What is her problem?

I had a friend drop in today (unannounced) which was fine with me but while she was here she, many times, criticized my babies. I don't get it. She would say things like "looks like their heads are still flat or "he has a bald spot by his ear (which he doesn't). Why is she picking on my babies? My boys both have colds right now and when one sneezed he had boogers running down. She preceded to freak out and say she was totally repulsed! She is a nurse by the way, WTF! Anyone else experience this? Why do you think she was behaving this way? I know my boys aren't perfect but they are pretty cute and special to me.

 

Maybe she is having trouble getting pg and is trying to convince herself she doesn't really want a baby?

Your babies could not BE any cuter, btw!

 

totally uncalled for!

:hug:

 

I'll bet she's jealous!!!

 

QUOTE(ginagwen @ Dec 11 2008, 04:50 PM) [snapback]1107524[/snapback]
I'll bet she's jealous!!!

I agree....jealous....

Dianna

 

I would also say she is jealous.

 

Yep, I vote for jealous too. It doesn't make it easier to hear these things though even when you know what's going on. I'm sorry this happened to you :hug:.

 

that stinks and is so mean! Who says stuff like that?! :hug: I bet it's jealousy too.

 

Your kids are gorgeous! Its sad she is acting that way.

 

Definitely jealous. Does she have problems conceiving maybe? Either way I'd probably stop calling her...

 

your babies are too cute for words! :hug: i'm sorry she said those things to you.

 

Thanks for the support and nice comments! I think it may be jealousy too. She has had a boyfriend for 2 years and I know she really wants to get married and have kids. I'm not sure if or when that will happen for her. I have known her all my life and usually she is a pretty nice person so I won't be throwing her friendship away. I guess she was having a bad day or something :shrug:

 

QUOTE(SweetGirl @ Dec 11 2008, 05:10 PM) [snapback]1107556[/snapback]
Yep, I vote for jealous too. It doesn't make it easier to hear these things though even when you know what's going on. I'm sorry this happened to you :hug:.


Yes, Jealous. I have a friend who has two sons and did nothing but complain about how hard her life is. (she is pretty well off BTW, SAHM, and could have help). THen, when I had twins she was so obviously jealous that I could suddenly have two sons also. She told me, "good luck"when I told her I was going to BF. She said, "your **** are going to kill".. Then, after they were born, she said she never got my photos or heard they were born (this was about 2 months after they were born- what she think, they were still inside of me all that time) That was a lie. I called her from the hospital and left her a message. I e-mailed her pic and they were not bounced back. AND, to top it all off, she was actually in our home town the week they were born and she never came to visit. She lives 3000 miles away.

She used to actually be a best friend. Now we dont speak. My husband is livid at some of the things she has said.


QUOTE(blended6 @ Dec 12 2008, 12:39 AM) [snapback]1108002[/snapback]
Thanks for the support and nice comments! I think it may be jealousy too. She has had a boyfriend for 2 years and I know she really wants to get married and have kids. I'm not sure if or when that will happen for her. I have known her all my life and usually she is a pretty nice person so I won't be throwing her friendship away. I guess she was having a bad day or something :shrug:


I woudl consider telling her that she hurt your feelings so that it doesnt happen again and you can get beyond it with her.

 

Sounds like jealousy to me. I know I would of probably went off a little on her. My insides start to get hot when people are negative towards any part of my family at all.

 

agree with all of the other pp's - partly jealous and partly a bad day = hurt feelings for you
just wanted to add my thoughts to the others though on how CUTE your boys are!!!!

 

I think your boys are very cute and I agree with everyone else, she sounds like she's jealous.

 

When people are nasty and rude for no apparent reason, it is usually out of jealousy. You have to be feeling pretty awful inside to make some unnecessary remarks like that...and a true friend wouldn't say those things.

Oooh just saw your babies...SOOOOO adorable! She is TOTALLY jealous!

 

J-E-A-L-O-U-S!!!

Seems pretty obvious that she's jealous of all that you have. All she can do is belittle it.
I'd feel sorry for her if she weren't being such a J-E-R-K!

 

Ouch! Your babies are gorgeous. I would stop calling her. She must be jealous, but that is no excuse...

 

Honestly if it were a good friend then I would just chalk it up to her having a bad day, maybe it's jealousy, maybe she just was pms'y. Why make a mountain out of a molehill. Now if it happened consistently then yes I would say something about your feelings being hurt but if it is an isolated incident I would just let it go.

 

I try to not let folks like that get to me by telling myself, "He/she is probably constipated," haha. . . helps me in the forebearance arena. (Likewise, when a driver behind me starts tailgating and getting pushy, I imagine he/she is probably having a stomache attack (aka diarrhea) and needs to get to a commode fast.

Seriously, I think she may have a little envy. Why? Your babies are cute and alot of people want twins/multiples. Don't let her undermind your confidence!

 

QUOTE(SMiLeD @ Dec 13 2008, 07:29 AM) [snapback]1109433[/snapback]
Honestly if it were a good friend then I would just chalk it up to her having a bad day, maybe it's jealousy, maybe she just was pms'y. Why make a mountain out of a molehill. Now if it happened consistently then yes I would say something about your feelings being hurt but if it is an isolated incident I would just let it go.


I never said anything to her and I won't unless she does it again. I was annoyed that day but I'm over it now.

 

Sounds like the green eyed monster to me. Those boys are adorable!! :wub:

 

I would chalk it up as jealousy.