Vent

I know what you 20+ weekers must be thinking (especially you 30+ weekers)… but I need to vent to someone other then my husband… I was complaining so bad last night in the dark of our bedroom that he finally said what we say to our son each night… “Okay hun, NOW tell 3 great things about today” and I, being the lovely smart *** I am gave answers that technically could still be complaints…
I am tired of being practically bedridden… and I’m not and very thankful (I was bedridden with my son from 24 week till birth at 35) so I know it can be worse… and after my BIG bought of vomit, fainting and convulsing… I should be grateful THAT’S over… but every morning I wake up… have to eat a ton of protein (which is more fat then I would usually eat in a 3 day period and why I have gained 13 pounds in 12 weeks)… and I have to wait until 11:00am and then I can do only the basics: grocery store, pick up dry cleaning or hit the bank… and its usually only one of those… then I have to go home and rest… I am a very active person; I have gotten my whole life many comments from people saying they wish they had half my energy…. I work with my husband at his company, I have a 9 year old son were I am the team mom on his soccer team, I am PA prez at my sons school and ran everyday 5 miles on top of my nightly dog walk of a couple more miles and that’s just the basics … all in which my poor husband has had to take over on top of working . Then with out fail, every night at 5:00 no matter if I rested all day or ran errands, I hit a wall, I get a nightly headache and HAVE to lay down because I am more tired then after I have run a marathon. I feel bad for my son… he has watched more TV in the last 2 month then his whole life, and the reason why I am complaining is THE TWINS ARENT EVEN CLOSE TO HERE :nea: !!!!! I haven’t even had ALL the body discomforts I read about… so I’m hoping out of this complain I will hear story of second trimester honeymoons…that I will get energy back, and I will not be living on the edge of a bathroom door… my husband knows I must be weak, if I have an excuse to go buy a whole new wardrobe and I don’t even have the energy to do that… and I’m starting to look funny squeezing into my regular clothes…
Okay, thank you for reading… I am going to try to post positive posts for my next 3 posts… lets see if I can do it
Elizabeth ardon:

 

In the second trimester I was able to do housework again, and I could eat relatively comfortably and I stopped falling asleep 3 times a day. I'm not sure it was a *honeymoon*, but it sure was easier than the first trimester!

 

QUOTE(rubyturquoise @ Oct 30 2007, 09:24 AM) [snapback]473382[/snapback]
In the second trimester I was able to do housework again, and I could eat relatively comfortably and I stopped falling asleep 3 times a day. I'm not sure it was a *honeymoon*, but it sure was easier than the first trimester!


Glad to hear that because I haven’t done a dish since the nausea hit… just anther thing my husband has had to take over… poor guy :sorry:

 

Oh, honey, I was so miserable the first trimester, I spent half my day sleeping and the other half crying. I completely relate!

Now, I feel great going into the third trimester. Yes, my groin muscles hurt like hades when I stand up, but at least I have my energy back!!! Like you, I was a very active person. I ran my most recent marathon three months before I found out I was pregnant. Well, first trimester weight loss and fatigue sent my running to a screeching halt. The second trimester was so much better. I didn't start running again--I'm waiting until after the boys are born to resume full activity, but I can do a lot of the things I normally do in a day. And even though I am getting tired and sore again going into the third tri, I still am so grateful for the reprieve I had the last 14 weeks!!!

 

I felt like crap the first trimester. Once I hit around 14-15 weeks I started to feel alot better. The morning sickness went away, I had some energy back, and I didn't feel like a walking zombie. Now I am starting to feel crappy again, but nothing like the first trimester. It will get better!!!

 

Hi,

Don't feel bad for venting - it's normal . Even though my body was changing more than in my first trimester, I still felt the best in my second trimester. HTH!

 

QUOTE(ladybenz @ Oct 30 2007, 09:38 AM) [snapback]473405[/snapback]
Well, first trimester weight loss and fatigue sent my running to a screeching halt. The second trimester was so much better. I didn't start running again--I'm waiting until after the boys are born to resume full activity, but I can do a lot of the things I normally do in a day. And even though I am getting tired and sore again going into the third tri, I still am so grateful for the reprieve I had the last 14 weeks!!!


