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I can deal with the little anxieties we all deal with on a daily basis, with varying degrees of seriousness. Morgan having colic for months - the crying non stop every single evening until she finally grew out of at about 5 months. I even did well with the disappointment of having to stop breastfeeding when my milk simply dried up one day (2 months ago) and no amount of pumping, taking supplements that made me smell like maple syrup, or changing my diet replenished my supply.
I have tolerated pretty well the anxieties about Hunter's right eye being a tad bit smaller than the left one which no one can explain; and I'm still coping pretty well with the fact that both babies still aren't STTN and wake up once or twice to drink full bottles of formula - my 7yro did the same so I figure, it's just the way my kids are. We are exhausted but you do what you have to do. Nor am I stressing about Hunter not crawling at all while Morgan's not only crawling, but she's cruising and trying to walk independently. Hey, each baby is different.

I refuse to fuss about Morgan's recurrent yeast infection which requires antifungal cream to cure, nor am I going to worry about her eczema, which she's had since she was 4 weeks old all over her body. Or the chronic cold and cough they get, which seems to last foreever and we ca't given them anything, except use the humidifier and saline drops.

None of these bother me as much as finding out yesterday, that my wonderful beautiful husband has Hodgkins' Lymphoma - most curable form of cancer - but cancer nonetheless. I am a worry wort - can't help it. Now I'm suddenly feeling overwhelmed with EVERYTHING!!!!! Work, the children and now this. It may not seem like much but when you put it all together, it feels so overwhelming! But he's handling it well and I'm trying to be strong but good grief!! Thanks for letting me air myself out and vent.....

 

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this cancer diagnosis. I'm sad to say, I understand too well what you are dealing with. My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer when our twins were 6 months old. As mothers of twins we have to deal with so much that this serious health threat seems like the last straw, doesn't it?

All I can say is that you need to rely on your family and friends for support and you will make it through. My family helped so much while my husband underwent surgery and could't help with the kids for 4 weeks. There were times I didn't think I'd make it through but you take one day at a time. There is life at the end of the cancer tunnel. I promise.

My husband is nearly 1 year cancer free and we are celebrating with a weekend away in Philadelphia. Plan your cancer victory tour too! It helps to have distractions.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

Huge Hugs to you!!! Deep breaths!

I'm sorry to hear about your DH. As you said, most curable kind you can have, but still cancer never the less. My dad is a 25 year survivor of Hodgkin's. :grouphug:

Hang in there!!

 

Oh my, that would terrify me too!! I am so sorry!!

 

Thank you! Not knowing what to expect is the scary bit.

christine - we live in Philadelphia. Hope you enjoy your weekend in our city! the weather's supposed to gorgeous this weekend. do you mind sharing your DH's experience with treatment with me? How did he cope? How did you cope?

chillers and twoplustow - thanks so very much!

 

i'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. take deep breaths and continue to remind yourself that the cure rate for hodgkins lymphoma is excellent. we bought our current house from a man who raised a family here and his son was diagnosed with hodgkins lymphoma probably 15 years ago. he survived and went on to be a champion wrestler and tennis player. just graduated from college, in fact.

it is an incredibly hard piece of news to absorb, so please be gentle with yourself. you're allowed to be overwhelmed, you're allowed to feel scared and sorry for yourself and all of the other perfectly normal things you're feeling right now. don't punish yourself for being overwhelmed, let yourself feel it and remember that this too shall pass.

i manage the cancer program for webmd, which includes lymphoma. if i can help in any way by pointing you to information or helping you find resources to help you cope, please send me a PM.

 

Wow! Sending hugs and prayers your way! 2 weeks before I delivered DH had a cyst removed from his head that had to be sent away for testing b/c the dr. wasn't sure what it was. Although it turned out to be just a cyst, my fear for that weak was nearly unbearable. I can't say that I can fully understand what you are going through - only try to imagine. But thankfully these days science has come so far - and at least his cancer is very curable. Both of my parents were diagnosed with different cancers within one week of each other, and both are cancer free now. KUP (is that 'keep us posted'?)

 

I am so sorry. It is perfectly understandable that you are worried and overwhelmed. You sound like a very strong woman and I wish you and your family health and blessings.

 

Wow, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. My mom had Hodgkins back in 1970 when the survival rate was 5% - she beat all the odds!
May your DH's treatment go as smoothly as possible! Take up friends and family on any offers of help! Feel free to vent away!