UGH! Soooo annoyed!

Don't get me wrong-my inlaws do A LOT for dh and I. If it weren't for them, who knows where we would be. So for that-I am grateful, beyond words. FIL is a successful business man and has helped dh and I buy our houses, etc...(we pay him monthly vs paying the bank extra $$$). Anyways...

My parents were over today as my mom brought my grandmother to see the kids and have dinner. DH's parents were over so dh could cut wood for FIL and MIL powerwashed some of the siding on the garage/house(FIL does NOTHING). Anyways... DH and I went out to a movie and my mom and grandmother watched the boys.

Last weekend-we were busy. We had a party Saturday, then Sunday was Father's Day and we went to SIL's for lunch. Today the boys had music, then dh had his soccer party right after. Tomorrow?

It was SUPPOSED to be a day for me and dh to STAY HOME, RELAX, and SPEND TIME WITH OUR BOYS. ALONE. Something that we NEVER get to do. EVER. Every freakin weekend we have to go SOMEWHERE with the inlaws-or they come here. EVERY WEEKEND. My family? My dad cooks Tue or Thur and I take the boys to see them. It's less than a 2 hour visit as we have to get home for bedtime.

Next weekend we have yet another party(on dh's side again) to go to. No staying home and relaxing. This brings me to why I am posting. Because MIL called dh at almost 10pm to have us over for lunch tomorrow. Why? You saw them today, you saw them Friday. And if you didn't see them tomorrow-you know she would see them Monday.

I am just really annoyed. Dh just can't say no. Ever. DH doesn't get home until 5:15pm every night-and then he had soccer games, practices, etc.. The boys get ready for bed by 6:30pm. How much time is he spending with them? That's what weekends are for-for us to spend together as a family. And-we will go there-and want to leave within 2 hours to get the boys down for a nap-and she will say, "Oh wait. Stay longer. We have dessert. They can sleep here."

Did I mention we are going to be in Italy for 2.5 weeks with her???????? She's going to see them EVERY WAKING HOUR. UGH! I am so upset about this-we have not had a weekend to ourselves in such a long time-that's all I want. Is that too much to ask??????????????

If you got this far-I'm impressed!

 

Meaghan,

It is not too much to ask. It makes perfect sense that you need your space and time to unwind. I hope this changes for you soon :hug99: .

 

I got no advice, MILs are 50% of the reason I'll nver get married.

I hope you can get a day off! I know it makes me a little crazy having to deal with anyone every day.

 

yup i read the whole thing and TOOOOTALLY relate. i'll have to add to this later when i'm alone!

 

Do we have the same MIL?! Mine just invited us over today for lunch and swimming. My DH works on Saturday so this is his only day off. He too commented that he feels like he never has a day off, always have to go to MILs or she comes here. BUT he can't say no either. Not to mention that I can't really stand my MIL, so I have that added in! She also does ALOT for us financially...............I think that is her way of having some sort of control over us and she feels she can do or say anything she wants re: babies. I feel your pain!

 

are our mil's related? we've been to my il's almost every day this week. they live like 3 minutes away, so we stay for an hour and a half and then we have to go cuz i have to feed them and put htem down for a nap. mil says, "oh, they're just fine. they'll be okay. i'll walk around with them." oh, so walking around is going to curb her hunger? and the, "they can sleep here" drives me nuts. we live 3 MINUTES AWAY. justletme take them home so they can sleep in their own beds. my parents live an hour away an di haven't been over there in over a month because his family has always had stuff going on. and as SOON as we get to their house, fil is like, "what can we give them to eat?" NOTHING. it's not time for them to eat. they cannot eat the stuff youwant to give them, anyway. i don't need to be feeding my babies 24/7. they throw up enough as it is. dh is always defending them because these are the only grandchildren that live so close (the others live like 7 hours away), so it's like their first grandchildren. but you know what? these ARE my parents FIRST grandchildren adn they are so overjoyed, and dh gets mad because he says that my parents "hog" the babies. my parents can't help it. they're just so excited, they can't stop loving on them. at least my parents don't try to feed my kids crap, and try to make them skip their naps. dh always suggests his mom could watch the girls while we go out, but never suggests MY mom. well, my mom does a betterjob. marina will not eat for MIL. and MIL won't try hard enough to get her to finish her bottle. so when i get home i have to feed her at an odd time to make up for the oz she didn't get. my mom is firmer and makes sure they eat what they're supposed to. MIL just wants to sit in a chair and hold them the whole time. my babies are VERY active and get bored quickly. right away she's like, "oh, they're hungry." or, "oh, they're so tired." no, they're bored. they want you to put them down so they can be free. my mom holds them and loves on them, but she also gets on the floor with them and let's them play freely.
argh.
sorry, i jacked your thread and totally vented!

 

That's the exact reason I insisted we live 1 plane ride away form dh's parents. I need my space to be me. Sorry.

 

:hug99: