I was at the park today with my sister and all the kids. There was this poor woman there trying to get her daughter off the playground so they could leave. The little girl (maby around 10yrs old) was just running from her and screaming NO I'M NOT GOING!!! at one point the mom ran up a slide to try and grab her daughter but the girl just laughed and ran the other way. It was like a car crash you try not to look but you can't seem to stop watching. I felt so bad for the mom. So i'm sitting there with my 7 month olds laying on a blanket under a tree in the shade thinking What on earth would i do if that was me? The mom finally got her by telling her she was leaving and walking away (she had already tryed this like 2 times before) This time it worked. So what would you do if that was you??? It made me happy mine are only as fast as they can roll, at least for now.
I have also dreaded ever being in this situation and honestly I don't think I have been yet. What has worked for us is to give them tons of warning, before I go to the park I remind them that when I say it is time to go then it is time to go or we won't be able to come back, I give them plenty or warnings starting about 10 minutes prior to wanting to leave then I do a 5, a 2 and then a final ok time to go. I usually will give in to a 'one more time' as long as it is just one more time and then we all usually walk away quite happy. It could just be because of my children's temperaments but I like to think how I handle the whole situation plays at least a tiny role in how well it all goes down!
At 10 my child would not be behaving that way! That is years of not listening showing itself not just a bad day. My 8 year old knows better than that, I mean at 4 he knew better than to act like a jerk.
I do the warning thing too like Dianne. I have a "strong-willed" 3yo, and the warnings usually always work with him..surprisingly! But a 10yo acting that way...I can't imagine!
i agree with PP. mom needs to get her act together. that kid needs a beaten!! ok, maybe mom needs the beaten
That sounds like my almost 2 year old!!! He will NEVER act like that when he is 10! I always feel bad for the *spectators* when I'm dealing with DS acting like that.
QUOTE That sounds like my almost 2 year old!!! He will NEVER act like that when he is 10! Ditto. My 2 YO's do act like that, but when I get a firm voice with them, they usually do come to me. BUT if at all possible, I wait until I have help to go to a park that will be overly crowded.
My kids (11,9,7) would NEVER act like that. That is most likely a child who hasn't had consistent discipline in her life. My kids all know that behavior like that would be cause for serious consequences...not that they are perfect , but that is just down right disrespectful & they know better. Two year olds are expected to act that way, they don't know any better - but 10 year olds, that's the parent's fault.
kids will be kids, she didnt want to leave because she was having fun. you cant blame her. but yes, at age 10 the child should have grip on when its time to stop.
I agree that it wasn't just a bad day...that kid had no respect for mom's authority and that doesn't happen overnight. That's something a 2 year old would pull, and that THAT age they are small enough to run down and carry to the car. My son tried to pull this around 2 years and I told him the dog missed him and we had to get home to take care of him.
I will ditto Erykah..... That is years of not listening to her mom showing itself. I sometimes have an off day with my 7 year old, but she knows when I am serious about leaving. I find that so disrespectful for children to do, but the end blame lies with the parents. That kind of behavior needs to be nipped in the bud. I always tell my daughter that when I call to you, you had better come. You can never know why it is that I am calling to you. It could always be a matter of safety she is not aware of. Cat
LIke pp's have said, it's all about parenting and consistency. These are my first children, but I am a fourth grade teacher, and I know without a doubt that that 10 year old hasn't been parented the way I, or the majority of the ladies on the board, would parent.
Ten years old?? After 4 or 5 that kind of behavior has no excuse. Can you just imagine what that kid will be like when she's 12? 15?
QUOTE(Dianne @ May 22 2007, 07:03 PM) [snapback]265225[/snapback] I have also dreaded ever being in this situation and honestly I don't think I have been yet. What has worked for us is to give them tons of warning, before I go to the park I remind them that when I say it is time to go then it is time to go or we won't be able to come back, I give them plenty or warnings starting about 10 minutes prior to wanting to leave then I do a 5, a 2 and then a final ok time to go. I usually will give in to a 'one more time' as long as it is just one more time and then we all usually walk away quite happy. It could just be because of my children's temperaments but I like to think how I handle the whole situation plays at least a tiny role in how well it all goes down! That's what I do too, except we do really well with only a 5 minute warning. My DD is very strong willed and sadly enough there are many times when we've had to pick her up and carry her out of a place while she screamed her head off. By the time she's 10 though, I hope she will listen and behave.
