Was not expecting this.

Well, this posting is a big shock for me to be writing. We were not planning on having another baby. My husband has been adamant that he's "done", and I have been on the fence on having a 3rd someday, but we never wanted it to be right now! So, surprise of the century for me then when I decided to take a home test on a whim because I wasn't sure (can't remember my last period start day) but I had a feeling that I was late. Sure enough..."pregnant" popped up within 15 seconds of peeing on the stick.

I am on vacation with the kids at my in laws and my husband is working in a different time zone (8 hours ahead) so I can't even tell him yet. I think he's going to be slightly devastated, and I'm having a hard time letting this sink in.

I sort of always wanted to be pregnant again, hopefully with a singleton, just to have that "normal" experience, but now that it's looking like a possibility I'm absolutely terrified. How on earth are we going to do this?!

I'm keeping in mind that it's really early, so who knows how this will all turn out. I'm maybe 4.5 weeks pregnant I'd guess.

How early do you ladies think I'd be able to have an u/s to rule out another twin pregnancy? This is my most immediate fear!

 

This is how it happened to me, mind you however, I had an 8 year old son, not twins that were under two. My husband didn't want anymore, I did, but I was on BC and wasn't ready for another right at that particular moment. When I told him he was not happy about it, and then when it was twins I thought he was going to have a coronary, and then when he found out it was two girls, his reaction was "girls will be the death of me." Looking back it is hilarious, but that is because these girls have him wrapped around their finger. He loves them and couldn't be more happy. Congratulations!! Everything will work out!!

 

Congratulations! I think once the baby is here, he will come around (you too). I was worried about twins again with this pregnancy because I was showing so big so early, but we are only having 1, so I understand where you are coming from. I think for sure by the time you are 12 weeks you would be able to see 2, but a lot of people have ultrasounds much earlier like at 6-8 weeks. You can do this.

 

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! That is how it happened to me with my ds#3. Travis didn't want anymore and when I found out, he was away at work. I went straight to my MIL ( shocking, I know LOL) and she talked to me about how I may be surprised at his reaction and that he would love this baby etc..... Well when I told him, it was WTH?? He was shocked but it was the way it was. Over time he got used to the idea and even happy. Now neither of us can imagine life without the little booger. As a matter of a fact, I had my tubes tied after he was born and have done ivf to get my twins and this baby due in 2 weeks that is something I would have NEVER in a million years thought he would agree to.

I have had my first ultrasounds at 5 weeks and a few days. That is when they found my twins!

 

Congrats, you can do it. As for your question, I foun out the boys were twins at my dating U/S. I was about 6 weeks along.

 

Congratulations!!! You will be just fine Yes, I suppose the news was surprising but take a deep breath. I had u/s around the 8 week mark for a "head count" (singletons both times)

 

:hug: It'll take time to sink in, for both of you, but that's okay. And everything will work out! I expect if you asked your doc for a dating u/s (which I'm guessing they would suggest anyway since you aren't sure of the first date of your last period) they could have you in as early as 6 weeks.

 

I felt exactly this same way three months ago. Our boys were conceived via IVF and we never really considered that we could get pregnant on our own. We were open to the possibility of having a 3rd, but when we *shockingly* did conceive on our own, I was TERRIFIED. To be honest, it took a good 2-3 months to settle for me, but now I am happy and looking forward. I do still worry about how we'll do this, that, and the other thing with 3 under 3, but we'll figure it out. I really feel like this baby was meant to be a part of our family. I bet you'll feel the same way after you have some time to absorb your new news.

This was also my most immediate fear this time around. My OB, without me asking, said she wanted to do a "viability" u/s and scheduled me during my 5th week. When a heartbeat could not be seen, they redid it during the 6th week when one was seen. They told us during the 5th week that there was one gestational sac.

In my experience (stemming mostly from multiple u/s's with my boys), they should be able to see gestational sacs (w/ yolk sac, fetal pole) during the 5th week. If there is more than one sac (fraternal twins or more), they will see them. My boys are identical, so during our 5th week u/s they saw one appropriate-looking gestational sac. We expected a singleton pregnancy. During our 6th week u/s they saw two heartbeats in that one sac.

Good luck to you.

 

My DH feels exactly like yours.... I feel exactly like you. I am not pregnant right now, though.

I think you'll both come around. Our boys weren't planned but they are loved to the utmost. I think it's amazing when you have a miracle baby!

 

Thanks ladies. I was able to talk to my husband twice yesterday, and he is definitely not happy, but I suppose he's coming around at least to acknowledging that we'll be "okay" as a family and that we can figure out how to do this. I'm trying to think of the positives which are that we still have all of our baby gear, car seats, toys, etc so we won't have to buy any new. I am already working on getting back all of the baby clothes that I gave away to people so that we'll have those as well. Am thinking that we can ask for diapers or amazon gift cards as gifts to lessen the blow of yet another diaper order every month!

I am awake at 6 a.m. and anxiously awaiting calling my OB's office to see what he says and how soon they'll get me in for an ultrasound. Fingers crossed for ONE healthy baby!

 

I was freaked/sicked out for about 2 weeks. It will set in and you'll be okay with it. Congrats! Having more kids AFTER twins IS scary!

 

Keep us posted on when you get to the doctor!

 

Will do. I exchanged emails with him yesterday and he agreed that an early u/s would be ideal for me! Great news after his assistant had told me that he doesn't see pregnant patients until 14 weeks! We won't last tile then as my husband has decided to think that it's twins until he's told otherwise. Maybe a healthy way of looking at it so that we'll hopefully be relieved but prpared lol, but I just can't handle thinking that.

My toddlers seems to have ramped up their crazy behaviour this week or else my patience has just gone out of the window for now. Probably the latter. It's hard not to be short with them right now, though.

Woke up this morning with a killer headache and some mild nausea so the joy ride begins! lol At least I"m starting to smile at the idea of a snuggly little baby at the end of this journey

Oh sorry to I meant to add that he wants me in for u/s between 6-7 weeks so in about two weeks from now. If only I had a time machine to fly forward!