Vent about name fighting

I just think I need to vent
This weekend my parents came to visit us and help with nursery and everything else ...
and my mom asked my son about the name for his brother and sister.
He said that his brother would be Daniel and he again forget about his sister's name so I remind him Anastasia
as soon as my mom heard the name she asked how it woudl be pronounce in English and after I pronounce it she start yelling at me that we decided to screw up the live for our only daugther and this is good Russian name but terrible in English and it sound the same way as anaesthesia and etc.....

I was surprised and piss off at the same time. after she finish her speach she told us that we have 2 weeks to come up with another name. so I said that we already filled out all birth certificate paper and cannot change anything and we actually doesn't want to.

We want to call her Stacey ( nick name) in English and Nastya in Russian. but I am thinking might be we can change the spelling of the name so it woudl pronounce more closer to Russian pronounciation?

anna - sta- c - ya the end should be pronounce as letter 'c' or like 'sea' and ya. instead of sha/zha.
Any suggestion?
and sorry for long vent.

 

Your mom had her chance to name her kids. YOU can name your children what you want. :hug: We kept the chosen names secret until birth. IF you see her side to the argument, you may consider switching, but the choice is yours. It sounds as if you chose it due to heritage which is a very honorable way of choosing. I think it is sweet.

 

Anastasia - is very popular and beautifull name in Russia
and yes about heritage

our first son named Alexei ( like prince Alexei from Romanov Family) and we decided with girl name Anastasia from that family too and Daniel - was one of the popular prince too but from another timeframe.
I just really like that names. might be because we grew up with that names

 

Anastasia is also a beautiful name in English. I don't know what she is talking about.

 

Go for it. Your daughter's name is great. :good:
As an "English" nickname, what about Annie? Or Anna?

I love, love, love Slavic names. I wanted Nadia for a girl (I'm not fond of Nadezhda, but I love Nadia). I also love Anya.
I like the sound of Nedelya - it sounds so elegant and pretty to a native English-speaker. It would be ok, right, even if the meaning it a bit silly for a child? :huh:

 

such a pretty name.

I know its too late now, but if u have more children don't tell her the name beforehand, save u the stress

 

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Anastasia is also a beautiful name in English. I don't know what she is talking about.


I agree! It's lovely.

I also love the nickname of Tasha...not sure if you are thinking about that as a nickname.

 

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Anastasia - is very popular and beautifull name in Russia
and yes about heritage

our first son named Alexei ( like prince Alexei from Romanov Family) and we decided with girl name Anastasia from that family too and Daniel - was one of the popular prince too but from another timeframe.
I just really like that names. might be because we grew up with that names

I think you don't change a thing. This is YOUR child and if you change her name to please others you will always question yourself.

I think it is a beautiful name.

 

My family doesn't like the name we've chosen for our daughter either (Noelle). I couldn't care less! I know they'll fall in love with her the minute they meet her. Truthfully, it's none of their business.

 

It's a lovely name don't change it!

 

We wouldn't tell my mom our children's names...she kept pressuring me to tell her. She said you better not come up with anything weird, or else your child will get made fun of! My husband and I love St Francis and St Clare, so we picked those names - except in Italian! (we aren't Italian either!!!) I was SO FRUSTRATED with my mother, thinking that we would choose names that would be weird - it is none of her business!!! Now she loves her grandchildren and I think (hope?) she loves their names too!

I LOVE ANASTASIA!! How beautiful!

 

I love the name you have chosen for your daughter. Your MIL did have her turn to name her kids, you get to call your children, whatever you and your husband agree on. Her treatment of you is rude and disrespectful, please don't pick out another name because of her reaction. My good friend has a daughter named Anna (pronounced AHNA) and you can use that as a nickname if you wish.

 

Girls, thank you for your support.
we are not changing the name. And I am not going to. about not saying if you have older kids they will tell all your secrets to grandparents
but we didn't even try to make this secret at least it's alreayd 2 weeks before delivery and we finally made the decision for ourself. so when my mom ( this is another part what is killing me this is No my MIL she is ok with name or she is quiet about it) start asking she didnt ask me. she asked Alexei about his brother and sister names
and of couse he told
About nick name we thought with Dh and both of us doesn't like Anna but both like Stacey so we will stay with that nick name
and I didn't lie when I said to mom thatI filled out all paper. I really did when I was preregestering for the hospital because we just agreed on our middle name so why do the same in the hospital when we alreayd decided with names.
I did research on Social security site the Name Anastasia - on 360 place. so it is somehow popular ( one of my mom point was that nobody knows it.)

 

Good for you, it is your choice. Once the babies are born your mom will forget all about whether or not she likes the names!

 

Anastasia - sounds like a princess to me. Perfect!

I would pronounce it anna - stay - zee - ah. So if you want the soft "S" sound, how about

Anastaciea
Anastacea
Anastassia

I know you already have the paperwork filled out, but she's going to spend her life with it, and it's really annoying to have to keep correcting people.

 

Hi. Im sorry your mom said that, but these are YOUR babbies, not hers--she had and named hers. I think the names you picked out are perfect for your little ones. If mom does not like it, then she will just have to learn to like it, and keep her opinions to herself. Part of the fun of becomming parents is picking out names YOU like.. and not anyone else. You have the right to be pissed off for her comments

 

For this reason my wife and I are keeping names to ourselves. I agree with those who say it's your kids, you choose what you want. Same goes for parenting decisions. You have an interesting wrinkle here, with your background being a very strong one. My only parallel is a friend of mine who's family is Greek (Greek Orthodox) and lives in Chicago. His wife is American and Catholic from Kansas City. Their wedding was a huge mess because family members who shouldn't have had any say were suddenly chiming in on the plans, and at one point the entire Greek side of the family threatened to boycott simply because the wedding wasn't going to be in Chicago. Basically the story ended by the two of them telling their respective families what they said goes and to pretty much shut up because it was their wedding. Each side was a little bruised but ultimately they got over their own opinions and it was a great time. Point being, I feel for you to have to put up with family differences, so do your best to stand your ground and tell grandma to get over it. Good luck!