My Dr. wanted me to stop Running right at 6 weeks, he said I can use my elliptical… BUT sadly the day after he told me that is when the sickness came and energy left the building… and one of the things getting me through this is the fact that as soon as I get the OK to run I WILL RUN even if that means we stay in dirty clothes longer :blush:
Thank you for the encouragement… all my friend keep reminding me that I WILL feel better the 2nd trimester, but NONE of them have been pregnant with twins, so I feel like I’m doing this all for the first time AGAIN (plus it WAS 10 years ago)

 

QUOTE(Lynner405 @ Oct 30 2007, 09:49 AM) [snapback]473434[/snapback]
I felt like crap the first trimester. Once I hit around 14-15 weeks I started to feel alot better. The morning sickness went away, I had some energy back, and I didn't feel like a walking zombie. Now I am starting to feel crappy again, but nothing like the first trimester. It will get better!!!


I guess my problem (or at least ONE of them) is that I think 1st trimester… 12 weeks, well I hut 12 weeks on Thursday… I cant imagine feeling better all of a sudden in 2 days… but I wont pull my hair out if it’s a week or 2 more… in the scope of a life time spent with my children, what is one bad year… some how saying that is easier then feeling that… at least right now

But thank you, for having good story for me...

 

QUOTE(pamelastwins @ Oct 30 2007, 10:03 AM) [snapback]473467[/snapback]
Don't feel bad for venting - it's normal .



I printed your post and taped it to my husbands monitor… see what a stinker I can be…. :spiteful:

Thank you

 

I didn't even know I was pregnant until 11 weeks!
Which made it even harder, because I had no excuse for the way I was acting! Let me just say one thing- you have a beautiful son and a husband who loves you dearly be grateful for that!! I understand you're frustrated and sick and it sucks but I was such a nutcase my first tri-mester, I'm now doing this alone :/
Don't trip- we all have felt how you feel- you are complete normal, momma

 

I start feeling great around 16 weeks. The fatigue was over. I see why everyone says to get as much done around this time as possible. I wouldn't even know I was pregnant (except for the expanding belly). It'll get better. Keep your chin up

 

QUOTE(vivalalexa @ Oct 30 2007, 10:30 AM) [snapback]473512[/snapback]
I didn't even know I was pregnant until 11 weeks!
Which made it even harder, because I had no excuse for the way I was acting! Let me just say one thing- you have a beautiful son and a husband who loves you dearly be grateful for that!! I understand you're frustrated and sick and it sucks but I was such a nutcase my first tri-mester, I'm now doing this alone :/
Don't trip- we all have felt how you feel- you are complete normal, momma


I have thought that if I didn’t know I was pregnant, I would think I had a major disease or something horrible, so that fact you didn’t know… you must be a ROCK. And you are completely right, I very lucky to have a husband to pick up my slack… its mainly the reason I vented on this site… I don’t want to complain to him after all he has and is doing for me/us… and let me tell YOU, doing this on your own…. :bow2:
Thank you for your insight.. i know i need to buck up

 

QUOTE(lilly_&_hunter @ Oct 30 2007, 10:45 AM) [snapback]473535[/snapback]
I wouldn't even know I was pregnant (except for the expanding belly). It'll get better.


oh that would be a dream come true... but waiting until 16 weeks... AHHHHH

 

I was so not myself the first tri. I couldn't eat, I was tired and moody all the time. I felt like I had the worst hangover everyday of my life! Now, and since about 12-13 weeks I don't even feel pregnant. Well, I am probably a little more tired than normal and my feet hurt sometimes but I am back to my old self! My husband said he knew I was better when I started teasing him and hopping around the house. All my bad jokes returned too!

Hang in there.

I am sure my husband would have a few sympatheic words for your husband right now, but it ended for him eventually. I was a wife puddle as soon as I got home from work.
From what I am told it is all worth it!

 

QUOTE(trouble squared @ Oct 30 2007, 10:56 AM) [snapback]473558[/snapback]
I felt like I had the worst hangover everyday of my life! Now, and since about 12-13 weeks I don't even feel pregnant.


