I am almost 30 weeks pregnant, exhausted, and in pain.- that is my disclaimer... O- and I have six children ages 11- almost 3-plus our precious little twins in utero... Okay. A dear friend of mine has planned a twin baby shower for me and it is scheduled for Saturday. It is set to take place in her home with her children present and other little girls. She has three girls and Sunday morning her three year old starting throwing up. She was still throwing up this morning(Wednesday) and laying on the couch sick. She perked up this afternoon. Monday, her eight year old had five hours of diarhea and spiked a fever of 106.5. Yes, 106! They have both been very sick ever since, with fever, etc. They are showing signs of improvement today. She also has a six year old who has NOT gotten sick yet. Maybe tonight? I had decided my 6 year old daughter (my only girl) would not go... But I am now at the point of worrying for myself. I called my OB and they recommended I not go in order to keep the babies in as long as possible and not risk pre-term labor, etc. I am really stressed now about talking to my friend and what to say, etc. I am also really sad about it all. I am also scared. I am really just taking life day by day right now- and I don't think I could care for my kids if they got sick like that without causing myself problems. I have the most intense braxton hicks I have ever had in a pregnancy (this is my 7th) and had a little preterm labor scare last week although I did not go to the hospital. I am so beyond tired, too, physically. What would you do? What would you say? Thank you, Rebecca
That's an awful situation, but I would not go. I'd just explain it to your friend, express your disappointment, and go from there. I actually had to miss my grandmother's funeral because it meant travel to a rural area during a time when delivery would necessitate access to a level 3 NICU. I'm sorry you have to miss your shower.
I would tell her exactly what your doctor told you. The truth is always the best thing to resort to =) good luck!!! may be you can re-schedule, she might even appreciate you saying to re-schedule. She may just not want to dissapoint you and thats why she has't said anything yet.
I'd go with what your dr. said too! Just not worth the risk of getting sick. I am sure she'll be relieved not to have to plan a party too after the week they're having. :bad: Maybe in a few weeks when everyone has recovered you can plan something a little more low key?
I would def reschedule. As a guest I wouldn't want to go and possibly be infected with it as well. I would be willing to bet the host will probably be SOOO thankful you want to reschedule!
I would not go either. You don't want to risk anything being pregnant with twins. You could just say your OB told you not to go. :good: She should understand.
Would you still not go if: no one had a fever today (Thursday). no one was throwing up today(Thursday). One little girl still hadn't gotten sick. Thanks, Rebecca
Not to her home, which needs a good cleaning. Maybe I'd go to a neutral location where people weren't sick. Honestly, I know it sucks but your doc already advised you not to and I don't see anybody else advocating that you should. It truly sucks but you have to do what's best (not the most fun) for those little babies. :hug:
:hug: I still would not go. I would err on the side of caution and like Michelle said, her house needs cleaning to get all the germs out of there. You don't want to take any chances. :hug: I know it stinks though and I'm sorry. :hug:
Thanks. The reason why I am so stressed is just because I know she will say they are fine, they are all better- and none of the ladies who are a part of this are suggesting canceling it or anything... As far as cleaning- she has already said she is cleaning from top to bottom before the shower, etc. And she is a really hard core cleaner.... I feel so bad for all the planning and everything that has gone into it and I feel like no one will understand and I will just look paranoid. I am pretty sure she resumed all normal activities today- even the homeschool CO-OP that a lot of my friends are a part of... so I feel so weird saying I can't go on Sat. when they are all together today and everything is fine. I want to cry. Rebecca
:hug: Blame it on the doc. Just say what they told you- you are following doctors orders but would be happy to reschedule. I do believe people will be disappointed but should understand. :hug:
