Warning, completely selfish and pathetic post

Both Dh and I's parents live out of town. My parents were here for a week and left yesterday. Dh's parents came in yesterday after mine left. Lily and Jack have always been uber clingy and Lily has always spent most of her day with me while Jack is attached to Dh. I am aware that they need to work on this and have been really getting us involved in play groups, etc. and they are doing a great job at getting more comfortable playing with others and not having me so close ALL the time.

Anyway, I am about to cry because Jack has been attached to DH all day (it is saturday and the only day he is here all day so Jack and Lily are soo excited to be with him), but Lily is all over gma and gpa. So, this is great and wonderful for everyone, but, I am feeling a bit sad as she really seems to not even see me. How pathetic is that. Of course I am thrilled that she has developed the confidence to be with gma and gpa and not need constant reassurance from me but darn it... I miss my little girl!!! Also, occasionally she will run to DH for a hug ---what about MMOOMMMYYYY???????

oh pity pity pity party, I know. Can't help it though, just needed to vent so I don't actually cry in front of everyone! .

 

QUOTE(ahmerl @ Oct 25 2008, 01:44 PM) [snapback]1041665[/snapback]
How pathetic is that.


:nea: Not pathetic AT ALL! :hug: :hug: I am the same exact way. :blush: I don't think it's a bad thing at all to feel like this, she's your baby girl, of course you'd want her to at least acknowledge you are there. My two have been like this for the past few weeks on Sundays when their dad is home. Yes, it's nice to not have to be at their call the whole day but at the same time it tears me up inside that forget I exist and only want daddy. :cry: Silly, I know but ;pardon:. Why don't you go give her hug? Or a kiss? Or both! :hug:'s momma, we're always here when you need to vent!!

 

Nothing wrong with loving your kids too much!!

 

My mom lives just 4 miles away and when she makes an appearance, my whole schedule gets thrown out of whack if I let it. I am invisable to my twins if my mom is around. They worship her.
:hug: My kids always trade who they are 'close' to. You'll get your turn back! Just relax and enjoy the mobility!

 

My boys forget I exist on the weekends when Daddy is around, it just kills me. But then sometimes when I'm not paying attention to them playing with Dad one or the other will call for me or come up and hug my legs and my heart melts all over again.
P.S when company is around they only want me if they are a little overwhelmed or teired otherwise I'm useless to them as well ( I like to think of myself as their safety net)

 

I know EXACTLY how you feel! DD has her bouts of seperation anxiety and some days it makes for a really long day but when she goes to someone else I feel empty! She slept in our beds for months and I declared one night for her to sleep in her own bed and she has ever since but I still miss cuddling up with her at night..that was 3 months ago that is stopped!

OTOH...I really like it sometimes because it lets me bond more with DS....guess we just want to feel loved and children have such a great way of showing it (who could resist a baby cuddle right?)

Okay, time for me to wake my babies so I can spend time with them................

 

Aww, not pathetic at all. I get jealous too. DH was away for almost a week when his GM died and Cole would go around saying "I want Dada". Now, he's pretty obsessed with grandma, who he saw last weekend, but doesn't get to see too often b/c she lives 8 hrs away. Yesterday, he kept saying "I want Gramma".

But, he's really a Momma's boy and I try to find the silver lining by saying "hey, maybe I could take a bath, run an errand" or something else that is hard to do with a toddler clinging to your leg!