Was that weird?

Hey everyone...this is my first post on the FY as an official mom of twins! Mind you, what I'm going to ask you has nothing to do with raising twins...but I just need a second (and third and fourth) opinion!

So last week one of my dear friends called me up and said, "I've booked a hot stone massage for you at 3:00 on Monday and I won't take no for an answer!" She went on to say how new mommies need to relax and have some pampering, and I'm thinking "I'll take it!!"

so I went for the massage yesterday (delightful by the way) and as I was leaving I went to pay for the tip--assuming that wasn't already covered. Well, the office girl said, I don't have any payment for your massage written down other than you. I tried to explain how my friend set it up, and I was fairly certain it was a gift etc... She was so nice, and was looking through all the files etc. trying to find some sort of answer when she finally said, "should I call your friend and ask if this was intended as a gift?" I told her I would do it--so I called my friend and very sheepishly asked if she had already paid for the massage and she said, "uh, no...." I was so embarrassed!! I paid for the services..which totalled $150!!!!! Argghhh!

So, was I totally presumptuous in assuming she was paying for the massage? At no point did she mention, here's the cost--would you like to do it?--I'd be happy to book it for you etc... I NEVER would have done it if I had known! I feel so stupid for assuming, and at the same time totally tricked? How would you have felt? Am I crazy for feeling a little annoyed by it all?

Reyna

 

OMGosh!! I would have totally assumed that the massage was already paid for. She mentioned that you needed pampering and my thought is this is what SHE was doing FOR YOU as a way to pamper! I would actually be angry if I were you. Sorry that your wonderful day had to end that way!!

 

QUOTE(mrsfussypants @ May 1 2007, 03:50 PM) [snapback]239832[/snapback]
So, was I totally presumptuous in assuming she was paying for the massage? At no point did she mention, here's the cost--would you like to do it?--I'd be happy to book it for you etc... I NEVER would have done it if I had known! I feel so stupid for assuming, and at the same time totally tricked? How would you have felt? Am I crazy for feeling a little annoyed by it all?


I would absolutely have assumed the same thing. Why would you say "I won't take no for an answer" if you expected the other person to pay (and therefore couldn't know whether cost might really be an issue)? If she expected you to pay, she should have offered to book you an appointment (before actually doing it!) and told you the cost so that you could have made up your mind.

 

Yikes, what a weird situation!! Like the previous posters, I too would have expected that it was paid for. Did she mention anything about paying you back? Seems like a yucky thing to do to a new mom, that probably could have used that $150 to pay for pampers or something!!

And :sign0016: to FY!!!

 

I'm laughing not because I think it's funny but because I am in such disbelief that someone would do that, especially to the tune of $150, and not mention that it wasn't paid for!! It's more like a bad joke you'd play on someone... wow... talk about taking away that relaxed feeling real quick. that stinks.

 

What in the world !!! I never would have expected for the massage not to have been paid for, especially since she booked the appointment! I think it is a pretty cruel joke on a new twin Mommy . I think you should call her and tell her that you enjoyed your massage so much that while you were there you scheduled her a pampering session also !! Hey, turn about is fair play, right??? Oh well, I guess we all live and learn.

I also wanted to :sign0016: you to the FY board!! I am pretty new to the board also and have already received some great advice and support. I look forward to getting to know you!

Carrie

BTW: I LOVE your DS #1's name, it is the only other Bennett I "know" LOL.. Do you call him "Ben"??

 

No, you're not the crazy one, lol! :wacko: What a cruddy thing to do to someone. :icon_eek:

 

QUOTE(mrsfussypants @ May 1 2007, 03:50 PM) [snapback]239832[/snapback]
So, was I totally presumptuous in assuming she was paying for the massage? At no point did she mention, here's the cost--would you like to do it?--I'd be happy to book it for you etc... I NEVER would have done it if I had known! I feel so stupid for assuming, and at the same time totally tricked? How would you have felt? Am I crazy for feeling a little annoyed by it all?


I would have assumed the same thing so no its not just you. As for feeling a little annoyed I would be PISSED why would anyone book a $150 massage for a new twin mom saying they needed to be pampered and then expect them to pay for it. I dont know how I would react.

 

That's so odd! I'd be dumbfounded if someone did that to me. I mean, seriously, if I wanted to spend $150 on a massage, the two-minute phone call to *book* it isn't really a hassle, you know?

So weird....

You should order $150 worth of pizzas to be delivered to her house (LOL, j/k).

 

QUOTE(Becca34 @ May 1 2007, 05:41 PM) [snapback]239987[/snapback]
You should order $150 worth of pizzas to be delivered to her house (LOL, j/k).