That is exactly how I describe it to my girlfriends who haven’t had children… I said remember back to your worst hang over, but you can’t call in sick because it lasts 3 MONTHS!!!! And going to the grocery store is like cleaning up a bar right when the hang over begins…. And doing dishes, making dinner, making lunches (thank god for cereal in the AM)…oh the list is endless… I think sadly I have scared a couple of my friends away from having kids… but I hope they will change there minds when they meet my new monkeys (I hope…)

And who knows, maybe if i think positively, i will be ALL better next week... Thank you

 

im so right there with u im not myself very moody i snap so easily now and i hate not being able to do my housework and all the things i was doing few months ago--
It was very exciting i had a few days of "good day" dishes,swept floor took the boys to the mall-but i was exhausted that nite and the next and starting throwing up agian --waiting for 2nd tri to hit and feel great

 

QUOTE(2+2more! @ Oct 30 2007, 02:13 PM) [snapback]473888[/snapback]
im so right there with u im not myself very moody i snap so easily now and i hate not being able to do my housework and all the things i was doing few months ago--
It was very exciting i had a few days of "good day" dishes,swept floor took the boys to the mall-but i was exhausted that nite and the next and starting throwing up agian --waiting for 2nd tri to hit and feel great



OHHH that so happened to me last week, mon-thur I was on top of the world, thought it was the beginning of 2nd trimester honeymoon… I would be tired in the PM but nothing like the weeks earlier… and nausea was ALMOST a thing of the past… but Thursday night I was hit so bad with the nausea, vomiting, fainting then convolutions that I had to take a pill to make it stop and my Dr threaten to send me to the hospital for dehydration… and so I had to spend my weekend in bed (not because of Dr.s orders because I couldn’t not be in bed)

Well let me know when your 2nd trimester wonder starts… you’re a few days ahead of me, so you will hopefully shed a glimmer of hope my way…

 

i can relate.
in my first trimester i stayed sick i would not have even been posting on this website if i had knowwn about it i stayed in bed constantly. with every flinch that i made i was vomitting and the nausea was constant i just tried to sleep because i was so miseracle when i was awake! my nausea began to subside at what date exactly i dont remember but i do know that when i was 16 weeks i started working again and i was still getting sick at work but it wasnt as bad in between the spells i felt pretty good but once the nausea hit i had to run to the bathroom or have a bag ready! i had gotten used to it and i was just struggling to keep anything down and the doctor had prescribed me phernergan for the nausea but i was supposed to take that every 4 hours and it made me sleepy so trying to work and taking that medicine was difficult i tried drinking a red bull to stay awake but i dont like those things so i could only get half of it down! but just hand in there i promise it will go away. i lost almost 20 pounds during that time but at this point ive gained that back plus 40 pounds.

my advice is dont stay hung up on ur normal routine it will only stress u out just do what u can and the more u complain the worse everything will seem seriously thinking about what is good ur life will help. anytime i start feeling like everything is horrible i stop and breathe and count my blessings. remember your biggest critic is YOU and u have the power to stress yourself out or keep yourself happy! i would love to have a husband to complaint to but thats not what they are there for and you are making this hard on the both of you. my advice to you is if you want to vent then vent NEVER hold anything in either! BUT always conteract that but by telling your husband how much you appreciate how he listens to you and trys to help you get through things. I am not saying that you dont already do that i dont know if you do but i thought i would say it just to let you know that i am not telling you to keep things bottled up.

also stress is not good for the babies!!! that is the most important thing its the biggest threat to them! tough these next few weeks out and you will be thankful for one mile that you can run everyday instead of five. this pregnancy is for you BUT more importantly your body is a host for two new lives!!! how incredible is that! they are dependly soley on YOU. YOU are the key to their healthy survival for the next 20 to 30 weeks! I will tell you this now too before you get excited and start thinking oh twins they are gonna come early well you might have another thing coming...it IS possible very possible to carry twins to term just as a singleton and is actually preferred as long as you and them are healthy!

and with the food thing. ooooooohhh man i couldnt eat sweets for anything i just wasnt a junkfood eater im more of cereal for breakfast a sub for lunch and grilled chicken for dinner and a glass of milk was always the perfect snack! i have gone through junkfood spells in my pregnancy and with the nausea present you HAVE TO LISTEN to you body!! if you thinkn you want something for dinner and anything form that meal sets off ur nausea get away from it! if anything at all makes u uncomfortable get away from it try to stay in you comfort zone. if you want to eat sour candy for breakfast lettuce for lunch and half a pizza slice for dinner then fo it!! but one thing you must do is drink drink drink dehydration is what you dont want!

but ive carried on enough i pretty sure you know most of this already i just thought i would share!
this is also kind of a vent for me too! thank you fro reading. please dont take offense from anything because i dont know you im just trying to give you something general and something specific at the same time!

