were really bumping heads

okay so i was told 2 day that"u are the company u keep" so my ? is how many of u believe this??? if this is the case i really need to do a realitly check on my friends.

anybody have a friend whom wants nothing in life and doesnt enjoy having theire children? has no responsbilites b/c they put them on everybody elese? my bf is like this and lately i have been very upset with her actions and she sees nothing wrong with the fact that she wants to live on section 8 her whole life and have free rent and utilties and food stamps. i told her mabye she should get a part time job for some extra money and she says "no it doesnt pay for me to work" ladies shes a single mother with an income of 150 in child support a month thats it!!!!!! im trying to make her realize life is not free and what hjappens when for some reason they kckit u off of section 8 than what? or what happens when they take your foodstamps? she just doesnt care b/c she is lieving off the system for the past god 5 yrs and refuses to work! also the way she disciplines her children is outrageous and bothers me!!!

the reason im aksing is because my not so d x told me today that i am the company i keep and people will think i am just like her b/c shes my friend!!!!!

 

I don't believe that. Sometimes we are friends with people that don't necessarily reflect who we are but we still hang out with them. Maybe we feel bad for them or we have been friends for a long time, but we still are friends with them even if we don't have anything in common. Sometimes, it's just a bad habit.

 

I don't believe that either. I have a friend who has no kids, raises the devil, etc... and we still talk about every other day. We go shopping about 1x a month. Granted, we don't have alot in common regarding kids & lifestyle, but she is still my bf and we have other things in common, like shoes. I don't like the way she lives her life and I think it is dangerous at times, but when & if she falls, I will be there to pick her up.

 

I don't think that's true either. I have a friend who is nice, but other than that is a complete opposite of me. We couldn't be less alike. I think anybody who knows you knows you for who you are (tongue twister!) not who you are friends with.

 

I don't believe it either. I have a 'friend' whom I like to believe I am nothing like. I see her weekly (she basically invited herself to one of my Wed night company nights and has been coming ever since, that was 2 years ago). I can honestly tell you I have learned lots of things not to do because of hanging around with her, she has a son one year older than the K team.

As for being a single mom and finding it doesn't pay to work, I can completely relate to that. Last year at this time that was a reality I faced, fortunately I found something that does pay (although it is never enough right?). I found something I love to do, people who are fantastic and hours that fit with school and knock on wood I haven't had any issues with illness that would keep them out of school or cause any issues with my job although I know that is a daily possibility. The whole issue of making enough to pay for child care and still pay the bills or working part time during school hours and hoping to make enough for bills is a very real situation and while I chose not to go the assistance route after being in that situation (only for one week) but I can certainly see how it could be a 'rut' that people get into and can't get out of.

 

Yep, count me in on not believing that.

 

You may not be LIKE her, but you have to ask yourself what your benefit is having this woman in your life? She obviously riles you up and her kids probably aren't great for yours to be around. Is it drama, hopeless optimism, or a moral superiority complex? The maid of honor at my wedding (who introduced me to my husband) is out of my life due to her disdain for being associated with a mommy as a best friend and her constant self-destructive choices. I got annoyed and had a come-to-Jesus about what she was doing to her life and we parted ways. It is sad, but I have 3 kids...that's drama enough for me.

 

I have a little different take on the situation you described. Over the last year I have lost contact with a friend who fell into the get all things for free trap. She used to be a self reliant, consrvative thinker until she left her hubby and decided to get assistance and not work. The change was almost immediate. Anyone who was previously a welfare freeloader(her words) was now entitled to free things from our great country. Her patriotism shot up and the phrase this great country became her montra and guides her to all social programs possible.
We no longer have respect for each other because of the great differences but mostly because she began insulting anything that was traditional or conservative. She loves these hollywood people who have no boundaries in their lifestyles and has totally changed to justify all of her entitlement mentality. My hard working family with proper values are a bunch of prudes.

I thought I would mourn the loss of friendship but I realized that i don't have to listen to the nonsense anymore. I am glad that she is not in my life anymore. Just my little story.