Vasectomy? Sperm Cryopreservation?

Hey everyone!

My hubby is 33 and I am 30. We have 17 month old twin girls. My husband is NOT the type of man who "needs" to have a boy. He, in fact, is very sure that he does not want any more children. Let me also mention that we were both born and raised in NC and we moved up north for him to go to podiatry school at Temple University a year ago when the girls were 2 months old. We have no family here and we will be here 3.5 more years. Then he has to do a residency which is 2-3 years and could be anywhere. We have a "tough" road ahead of us as it is.

I don't want any more children either. However, on one hand I want him to have a vasectomy, so I can go off the pill (which I HATE!!). But on the other hand, I worry about silly things.....like what if one or both of the girls died....wouldn't we want to have the ability to have another child....or what if I die and he gets married to another woman and he wants to have another child with her.....

I am sure that all of you think that I am crazy, just like my husband does!! So, I was thinking that the answer could be for him to get the vasectomy over his Christmas vacation and also do "sperm cryopreservation". Does anyone have any experience with this???? (His dad is a urologist and we are thinking of having it done over the Christmas vacation)

I told him that I am 99.999999% sure that I want him to have a vasectomy....but you never know what the future holds....and that the cryopreservation would make me "feel better".....

Okay, so please feel free to comment!!!

Thanks!

 

Nope I don't think you are crazy at all. I'm 95% sure that we don't want anymore children (especially after Carli refusing to sleep tonight). I hate the pill and we have discussed DH having a vasectomy but I worry that in the future I'll change my mind and want another. Let me know what you find out about the cyroperservation!

 

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Nope I don't think you are crazy at all. I'm 95% sure that we don't want anymore children (especially after Carli refusing to sleep tonight). I hate the pill and we have discussed DH having a vasectomy but I worry that in the future I'll change my mind and want another. Let me know what you find out about the cyroperservation!


I also think it sounds sensible. For the relatively minimal annual storage fee (I pay $250 a year), you'll be leaving your options open - I don't remember what the initial costs were, but in the big picture, it's not a lot. (My twins were born two years after their dad lost his battle with cancer.)

Best,
Mia

 

A freind of mine and her DH had a vac. after their 2nd child. Now that the youngest is 2.5, they are scheduling a reversal bcause they changed their mind. Maybe you should get an IUD and not have a period or deal with the pill?

 

Well shortly after my DH got his vasectomy, I was diagnosed with endometriosis and had to go back on the pill. What a waste that would have been if that was the primary reason!

We were 99.9999% sure we didn't want more kids either. And heaven forbid if something should happen to me, DH said he already had two kids to support and that he would STILL not want more (nor would he want to have babies with another woman if our kids were younger). As for something happening to one of the kids, that would be awful but we would cross that bridge if we ever had to.

I have lots of room in my heart for more children. But I am practical. We both have career goals that have been put on the back burner so we could have a family; we would like to resume those goals in the near future. We have a small house and don't want to move. There are lots of reasons. In decisions like these, I let my head guide my decisions and not my heart. If that makes any sense.

I guess what I am saying is that if you are unsure, then wait.

 

WE are done have kids so my dh had a vasectomy. If for any reason he changes his mind and wants more (heaven for bid something happens to me and he remarries) he can have a reversal. My Uncle had a reversal and had no problems after that with his sperm and could produce children if he wanted to but unfortunetly my aunt had a fertilitly problem and couldn't get pregnant (he got his done after his second marriage and first child, my aunt is his 3rd wife).

I say if you are sure you don't want any then have him get it done. But know that it's still not 100% that some people on this site still got pregnant after their husbands got it done and were tested saying that all sperm was dead. You could have an IUD put in like someone else suggested and then you would be able to go off the pill or try a different way to prevent pregnancy (patch, condums, charting dates).

 

A friend of mine has gone through this. She has 2 kids 11 & 7 and they were done-hubby had a vasectomy after 7 YO was born. Then about a year ago she decided she REALLY wanted another child, so instead of having a reversal which might not have worked, her DH had a procedure done by the urologist where they went in and removed some tissue from his "parts" that still contained live sperm. They did and IUI with the sperm they retreived when she was ready to ovulate. She's now 20 weeks pregnant...Amazing what they can do nowadays. BTW, her DH supposedly was pretty uncomfortable after his tissue retreival, but was up and about w/in a few days. I think though that cryopreserving may be the route to go if you are unsure, less procedures involved for you both. I also know a couple who had a successful vasectomy reversal and ended up with twins!