Update on....are these feelings normal?

I had the conversation with DH last night. I straight out told him that I feel that if we keep going down this path, he will not be in my future. It kind of shocked him. I finally feel that he listened to me and brought somethings that I am doing that I did not realize.

I do agree that things are just different. He mentioned that I just do not seem in control of my emotions. I agree in some aspects, but not fully. Yes, I am different. I mean everything about me is different. I made homemade pesto yesterday....I hate to cook! So, I talked to him...thats all I can do. I hope he listened to me, I hope he makes an effort because I will do my best to make an effort to be better.

It does take two people to make things work!

Jenn

 

:clapping: I hope he really takes in what you told him. I find that my DH doesn't know if I'm crying b/c I'm stressed, PMSing or really angry with him. I am working at expressing myself better verbally, though it is tough!

 

I'm glad you talked to him & hope things improve. :hug:

 

i'm so glad that you talked to him and he seemed receptive. and yes, you probably have changed, a lot! motherhood does that... as far as being in control of your emotions, you are probably still processing you pregnancy hormones, your boys are only 5 months old after all!! i know it took me a long time to get back to an even keel emotionally. i'm glad that he brought things up too, he was an active participant in the conversation!

i hope things get better for you, all you can do is be aware and keep trying and keep loving each other despite the challenges and hard times.

 

Hi Jenn,

I just read your original post. You made the right move telling him what you did. My husband and I got into a similar rough patch after our first child was born. I felt like I was talking to a brick wall all the time. It wasn't until I broke down one morning and said I wasn't happy and wanted marriage counseling that he woke up. He was completely shocked I felt that way and changes happened real quick. We've been doing pretty well since then. I hope this was the wake-up call your DH needed too and that things will get better for you both!

Lots of hugs! :grouphug:

 

Jenn, I'm glad that you talked to him :hug: I'm glad that he was receptive.

 

I'm glad you talked to him Jenn. I hope things only improve! :hug:

 

I'm so glad you really talked things through. It's is such a big adjustment for us all, i hope you both find roles your comfortable with soon

 

Hugs, thoughts, prayers.

 

I am glad you talked. I hope things improve for you both.