Were you told not to have sex by your docs?

I have noticed that alot of women say that they didn't have sex at all while they were pregnant.

Why is this?

Is it something that your doctors told you not to do?
Is it something that you just didn't feel comfortable doing?
Maybe it's something that was passed down in a family of no-nos during pregnancy...

I really want to understand the reasons why some on the forum want to ridicule or make it seem like sex is so bad when you are pregnant...

 

when pregnant with the twins i was never told not to from my dr's
i think we were at at least 30 plus weeks when i was just not into it anymore.
that was the only reason we stopped.

 

My doctor told me not to until 8 weeks. Then she gave us the OK, but I just didn't want to. I felt so yucky during the first tri that I had no interest. During the 2nd tri I would have been willing (perhaps even interested) if DH had wanted to, but he was too worried about possibly hurting something. We did IVF and I had a prior miscarriage and I think we just didn't want to take any chances, even though there's no evidence that sex during the 2nd tri is dangerous at all. And then in the 3rd tri I was just too huge and felt awful, and also the doctor told us not to.

 

I asked my doctor at our last appointment if there was a certain time we needed to stop. She said as long as my cervix continues to look good and it isn't hurting, I had no restrictions. Which, I was happy to hear, because my libido has come back in full force over the last couple weeks.....

I think many of the women that stop, have to due to shortening or softening of cervix. I could be wrong though. It will be interesting to see others responses.

 

My husband and I chose not to at the end of the twin pregnancy. I was so uncomfortable and would have to go to the Chiropractor to get any relief after we had sex. My hips and area were so painful, and no position remedied that. We probably stopped having sex around 34 weeks or so. As for my singletons pregnancies, we never stopped but we also didn't have sex as much as we would normally if I wasn't pregnant.

Never did my Dr. tell me I couldn't have sex, but I also have a cervix of steel.

 

Do people make others feel like sex is bad during pregnancy? I've never heard that on here!

I had terrible morning sickness through both of my twin pregnancies ... so from 5 weeks - 16 weeks, the LAST thing on my mind was intimacy, which my DH totally understood and supported.

Once I started feeling better, I was starting to feel the babies move, and I was kinda freaked out about "hurting" them. hehe. I know it's silly. I was just SO scared of something happening through the whole pregnancy. I needed IVF to get pregnant, and I always felt like everything was soooooo, precarious. I just didn't want to mess with anything down there to be honest.

Then around 28 weeks I started having lots of BH contractions and I was put on meds and my doc said no more intercouse (haha, little did they know there hadn't been intercourse since BEFORE we conceived!)

So not until much later was I told not to have sex... but those were my personal reasons for not doing it.

That being said, I know MANY people that still maintained wonderful sex lives during pregnancy, and more power to 'em! I think it's wonderful if you feel good and your doc doesn't restrict you.

 

My peri told me at 13 wks that we weren't to have any intimacy at all b/c it could bring on contractions that could lead to pre-term labor and we followed it strictly. My DH was totally supportive since we both were scared that something would go wrong if we didn't follow dr's orders. I'm glad that we did b/c at 24 wks, pre-term labor came on it's own and I was put on bedrest until 35 wks. I had a sceduled c-section due to pre-e. It was not fun but it was all worth it in the end! :wub:

 

My dr hasn't restricted it at all, but i'll admit its a semi-rare occasion this pregnancy due to all the discomforts etc. It makes it hard to even get in the mood. Gotta admit i feel bad for my DH. :unsure:

 

I know this is probably really bad but my doctor told us at 24 weeks that she doesn't want us having sex anymore just because I am having twins. She said she does this with all of her twin pregnancies and that nothing at all is wrong. And there have been a couple times since then that my husband and I did anyway. I just figure that if a lot of other women have sex while pregnant with twins and I have had NOTHING at all wrong with this pregnancy that every once in a while would be ok. Is that really bad not to listen to the doctor?

 

I have noticed posts where people say something to the effect of "sex can cause PTL and the risk wasn't worth it for us". I think people sometimes forget that what their doctor says is tailored for them and may not apply for everyone. Also, doctors sometimes have different opinions.

My doc said go for it as long as it is comfortable... and we did. I had no complications and two healthy, full-term boys who had to be forcibly evicted at 39 weeks.

 

My OB always told me to listen to your body. If it hurts - don't do it. Anyway, 1st tri - I was way too sick to want to do it. 2nd trimester - still so sick. Then I found out I was having twins. I think we were just afraid that something could harm them. And I was so uncomfortable anyway.

 

After we found out we were having twins we stopped too. (We found out at 19 weeks). I'm just too paranoid about PTL. Maybe my fears are unrealistic, but I just feel more comfortable this way, and just don't have to worry about it.

 

at 8 weeks OB appointment he told me that I can enjoy the sex until 24 weeks and after that stop . he said that from 24-28 weeks is very important period NOT to have the babies. so he said he will do everything to prevent it. so no sex.... but I think we stopped after 20 weeks. my DH is freak out to hurt the babies and I don't feel very comfortable either. so no more sex

 

We were told not to have sex after 30 weeks as sex is one of the home 'methods' for bringing on labour, along with curry etc! To be honest though we stopped around 28 weeks - I just felt so tired all the time that i wasn't up for it, but since we're passed 30 weeks my libido has gone through the roof! Sex is everywhere!

