Ughhhh - Long vent

Does anyone else feel completely exhausted and like you get no freakin help at all? I mean, i guess i'm just a little ticked off and need to get it out. Since the boys were born i believe my husband has had like 6 jobs. They have been awesome jobs but amazingly, he seems to loose them for one reason or another. It's NEVER his fault according to him and he always seem to blame it on someone else or something else. For instance, his x worked at the last place and she insisted that she was either going to break us up or get him fired. (This next part happens all the time) He went into work that night and insisted that he had a funny feeling that they were going to fire him. Low and behold, he called an hour later and he was on his freakin way home b/c they "let him go". Anyways, she got him fired but that's not my point. My point is is that he cant keep a job and we're behind on bills and I cant get him to understand that we need to pay bills and feed the babies. When we go to Walmart to get groceries (which in the time he hasnt had a job, we've maxed out 3 credit cards which we had just gotten payed off) he seems to find things that he needs. These things consist of model cars....he collects them. He puts them in the cart and god freakin forbid that i say no he not get them b/c then i'm the worst person in the world. He wont talk to me the whole rest of the day. We're so behind on bills, we have pretty much emptied our savings account and our checking account is pretty much sitting on zero. I'm not sure what to do anymore. he goes out for like 2 hours to put in applications at places and then comes home and sleeps the rest of the flippin day saying that he's tired from getting up with the boys at night. BTW, i get up with them most of the time unless they need to eat at the same time and then i get him up. So anyways, he's home sleeping and i'm taking care of the babies...when do i get a break? I'm so exhausted but if i ask for him to watch them so i can take a nap he says "what? your leaving me with both of them? whatever amanda, do what you want...." and then wont talk to me the rest of the night. I also feel like I cant trust him b/c when i'm gone somewhere and my MIL comes over, they do things behind my back and then tell me about them after the fact, like the other day, they gave Brenden a cheese curl. the only way i found out was that he had cheese all over his clothes when he woke up from a nap. My DH said "well, amy ( his sister) gave trenton (her son) cheese curls when he was 5 months"....yeah well, trenton is 5 now and weighs 100 lbs. think about it. Anyways, i guess everything is just stressing me out and him not having a job isnt helping. Really i just needed to get that out and vent. Thanks!

 

Does anyone else feel completely exhausted and like you get no freakin help at all? I mean, i guess i'm just a little ticked off and need to get it out. Since the boys were born i believe my husband has had like 6 jobs. They have been awesome jobs but amazingly, he seems to loose them for one reason or another. It's NEVER his fault according to him and he always seem to blame it on someone else or something else. For instance, his x worked at the last place and she insisted that she was either going to break us up or get him fired. (This next part happens all the time) He went into work that night and insisted that he had a funny feeling that they were going to fire him. Low and behold, he called an hour later and he was on his freakin way home b/c they "let him go". Anyways, she got him fired but that's not my point. My point is is that he cant keep a job and we're behind on bills and I cant get him to understand that we need to pay bills and feed the babies. When we go to Walmart to get groceries (which in the time he hasnt had a job, we've maxed out 3 credit cards which we had just gotten payed off) he seems to find things that he needs. These things consist of model cars....he collects them. He puts them in the cart and god freakin forbid that i say no he not get them b/c then i'm the worst person in the world. He wont talk to me the whole rest of the day. We're so behind on bills, we have pretty much emptied our savings account and our checking account is pretty much sitting on zero. I'm not sure what to do anymore. he goes out for like 2 hours to put in applications at places and then comes home and sleeps the rest of the flippin day saying that he's tired from getting up with the boys at night. BTW, i get up with them most of the time unless they need to eat at the same time and then i get him up. So anyways, he's home sleeping and i'm taking care of the babies...when do i get a break? I'm so exhausted but if i ask for him to watch them so i can take a nap he says "what? your leaving me with both of them? whatever amanda, do what you want...." and then wont talk to me the rest of the night. I also feel like I cant trust him b/c when i'm gone somewhere and my MIL comes over, they do things behind my back and then tell me about them after the fact, like the other day, they gave Brenden a cheese curl. the only way i found out was that he had cheese all over his clothes when he woke up from a nap. My DH said "well, amy ( his sister) gave trenton (her son) cheese curls when he was 5 months"....yeah well, trenton is 5 now and weighs 100 lbs. think about it. Anyways, i guess everything is just stressing me out and him not having a job isnt helping. Really i just needed to get that out and vent. Thanks!

 

WOW Amanda, you are in an impossible situation!! I hate to hear stories like this because no matter what, I can't help you! Sorry!

 

Amanda: This is sad to hear. I have had my share of this stuff too. My Dh is now looking for Job #3 since I was pregnant with these guys. Its very frustrating and I only can say I'm here if you want to talk. Here's a too.

 

Oh sweetie, I wish there was advice or help I could give you. I'm sorry your DH is letting you down, I hope he wakes up to reality soon!

 

Dear Amanda, I don't agree w/PP - NO situation is impossible. Don't let yourself think that either. Is there any twin organization in your area you can turn to for help (clothes, toys, etc.) Can you go to a social service organization in your area? Look in the front of your telephone book for one. What about area churches? All of us have points in our lives where we HAVE to have help from others. Can you get free financial advice from organization in area - again, check the front of telephone book. Can you write down how much money is coming in and then track where you and husband are spending this money and show him in black and white to maybe get him to realize what is going on? Is there any way you could work while a member of YOUR famly or someone YOU trusted watched the babies?? DON'T GIVE UP.

 

Tell him if he doesn't get a job soon you're going to put all his model cars on eBay to pay the bills.

I'm sorry your DH is giving you grief, i thought I'd give you something fun to fantasize about

 

I agree, I would put his cars on Ebay and tell him he has to help out one way. Either get a job or they go up for auction in a week.

 

I agree with PP no situation is impossible it sure as heck may feel like it but you just have to find your way.

I also agree that if theres no job soon stick them care up on Ebay... When we came into $$ trouble my Dh started selling off his sproty collection he had worked his whole life to get... he didnt get nearly what they were worth or what he paid out for them but at the moment it gave us what we needed.

Call around and contact you Family Independ. Agency.... If you have no income at all they will be able to help you.

I hope things look up for you really soon...