uhhh Im so frustrated....work related...

Hi Everyone..hope you can give me some advise...

I am 27 weeks pg. with twins and althought its been a good noneventfull pregnancy, Im starting to feel REALLY tired, terrible back pain, hemrroids (sp?), and the list goes on and on. Im 5'2 and the weight of these babies is getting to me, specially in my tailbone where it feels like I have a pinched nerve or something....ok enough whinning here.

I went to my dr. a few days ago and told her I was ready to start slowing down at work. She knows my back is killing me and just sitting all day is very painfull for me. I have two older daughters and between my work, their schook, house work etc. I have not had a chance to even start getting things ready for these little ones. She told me that I had no medical reason NOT to work. Im not trying to be lazy and live off of disability or anything like that.... I cant just come out and quit my job or I will lose my insurance. She wrote me a small note that said that I was ready to start my maternity leave. Well thats not acceptable as a reason to leave work. I am so miserable....I hate to complain because I do have a desk job, but my back and my roids are killing me!!! What difference is it to her....Its not like Im asking her to do something terrible. I just want to slow down so I can get ready for these babies while I can still walk (barely).

Have any of you had this problem and if so how could I approach it so she will write me a good "medical" note....or just say that I need to be off work.

Sorry for the whinning...Im just so miserable and I dont know what I can do about it....change drs. has crossed my mind!!! Shes not a specialists and I wonder how many twin moms she has actually dealt with!!!

thanks for your help..

Betsy

 

I am surprised that she is reluctant to give you the note. I went to half days at 20 weeks with the twins and stopped work at 28 weeks. My doctor decided on both counts. With Liam,I stopped work at 37 weeks. I simply told my doctor about my aches and pains, the difficulty of my commute, etc and he wrote a note. I would discuss it with her and tell her all your concerns. A twin pregnancy is definitely different than a singleton and if you aren't feeling well enough to work full time and care for the kids, she needs to understand this. Do you see a specialist at all?

 

Poor thing, I know exactly how you feel...my dr told me on monday that I could go on disability...he said that with singleton it is 4 weeks before but with twins there is no reason not to stop working now if I am at all uncomfortable. I'm not sure why your dr. doesn't want you to stop, maybe get a second opinion?

 

I'm sorry you are so miserable. My doc never would give me the no work word, but I didn't want him to. Even when I was so miserable, I was so scared about not having enough money that I wanted to keep working. Now, look at me. I am a SAHM. I should have just had faith it would work out. Sorry I don' have any advice for you. But here are some BIG 's for you. I hope you get feeling better.

 

I'm so sorry you are so miserable. I know how you feel - though i have thankfully been spared the 'roids. It IS surprising that your doc is reluctant to give you a note: i would just ask her for it, tell her about your concerns and see WHY she won't do so. It's not like you're asking her to do anything that is legally sketchy. Besides, sitting all day is a good way to get some really good leg edema! Hope this works out for you.

BTW -you're NOT whining, you're making two PEOPLE -that's double the load for the factory! And being small means there's less room in there to start with!