Urg...I feel so mean tonight!

We've been having a horrible time putting C&C to bed recently. They get so upset when we put them down, they make up reasons to get back up. Most of the time they just want us there. They also come and sleep with us all night long, we'll get up and put them back in their beds and they just come back again. It literally is taking 1.5-2 hours/night for them to finally settle down and it's not like we're putting them to bed too early!

Tonight my game plan is to just pick them up, not say a word and put them back in their beds. So far I've done it about 15 times. Just now I finally broke a bit when Caleb came out saying "oh no" and I asked him what was wrong. He just smiled at me so I know that nothing is wrong, he just doesn't want to go to bed.

They're both crying and screaming right now I feel so mean but being nice doesn't work anymore so I don't know what else to do.

 

QUOTE(ButterflyKisses @ Aug 6 2008, 09:27 PM) [snapback]917762[/snapback]
Tonight my game plan is to just pick them up, not say a word and put them back in their beds. So far I've done it about 15 times.

I have seen this done sooo many times on SuperNanny. It's amazing how long it takes sometimes but it seems like the parents always have success. I remember her saying the main thing is no eye contact and no words.

GOOD LUCK!! :hug99: I can't imagine how frustrating that is.

 

Good luck! Two nights ago a separated my girls and sat in the hallway between the 2 rooms for almost an hour till they both settled down.
I had Sydney telling me "Mommy you made me cry" .
Good luck, you can do it.

 

Oh, that's so hard. You have to think of it this way: your kids need sleep. Depriving them of sleep is mean. Helping them learn to fall asleep (and stay in bed) is a healthy skill that will last them a lifetime. To me, you sound like a great mom.

 

We have had to do the same thing. You are not mean. :hug99:

 

You are doing a great job Momma!!


I know it is hard.

Good luck!!

 

Thanks for all the responses. It seemed to work...finally. After a while (probably about 30+ trips back to bed) Caleb finally got it and went to sleep while Connor was still screaming. I ended up going in, and sitting at the foot of Connors bed for a few minutes while he calmed down. I didn't say anything or look at him but it did the trick!

We've been having the same issue at nap time and today they got up and I put them back and they're asleep already - so once! Hopefully we have success tonight too.

 

QUOTE(ButterflyKisses @ Aug 7 2008, 01:38 PM) [snapback]918959[/snapback]
We've been having the same issue at nap time and today they got up and I put them back and they're asleep already - so once! Hopefully we have success tonight too.


:Clap: WTG Mom! :hug99: You should be so proud that you stuck with it and made it work. I'm hoping tonight you make alot less trips. :good:

 

Have you thought about putting a gate over the door?

I had struggles at bedtime for a while and had to severely alter their naps at 2.5 yrs. old. They didn't need as much of a nap during the day at that point and it helped with bedtime a tremendous amt.!!! :hug99: I feel ya!! I had issues and thought it would NEVER end!

 

QUOTE(~* dfaut *~ @ Aug 7 2008, 04:53 PM) [snapback]919331[/snapback]
Have you thought about putting a gate over the door?

I had struggles at bedtime for a while and had to severely alter their naps at 2.5 yrs. old. They didn't need as much of a nap during the day at that point and it helped with bedtime a tremendous amt.!!! :hug99: I feel ya!! I had issues and thought it would NEVER end!


Gate helped my girls till they figured out how to open the door with the gate on it. Did i mention that they can climb over the gate?

 

I too was going to ask about their naps. How old exactly are your boys? My girls are almost 28 months and I'm finding more and more that they don't always need a nap. When they DON'T nap, they fall asleep in less than 5 minutes. Out cold. If your boys do still nap and are just not even close to being ready to give them up, perhaps just shortening them may help them to feel more ready to sleep and physically unable to stay awake at bedtime. I think the gate on the door may also be a good idea but you know your boys better than us