 

I was told by my Peri that sex was a "no, no." I had no underlying medical reason other than the fact that I was carrying twins. I would not risk it, but that is just me.

 

QUOTE(kat5682 @ Apr 16 2009, 01:44 PM) [snapback]1275898[/snapback]
but since we're passed 30 weeks my libido has gone through the roof! Sex is everywhere!


Nothing makes you want something more than being told you can't have it! :lol:

 

I had such a hard 1st trimester with the threatened miscarriage (& passing a lime sized blot clot which we first though was one of the twins) that sex was a NO-NO with the doctors... which we understood and wasn't even thinking about it. I think with us trying so long with IUI's & then IVF we just didn't think about it.
I asked my husband in the 2nd trimester when things kind of went to normal, but he felt funny especially after feeling the babies move!!! :blush: I think I felt weird too like they were internally watching which I know isn't case, but even now... they MOVE all the time... and I'm sooooooo uncomfortable & my hips, tailbone, and back are killing me that I couldn't even dream of getting into the mood. My husband understands... at this point we just want to keep them in as long as possible and with me having contractions we aren't willing to even risk it!
If you can & your doctors don't say no, then I hear it's really great!! Usually better than when you're not pregnant since your senses are hightened... :banana:

 

I was told NO from IVF- 8 weeks...then okay'd from 8 to 16 weeks, but felt mostly morning sick. Then I started PTL around 17 weeks and it was no from there on out due to cervical changes and bedrest and MANY other factors making me high risk--it was too nerve wracking to risk it no matter how many hormones were raging!

DH and I laugh about it now, but he was nto laughing so much then!

KC

 

I asked my OB when I was 8 weeks if we could have sex and he said no. DH and I asked just to see what he said. We did IVF to get pregnant and didn't want to jepordize anything and even if my OB didn't say no we probably would not have done anything anyway. But that was out personal preference too.

 

I don't ever recall anyone on TS ridiculing others for having sex. ardon: For me, it was the fear of doing something down there and losing my babies. :blush: My OB or peri or anyone never told me not to have sex, it was a personal decision. I am not sure if it taking years to have them or just my over worrying personality made me feel that way, but I was completely happy with my decision and would probably make the same decision the second time. To each thier own, I say! :good:

 

I was never told not to, but I just wasn't comfortable with it. To me it was just another risk that I was unwilling to take.

 

QUOTE(caba @ Apr 16 2009, 01:59 PM) [snapback]1275929[/snapback]
Nothing makes you want something more than being told you can't have it! :lol:


Couldn't agree with you MORE!! That is SO true!

 

We were told no sex for a while during my second trimester because I had a partial placenta previa. In fact, the previa was discovered after a bleed brought on by sex. Talk about a 2 am conversation you don't want to have with your OB. :blush: Once the previa resolved itself we were given the all clear and DH and I figure we better enjoy ourselves now because we know from past experience that nursing kills my sex drive.

 

I begged my OB for a note that said "no sex". I just wasn't comfortable with it. I felt fat and not to mention how swollen I was down there. We tried once before I found it was twins and it hurt so I told DH no more. Then we found out it was two and we might lose one and our minds just weren't into sex anymore. Once DH felt the babies move he got really weirded out and there was never even a discussion.

ETA: I think it's a personal choice and don't think I've seen anyone ridiculed on TS over it. In fact while I was pregnant, there were several sex threads in expecting with lots of people "doing it"

 

I don't ask my doctor things like that unless I really want to hear an answer I won't like. We haven't been told to stop but frankly with a 2 hour commute each day, then chasing after a 4 year old, and being pregnant, the last thing I want to do right now is be intimate with my husband. I love him but by 8 pm (the 4 year old's bedtime), my energy bucket is empty.

 

I also had a placenta previa, so it was a no-no for me.

 

For me i got the ok i think from my dr after the 1st trimester.. I think..or maybe it was after my 1st u/s at 7w, i can't remember. But i was nervous about miscarriage and we didnt' much.. After my 1st trimester was over I just didn't have much libdo.. I think the entire time i was pregnant, i can count how many times we did it on 1 hand.. The last time we did it, I was 26 weeks, and i was sooooooo uncomfortable. It acutally hurt. After i delivered i was worried the 1st time that we did it again that it would still hurt since it had been so long but actually it was soo nice.. I guess it was just because there was babies head there that made it uncomfortable..

 

I conceived twins naturally so my MD said as long as everything was going good it was fine. I agree with the pp about being sick and tired the 1st trimester...we enjoyed it some during my 2nd trimester but we both were a little worried about causing problems so it was not that often. Now that I am 33 weeks I have a desire...I really miss it...but it is very hard to find a good position. My belly is just too huge! My husband actually said he did not want too...he thinks it will make labor start! Ofcourse I talked him into it and everything was fine...so maybe a few more times before they get here...LOL!!!

My opinion is that you should always talk and listen to your doc and from there you do what works for you as a couple...

 

I just stopped toward the end because I was too big and it was uncomfortable.Then it got to where everytime I did I would start having regular contractions so we just decided not to.

 

My OB told us to stop having sex around 27 weeks when my cervix began to shorten. I think the main reason why doctors tell their patients, especially high risk patients to not have sex is the due to the risk of going into PTL. Also, I think the sperm is considered to possibly weaken the cervix by breaking down the tissue surrounding it.

 

Haven't been told to stop yet. Everything from the waist down is sore as far as joint pain goes BUT I don't let that stop me! lol