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That is so bizarre! I can't imagine what she was thinking. I would be so irritated!

 

OMG! I would have totally thought it was paid for. Not nice. $150 is a lot to spend on yourself (or anything for that matter) when you're a new mom, especially of twins! Wow! I am dumbfounded. I can't believe a "friend" would do that. I would have to say something.

 

Wow! Did she at least watch the kids while you went?? Not that that would make things okay, but at least some babysitting. I would {and this is just me} ask her why she did that? We all need relaxing but not to the tune of $150! Sorry she did that to you! :hug99:

Oh and welcome to the FY forum!

 

I never would have thought it was paid for...JUST KIDDING!!!! Sorry - I couldn't help myself it's one of those days.

I booked a massage for my mom about 2 weeks after the girls were born (she stayed with us for the first 2 months). I NEVER would have expected her to pay for it. I actually think that it is really strange that she would book you a massage and then not pay for it.

 

:huh: How odd? I mean, I could call and book you a stone massage, not that big of a hassle to actually call and book it? Weird! Welcome to the FY, glad you are here! :hug99: You and your weird friends. :laughing:

 

:huh: How odd? I mean, I could call and book you a stone massage, not that big of a hassle to actually call and book it? Weird! Welcome to the FY, glad you are here! :hug99:

 

Unbelieveable!
I hope you said something to her. I would just come right out and tell her that you thought it was a gift and would never have spent that much money on a massage had you known you'd be paying.
See what she says. Let us know

 

1) That's a really pricey stone massage. I hope it was a good one!
2) Thankfully you had the means to pay that hefty tab at the time!
3) I hope you can clear the air with your friend. That's a really weird thing to do to somebody.

Welcome to FY! I'm getting ready to leave "officially" tomorrow, but I'll be in to visit.

 

:sign0016: Welcome to FY!!! :sign0016: This is a great site and has been SOOO helpful to me, I hope you like it as much as I do. And yes, like the pp's, I think that situation is beyond weird. I also would be mad at her, what a friend! :blink:

 

What?!?!?! How bizarre!! 8P Someone might need to up her meds!

 

Holy cow! I would be hurt and angry.

Even if I had the means to afford that easily, I'd still be hurt and angry.

It wouldn't be a deal breaker, but it would definitely affect the friendship for me. I'd feel deceived and unfortunately, when that happens, I'm a lot more reserved around that person. Can't help it.

 

That is the oddest thing. I would have definitely thought it was a gift for being a new stressed out mom. Never in a million years would I have taken it as I made the appointment, relax but remember to pay the bill.

 

Oh my gosh! I don't think you're off base at all! What a terrible thing for her to do! "I won't take no for an answer?!" That certainly implies that she's paying for it to me!

Welcome to TS and congrats on your twins, by the way! ^_^

 

wow - it is a good thing you had enough money to pay otherwise that would have been mortifying...

oh and I'd drop her in a heartbeat - you don't do something that cruel to a friend...

 

That is so wierd! I dont get why she would do that.

 

Your responses are so great, I'm able to actually laugh about it! Thanks so much. As for being lucky I had enough money on me to pay for it....it's called a credit card, and now I'll be lucky if I can pay IT when the bill comes! You ladies are great.

reyna

 

That is crazy, I would have assumed it was paid for. I would not be able to bite my tongue, I would have to confront my friend. I think it is mean to do that to a new mommy!

 

The way she said it, I would've totally thought it was a gift. Ummmm.....thanks for making that phone call for a massage I paid a fortune for... :huh: . I know I have a lot better things to spend that $150 on.

 

I would probably try to make it sound like a joke and tell her that "I'm an idiot, but I thought when you set up this appointment, it was a gift. Thank goodness I had my credit card on me! I'm running on no sleep these days, so it's probably just exhaustion, but I had no idea. Give a girl some warning next time! And pick a cheaper place why don't you!?!" And keep laughing while you say it.

What an idiot!?! Who needs enemies when you have friends who offer to make $150 commitments for you? LOL

Shannon

 

Wow ... thank God you had means to even pay for it! Not everyone has a spare $150 laying around, some people don't have credit cards ... and being a new mom, all I can do is calculate how much baby stuff $150 can buy!

No, if she told you she made the appt and "won't take no for an answer", then I would have taken that as a gift as well. It's almost kind of cruel. I'd talk to her if I were you, I know you want to get over it but to me, she needs to know that doing something like that wasn't nice, it was actually kind of mean, to make you pay for something you never would have otherwise and mislead you into thinking it was a gift.

 

I would be totally pissed. I would probably say something to her like "I really did enjoy myself but that $150 was money for the babies diapers, stroller, whatever. " If you can just get over it, good for you because your a better person than I am!