What to do...shower for second pregnancy?

My SIL wants to throw me a shower for my second pregnancy...do people do that? She has my girls all excited about it. I must admitt....I have gotten rid of all things baby. DH and I were sure our baby days were over. I jsut don't know if this is something I should do?

Do I do this?
If so do I register?
If so what should I register for? Things are so diferent now.

 

My SIL wanted to throw me a shower and I said sure! We haven't gotten rid of a lot of stuff but a little new stuff would be nice. I'd say go for it. Before I knew about this, my SIL (dh's side) told me I should register, just in case people want to get me something, they'd know what I wanted/needed. So, I'd say register tooo! Register for what you'd need. swing, stroller, little stuff like onsies and stuff. My shower was cancelled due to two people not being able to make it (my sister & another SIL) and they want to do a 'meet the baby' shower. Good luck!

 

My friends threw me a shower, but there wre only 6 of us there. It was the same week DH's grandpa ended up passing away, people were sick or their kids were sick...it was a mess, but it was a nice gesture...lol!

I did one for my SIL for her 2nd pregnancy, but instead I did a "theme" shower. It was a pamper mom and baby shower. People were supposed to bring stuff to pamper mom or bring "pampers" for the baby. It was cute and fun too!

You could do a diaper/wipe shower, gift card shower...something a little less traditional than registering. From my experience, people are sometimes hesitant about 2nd showers...which sucks...all babies should be celebrated!

 

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You could do a diaper/wipe shower, gift card shower...something a little less traditional than registering. From my experience, people are sometimes hesitant about 2nd showers...which sucks...all babies should be celebrated!


I never understood that "rule". I agree all babies are something to celebrate!

We have gotten rid of everything baby as well. My mom is throwing me a shower but I am having it after the baby is born. Since we dont know the sex of the baby it will be hard for people to get stuff. Plus my MIL will be here from Cape Cod and I would love to share the experience with her as well. I am going to register at different places. I havent ever done this before, I was on bedrest with my twins and couldnt go regsiter anywhere.

 

I didn't have a shower with the twins (my second pregnancy) but people wanted to throw one for me!

 

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Do I do this?
If so do I register?
If so what should I register for? Things are so diferent now.


Yes! You should do it!! Yes you should register!! Go to Target or Babies R Us and look around! Register for whatever you want!!

I had a shower with each of my 4 pregnancies (2002-2007) and would if I had more!! Babies are to be celebrated!! Why not have a shower for each one?!

 

Around here it is not traditional to have a second shower. That being said I have one on April 11. My coworkers didn't do anything for me when I got married or had my duo so they are trying to make it up to me. Go for it!

 

Around here, most people do not have a second (or more) shower. That doesn't mean people will not give you gifts when the baby comes.

Baby showers here tend to be a bit on the extravagant side and cost the hostess and guests a bit of money, so it is usually not done a second time. I suppose if someone wants to throw you a small gathering in their house, that is cool, but at my shower there were about 50 people in a private party room at a restaurant, so I would never expect that a second time.

 

QUOTE(2rosebuds @ Apr 2 2008, 07:54 PM) [snapback]701352[/snapback]
My SIL wants to throw me a shower for my second pregnancy...do people do that? She has my girls all excited about it. I must admitt....I have gotten rid of all things baby. DH and I were sure our baby days were over. I jsut don't know if this is something I should do?

Do I do this?
If so do I register?
If so what should I register for? Things are so diferent now.


I think that all babies, even those that come one at a time, should be celebrated. Maybe do a small shower, you know, keep it simple.

So, to answer your questions: Yes & yes if there are specific things you need than sign on up for them. If not, diapers are always an option.

 

If your SIL has offered to have a shower for you, I would do it and I would register for what you need so that people know what to get for you. You probably don't need to do a full registry like you did for your first, but why not register for things that you need? I just recently co-hosted a baby shower for a friend of mine who is pg with her 2nd. We only invited very close friends and family to the 2nd shower, her first shower was a lot bigger, but we still got together to celebrate the new baby.

 

Thanks for all of your advice.

