We need HELP please!

We put our 2.5 year old twins in their toddler beds 3 weeks ago and the first 1.5 weeks went great. DS would get out of his bed at the beginning a little bit but eventually go to sleep and sleep through the night. DD doesn't have any issues staying in her bed she stays there all night and waits for us to come get her in the morning. I work full time 3rd shift so it's mainly my DH that is here by himself at night. DH is only getting 3 hrs of sleep and has to work 10 hr days. So the issue with DS is that he goes to sleep after a 1/2 hour or so and then wakes up about 2 hrs later and starts coming into our room. DH or I walk him back to his bed and do not commuicate with him. This can go on up to 15 times. We tried putting a gate in front of the twins' bedroom door but he would stand at that and scream and cry. We took the gate down. He is waking up DD (with whom he shares a room with). I don't know if we should separate rooms or if this would cause more problems. This has been going on for 1.5 weeks and we need some help please!!!!

 

I'm sorry you guys are going through this!

Why does he go into your room? Is he asking for anything? Do you talk to him?

I'm a fan of seperating when they won't sleep but I don't think that would help in your situation. I would figure out why he's getting up. If he's thirsty, scared or just likes the attention.
I would just keep walking him back to bed and the first time say "it's night time and time to sleep, please stay in bed", after that I wouldn't say a word, just take him back to bed.

Good luck! I hope something works soon!

 

I think it could be him wanting the attention. He doesn't ask for anything sometimes we wake up and he's standing next to the bed. Since he isn't asking for anything and isn't crying or acting scared we walk him back to his bed and don't say anything. Thanks for your help, I hope something works soon too!!!

 

I would just have a conversation with him. We reinforced a lot that they were not to get out of bed. I just told them over and over when we were putting them to bed. Tell him he has to stay in his bed, and that if he does not you will put the gate up. Just explain the expectations and then follow through with them.

 

is he scared of the dark ?? My one twin would scream before bed yet despite her being very vocal she didn't tell us she wanted a light on. I have all 3 of mine in one room... twins at 3 yrs old and a "baby" at 21 months old. Three mattresses on the floor until they are old enough for us to get bunk beds. I end up sleeping in their room until they fall asleep and often one or two still gets up after that. Sometimes we STILL end up with one of them in our bed during the middle of the night. For us sometimes putting them in bed with us is easier than putting them back in their room to scream and wake everyone up. I have no answers but hope it is only a phase that we will get through.....

Heather