughout the entire pregnancy for different reasons! I hope you can enjoy your pregnancy -- congrats!
jen

 

I think 12 weeks is a safe bet. I know that a lot of doctors give the "vanishing twin talk" before 10 weeks. But my cousin lost 1 of her twins at 5 months and the other carried to term..

 

Hi,

I was a nervous wreck for the first trimester since I too was spotting on a monthly basis. I found out I was pregnant extremely early, only about 3 weeks in, so spotting for the first few months was really scary. I also had a few internal ultrasounds to rule out ectopic pregnancy and spotting about a week after usually followed. Once we determined the gestational sac was in the right place, it eased our worries a bit. But, that's when we also noticed there were two sacs which is a whole different ball game

I'm a first-timer just over 37 weeks and waiting for the girls to arrive any day now! Still working full time too. Anything's possible

Try not to stress too much about the spotting since it's very common in pregnancy for some women. My mom always tried to comfort me by saying if things didn't work out with the pregnancy, it was nature's way of saying the babies weren't developing normally.

I wish you the best of luck on your twin pregnancy journey!

Best,
Lisa

 

I had a cystectomy when I was 5 weeks along, so we set a goal of about 12-14weeks as 'safe' before we started telling people we're having twins. Culturally, we also believe that its a taboo to tell before the first trimester is over..but that's just us! :lol:

Congrats on your twins and welcome to TS!!