Wants to be held all of the time!

My 10 month olds want to be held all of the time. DS has been this way for a couple of months and now DD is the same. It is not enough to sit and play with them. They are pulling and whining to get into my lap. They don't seem to have separation anxiety from me. They will be happy to go to anyone if only they can be held.

I need some suggestions. I love holding and cuddling with them; however, I can't do it all day long. I try distracting them with toys . . . no good. You're going to probably say it's a phase . . . when will it end.

 

Nefeli used to get upset when I would put her down. I tried to leave her alone for one minute, then 5 minutes and I didn't have to go on because she got used to it and was ok to be put down. Now it's a really quick whine and then she get involved playing with something. Sometimes I need to show her a toy or get a toy going/making noise and this will catch her attention and she won't mind my leaving. Are their toys interesting to them? Is it time to get new ones to get their attention?
Iris will play on her own for sometime but when she wants to be held she wants to be held. Usually she's right and it's her way of telling me that she's been on her own too long, or that she's tired/hungry/needs to be changed.
Good luck. I hope others give you some good ideas to use.

 

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You're going to probably say it's a phase


:laughing: How did you guess! Only kidding, Emma has been doing this to me too, I am not sure what is up? I think with Emma though, it is separation anxiety.

 

My ds is doing this all of a sudden too at 8 months old! And toys don't suffice for him when he wants up too. It's hard! he gets VERY vocal if I don't pick him up when he wants too. Sometimes I have to leave the room if I am just too darn tired physically to get him up. He will sometimes stop complaining then, but the second I come back in, he wants up!

 

I know ... my girls are doing the same thing. I think it's the age and the new independence. I've found that they relax when I give in to them. I just sit and hold them for as long as they want, then they are happier. I take them more places now too ... lapsit at the library, playgroups. Places like that where they can explore and see other people. It gets them out and interested in doing something other than following me and whining. I think they get bored at home and that's usually when the whining sets in.

 

Ugh, this is us, too. I've been taking the kids out more during the day to run errands or to the park. Staying home with all 3 crawling all over me makes me nuts. :icon_eek:

 

Same thing here too!! Becky, is it the twin conspiracy again?