God Bless You

 

QUOTE(tementia @ Oct 30 2007, 03:00 PM) [snapback]473958[/snapback]
i can relate.

my advice is dont stay hung up on ur normal routine it will only stress u out just do what u can and the more u complain the worse everything will seem seriously thinking about what is good ur life will help. anytime i start feeling like everything is horrible i stop and breathe and count my blessings. remember your biggest critic is YOU and u have the power to stress yourself out or keep yourself happy! i would love to have a husband to complaint to but thats not what they are there for and you are making this hard on the both of you. my advice to you is if you want to vent then vent NEVER hold anything in either! BUT always conteract that but by telling your husband how much you appreciate how he listens to you and trys to help you get through things. I am not saying that you dont already do that i dont know if you do but i thought i would say it just to let you know that i am not telling you to keep things bottled up.

also stress is not good for the babies!!! that is the most important thing its the biggest threat to them! tough these next few weeks out and you will be thankful for one mile that you can run everyday instead of five. this pregnancy is for you BUT more importantly your body is a host for two new lives!!! how incredible is that! they are dependly soley on YOU. YOU are the key to their healthy survival for the next 20 to 30 weeks! I will tell you this now too before you get excited and start thinking oh twins they are gonna come early well you might have another thing coming...it IS possible very possible to carry twins to term just as a singleton and is actually preferred as long as you and them are healthy!

God Bless You


Thank you…. I do have to remember that he too probably has a few complaints about all this but is being a perfect gentleman about the whole thing… and I’m sure I could tell him that more then I do… and I agree about stress and the babies… I think that’s why I was bedridden with my son… I had lost a pregnancy right before I was pregnant with him and I was soooo afraid I would loose him I stressed over everything and anything (plus I was younger and completely inexperienced in the baby department). So thank you for your reply… and I should take my own advice I give my son and think of the positive in my life, like right, at this very moment I feel great, I’m not nauseous and I had energy to go buy flowers for my back yard, do my sons costume take a shower and soon I will pick my son up and take him to a dance/manors class (it’s the cutest thing him in his suites and all the girls in their white gloves)… So I am thankful… I think I will also shoot my husband an email on his berry while he is out at a clients thanking him for being so great!

PS i LOVE your belly pic on your tracker

 

:hug99: :drinks:
THATS WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT!
just reading that made me feel good! i can feel how you feel in your words. im so happy that you did not take offense to anything i said i was a little worried that i might have said too much! we are only human and that means we are not perfect so things will become overwhelming most of the time. just continue to listen to your body, your babies need you more than anything if they want a great start at life the way you live your life has a 100% impact on them. when u start to feel that stress and your mouth starts going and your face gets hot and your pants get antsy....just STOP! BREATHE in slowly and then exhale and take a moment to yourself. and take your own advice.

I think its just so amazing how most people dont even realize that they are their worst critic and are more than capable of giving themselves the best advice. you have the medicine you need for your ailments you know whats best for you. but when things get crazy around us we tend to forget what most important.

dont expect anything back from your husband i guarantee you that those kind words will make the world seem that much lighter to him so have some gratification in yourself for being able to step outside of your own problems and pregnancy for just a moment and enjoying the holidays with your family! your son will never forget those moments that you spend with him.

AND at the same time (which is what makes women great) FOCUS on yourself , take your breathers, take your meds when necessary do what your body needs and your body will reward you. and please dont feel obligated to respond to me everytime i write soemthing logn like this i am just expressing to you how happy i am that you have a few moments to breathe and enjoy your family and not stress over the way you were before pregnancy. i will keep my prayers with you and your family you are extremely blessed and you deserve the best.

:hug99:

 

I am so glad that I am not the only one who feels like this. My major problem is that I am getting no help from daddy and I already have a 2 1/2 year old running around. Mine like yours has watched more Dora the Explorer than I would like to admit to anyone. I hit 12 weeks today and I suspect that the crappy feeling will be hanging around for about another couple of weeks.

 

QUOTE(texsrngr12 @ Oct 31 2007, 03:42 PM) [snapback]475727[/snapback]
I am so glad that I am not the only one who feels like this. My major problem is that I am getting no help from daddy and I already have a 2 1/2 year old running around. Mine like yours has watched more Dora the Explorer than I would like to admit to anyone. I hit 12 weeks today and I suspect that the crappy feeling will be hanging around for about another couple of weeks.



