So I just had an apt. with my OB. We have a big wedding next weekend--my best friend from College and my DH's best friend from high school are getting married--we set them up at our wedding 5 years ago. The wedding is about 2.5-3 hours away from our home. She thinks it is a bad idea for me to go to the wedding. I am not showing any signs of early labor--she said after checking today that I am still "really far up" meaning she can't even feel my cervix yet. So...what would you do? I feel terrible about it, I really want to be there, and of course DH thinks it's silly that she would advise not going (total lack of support), so now I feel stuck. Advice please ladies
I too am in the same boat as you! I have my foster brother's wedding on the 22nd. I'll be 36w 6d and I cannot go either. I feel bad, but explained to him why I cannot make it and he is very understanding. Disappointed that I cannot come, but he understands the reasons. He knows that should be close to the hospital just incase I go into labor. He would feel bad if I had to deliver miles away from home and not be close to my other children. I am also sending a gift in the mail for him and his soon to be wife.
How did your twin delivery go? Did you go into labour? Was it a scheduled c-section? An induction? How long did you carry them? I know every pregnancy is different, but I'd look at your personal history when making this decision. For example, with the twins, my water broke and contractions started almost two hours later. Also how would you feel if you delivered out of town? What insurance issues if any would that cause? Are you planning on a vaginal birth or a c/s? Are you taking your two year olds with you to the wedding? Who else will be there that could take care of them if you went into labour?
I would go. My doctor will still let me travel 2 hours away even now. As long as I'm willing to drive back in labor. I'd go!
I'd ask yourself some of the same questions some of the other ladies asked... did you go into labor early with the twins? did you have any pre-term labor? Ultimately you need to know your own body. If it were me, knowing my own body, I would go. But I was almost 38 weeks with the twins and didn't go into labor on my own prior to my c/s. I went 3 days late with my first, and just 3 days early with my last.
If it were me I would probably still go as long as I knew insurance would not be an issue. I live on an island in Alaska so our closest hospital is a 30 minute float plane ride or 3 hour ferry ride away. They only have pregnant women come in 2 weeks before their due date or 1 week before scheduled c-sections.
I'd say go...depending on how you feel the day you leave. Take it easy driving, stop at least once. Stay off your feet while you're there....AND HAVE A GREAT TIME!