I am going to ask the girls if they would like a baby shower or a meet the baby party (even though my SIL is throwing this the girls think they are Terri, my SIL, discussed this a bit last night and I told her I wanted to keep it simple.

I feel so much better.....thanks again. I am off to see what to register for.

 

When though we knew we wanted more kids, we had gotten rid of a lot of the larger baby items from the twins because we had moved. I had a baby shower with Dax (people were very open to it since we were now having a boy ), and I registered for some simple items like a bouncer, a shopping cart cover, a stroller, a avent pump, etc. I didn't register for any clothes because I knew people would get that anyway. I got a few things like the baby bathtub, boppy, and so on used at our twins club garage sale.

This time around we need new carseats because our older ones will be expiring so that's what the baby will "ask" for for since she'll be born around Christmas.

 

QUOTE(2rosebuds @ Apr 2 2008, 03:54 PM) [snapback]701352[/snapback]
DH and I were sure our baby days were over.

If so what should I register for? Things are so diferent now.



Thanks for your post! DH & I thought we were done too and now that I'm dying for another, it's llike-UH OH WE HAVE NOTHING! I talked to my mom about a shower wondering if it was tacky. When I had the twins (8 yrs old now) I actually had 2 showers, one w/friends, one w/family and thank God b/c w/twins you just need EVERYTHING and some doubles of things!

I am especially concerned now b/c my chances are higher to have twins again (had fraternal 1st time) and what if I have a girl this time (please, please, please, at least one!)?

Is it cheesy or wrong for your mom to throw you a shower? I'm worried my SIL's wouldn't consider throwing me a shower now b/c it is the 2nd time around. And honestly, I don't have any girlfriends anymore, just "at work friends" and I'm doubting they would consider it either. Geez, that sounds sad and lonely huh?

 

Each life is to be celebrated! Would you have a Birthday party for each of your children, or only the First??? Yes have a shower, who cares who throws it....Let Mom, Sister, Sister in Law or Friends....just do it!!

Have fun and enjoy those sweet sweet babies!

There were 16 years in between my last son and my twin boys that came to us in December! We had a big couples shower in November and it was a blast!

 

I have also had a baby shower with each of my pregnancies (total of 3). This time I actually had 3 baby showers! I couldn't believe it but everyone has been so excited that the neighbors threw me one, my sunday school threw me one, and my work. It was awesome. If someone is kind enough to offer I would accept and register for the things that you need the most. We still had all the big stuff so we registered for new bottles, diapers, wipes, changing table supplies, etc.... I do live in the south and baby showers for each baby is pretty common down here. They are usually done in someone's home with finger foods and some games. Hope you and your girls have a great time!

Melissa

 

QUOTE(CCTwinMom @ Apr 5 2008, 04:01 PM) [snapback]706381[/snapback]
Thanks for your post! DH & I thought we were done too and now that I'm dying for another, it's llike-UH OH WE HAVE NOTHING! I talked to my mom about a shower wondering if it was tacky. When I had the twins (8 yrs old now) I actually had 2 showers, one w/friends, one w/family and thank God b/c w/twins you just need EVERYTHING and some doubles of things!

I am especially concerned now b/c my chances are higher to have twins again (had fraternal 1st time) and what if I have a girl this time (please, please, please, at least one!)?

Is it cheesy or wrong for your mom to throw you a shower? I'm worried my SIL's wouldn't consider throwing me a shower now b/c it is the 2nd time around. And honestly, I don't have any girlfriends anymore, just "at work friends" and I'm doubting they would consider it either. Geez, that sounds sad and lonely huh?



After reading this thread, no it is not chessey.

Thanks again ladies!

 

My twins were my second pregnancy and I had a shower. My friend wanted to throw one. Afterall, I needed two of everything. My first was a boy and the twins were girls, so I really did need things. I think now days the traditions have changed. Some people feel uncomfortable having a second shower. Some say no gifts please if they already have what they need, but people always bring stuff. I would still register. Register for things you really need and want that you didn't get first time around. Lots of diapers too!