You let me know when yours goes away and i'll let you know when mine goes away... i hit 12 weeks tomorrow

FYI my son is LOVING my lack of parenting... but he 9... and i THINK he thinks hes getting away with something, but hes not sure... :acute:

 

QUOTE(e mauro @ Oct 30 2007, 08:13 AM) [snapback]473359[/snapback]
I know what you 20+ weekers must be thinking (especially you 30+ weekers)… but I need to vent to someone other then my husband… I was complaining so bad last night in the dark of our bedroom that he finally said what we say to our son each night… “Okay hun, NOW tell 3 great things about today” and I, being the lovely smart *** I am gave answers that technically could still be complaints…
I am tired of being practically bedridden… and I’m not and very thankful (I was bedridden with my son from 24 week till birth at 35) so I know it can be worse… and after my BIG bought of vomit, fainting and convulsing… I should be grateful THAT’S over… but every morning I wake up… have to eat a ton of protein (which is more fat then I would usually eat in a 3 day period and why I have gained 13 pounds in 12 weeks)… and I have to wait until 11:00am and then I can do only the basics: grocery store, pick up dry cleaning or hit the bank… and its usually only one of those… then I have to go home and rest… I am a very active person; I have gotten my whole life many comments from people saying they wish they had half my energy…. I work with my husband at his company, I have a 9 year old son were I am the team mom on his soccer team, I am PA prez at my sons school and ran everyday 5 miles on top of my nightly dog walk of a couple more miles and that’s just the basics … all in which my poor husband has had to take over on top of working . Then with out fail, every night at 5:00 no matter if I rested all day or ran errands, I hit a wall, I get a nightly headache and HAVE to lay down because I am more tired then after I have run a marathon. I feel bad for my son… he has watched more TV in the last 2 month then his whole life, and the reason why I am complaining is THE TWINS ARENT EVEN CLOSE TO HERE :nea: !!!!! I haven’t even had ALL the body discomforts I read about… so I’m hoping out of this complain I will hear story of second trimester honeymoons…that I will get energy back, and I will not be living on the edge of a bathroom door… my husband knows I must be weak, if I have an excuse to go buy a whole new wardrobe and I don’t even have the energy to do that… and I’m starting to look funny squeezing into my regular clothes…
Okay, thank you for reading… I am going to try to post positive posts for my next 3 posts… lets see if I can do it
Elizabeth ardon:



My wife and I are having twins and after 4 IVF's.....we're very excited and she's 9 weeks pregnant, but has been in bed with nausea after week 4 and now again today. The Dr. prescribed Tigan which is generic for Trimethobenzamide, and she finally decided to take it tonight. My thought is better to take than have to go back in for IV's like after week 4. Also just had her flu shot yesterday...any correlation?

Both babies looked great in the US yesterday. No other kids so I'm sure our lives are about to change.

 

QUOTE(hmaude2 @ Nov 3 2007, 12:38 AM) [snapback]479143[/snapback]
My wife and I are having twins and after 4 IVF's.....we're very excited and she's 9 weeks pregnant, but has been in bed with nausea after week 4 and now again today. The Dr. prescribed Tigan which is generic for Trimethobenzamide, and she finally decided to take it tonight. My thought is better to take than have to go back in for IV's like after week 4. Also just had her flu shot yesterday...any correlation?

Both babies looked great in the US yesterday. No other kids so I'm sure our lives are about to change.


Congratulations to you and your wife… I agree with you about the nausea meds… I have an rx for them but only take them as needed, (if I throw up for more then 12 hours… I don’t want dehydration to set in and loose them). So far I have taken them 2 times (in one week) but I know what your wife is feeling about taking them… my husband and I had the same "debate" (I posted that debate call nausea and rx) it finally comes down to this… if I don’t take them, we all might not make it (I faint when I throw up).
Good luck to you and I hope she if feeling better soon, i now have really bad days and days i'm top of the world...

 

I felt like crap the 1st trimester. Not pain, just extremely tired and nauseous. The 2nd wasn't so bad but I started getting uncomfortable around 18-20 weeks at night and now, forget about it! I'm in pain all the time from 6am to 6am the next and it keeps going. No relief in site.

 

QUOTE(Cynthia3200 @ Nov 3 2007, 09:00 AM) [snapback]479271[/snapback]
I felt like crap the 1st trimester. Not pain, just extremely tired and nauseous. The 2nd wasn't so bad but I started getting uncomfortable around 18-20 weeks at night and now, forget about it! I'm in pain all the time from 6am to 6am the next and it keeps going. No relief in site.


:shok:

NOOOOOO!!!!!

well i hope something magical happens for you and you feel better (and i hope it doesnt take until they are born)