What is wrong with them--HELP!!

Okay, I'm at my wits end with the sleeping thing. We have not yet slept through the night (both of them) and the last few weeks, we have regressed even more. Tonight, one or the other of them has been up screaming since 11:45--it's now 4:15...I'm exhausted, they've woken up my older dd's, and I am about ready to go postal on one of them!(not really, but you know what I mean...) Right now, the screamer of the moment is in his crib. I put a few toys and a book in with him since he obviously doesn't want to sleep!
The only way to keep them quiet and resting is to be holding them...and I can't do that all night...
What am I doing wrong?!?!?!? I'm in the process of weaning them from the night nursings that I've been doing, but they really haven't seem to miss them (unless I'm not holding them!) I've tried a modified CIO, HSHHC, the No-Cry Sleep Solution (all for about 10-14 days each before trying another one) and none of them seem to consistently work. ARGHHHH!!! I don't know what else to do....
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated...
Nicole

 

Okay, I'm at my wits end with the sleeping thing. We have not yet slept through the night (both of them) and the last few weeks, we have regressed even more. Tonight, one or the other of them has been up screaming since 11:45--it's now 4:15...I'm exhausted, they've woken up my older dd's, and I am about ready to go postal on one of them!(not really, but you know what I mean...) Right now, the screamer of the moment is in his crib. I put a few toys and a book in with him since he obviously doesn't want to sleep!
The only way to keep them quiet and resting is to be holding them...and I can't do that all night...
What am I doing wrong?!?!?!? I'm in the process of weaning them from the night nursings that I've been doing, but they really haven't seem to miss them (unless I'm not holding them!) I've tried a modified CIO, HSHHC, the No-Cry Sleep Solution (all for about 10-14 days each before trying another one) and none of them seem to consistently work. ARGHHHH!!! I don't know what else to do....
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated...
Nicole

 

I dont realy have any suggestions for you but i have to tell you we are going through the same thing. I was up with Sophie 4 times last night and Jack about 5. I cant leave him to cry as he goes hysterical and once Sophie is awake unless you wrap her up she will just sit and talk to you! So big for you x

 

Hi,

Sorry to hear you're having such a time. Sleep issues are the biggest pain and I've had my share. My kiddos are not the age of yours, but one thing that my hubby and I had to do starting in Jan was to decide on a consistent approach and stick to it. Babies can't take the switching. for us, we went back to swaddling (I know, you're are likely too old for this) and became more strict iwth the ritual for naps and bedtime and it worked to, at least, get the kiddos more predictable again.

Don't know if that helps, but maybe the different approaches are confusing your kiddos - I think there was recently research done that all of the sleep training styles work as long as the parents were consistent in the process. Maybe they just need one way to be the way.

Oh well, i'm no expert. figured I'd send this along.


Cheers and here's to a few sleepful nights.

Teri D

 

I'm with you. Mine went to bed at 6:30PM and slept until 12:00AM. It's now 2:00AM and I'm exhausted and counting down the hours until we have to get up... like when is it not worth it to go back to bed even if I can at some point get them back to sleep. I'm really hoping it's teething because this has got to be quick and stop. I can't take it. Our house is small so there is no where to go to escape the crying.

Lack of sleep is torture and they will pay for this one day! Just kidding of course. Well maybe not. There will be a few things I can do in my old age just to get them back

 

I may get blasted for this...but it helped us so I will tell you. With my DD...no issues, has been sleeping through for 12-13 hours since 5 months. My DS is another matter. He was waking just once to eat, then he slept through for about 2 weeks, then started waking again, but not really eating. So at the point I know...he is not hungry, he is not wet, he is not sick. I let him cry. Typically if he starts crying at night I will go in to check all of the above, and after eliminating those possibilities, he is on his own. The whole house can't wake up to entertain him at 4am, so I had to put my foot down. It has worked wonderfully, and he is doing awesome now. It was soooo hard though. I sat on the floor outside his room literally in a cold sweat as he cried. However, he he is sleeping just like his sister now, and I know that is the best thing for him. I agree with the poster who said stick with one thing. If you change tactics it will mess him up.

 

I completely feel your pain (even the postal thing ) My DD's are almost 11 months old (9 months adjusted) They were sleeping through the night when they were 4-6 months old until they started teething and it has been horrible ever since. They both would wake at least once to eat, sometimes they would go back to sleep, other times they wanted to play and it would take hours to get them back to sleep. Alivea started waking every half hour, we would rock her, and she would go back to sleep just to wake up again. After a couple weeks of this, I was so tired, and frustrated that I decided I was done and I let her cry it out. It took about 3 hours but she finally settled. She then started sleeping through the nite, that only lasted a week and the waking up to eat at 2am started again. Well, I played into it and started the whole cycle over again. Half the time they wouldn't take more then 2 oz so I knew they weren't that hungry and were just "spoiled"

About 3 weeks ago, DH and I decided enough was enough. We let them cry it out. It worked for awhile, and now we are back to waking again...Last nite it was from 3am until 5:30am (which was short from them) when we finally gave in. They are usually fed around 6 so it wasnt too early but early enough. They usually start around 1am and they take turns so we dont sleep all nite. When we first started we would pat them to sleep only to have them wake 15 minutes later. So now, we just let them cry. I can tell in their cry if something is wrong and that is the ONLY time I go in to check on them while they are crying.

Not sure what else to do but other then what I am doing. Hopefully it will work one of these days...I wish you all the best and I know how frustrating it is and I dont have other children so I dont know how you function on no sleep...Maybe one day it will just click with your babies and mine.

 

Can I be part of this boat? It stinks! Mine are older- were sleeping through the night and bam! just like that we have reverted to what feels like newbornhood. Ugh! I hope you find a solution soon- I don't have much to offer you other than you aren't the only one up throughout the night! Hugs and lots of them!