UGH! LONG VENT!

Okay so i am so mad! but before I begin, I in no way want to offend SAHM, I do wish I was a SAHM, however this situation is kinda different....
So my SO comes home and tells me about his cousin's son who are two weeks apart from the twins. Well his cousin's baby's mother is a SAHM. A first time mother like me. However she is constantly telling me how to take care of my babies and comparing the babies to her son. She asks my SO what the twins are doing now? Are they crawling? Are they sitting up? Akio, does this, AKio does that SHUT UP!! WHO CARES!!!. I hate taking the babies over there she is a first time mom like me and she acts like she knows everything, She aways is trying to tell me try this, try that, like she is some experienced mother or something! She is learning day by day just like I am! AND she isn't telling me anything I don't already know already!! That is the killer part! It's like just enjoy your baby, I am enjoying my twins anything her son is doing fine that is good, great! Great. I wouldn't get so angry if she was saying things like she was really rying to help, she is trying to be a know it all, like she is all high and mighty or somethingor jealous for some reason.
As far as milestones my babies are on track. They are six months old and DD can rock on all fours, back and forth, stand like she wants to walk when you hold her by her hands and stand her up, hold her own bottle, eats solids, says mama (not dada )Sits up for like 2 min or less, mimics others, rolls over,looks when you call her name, and a bunch of other stuff DS does the same except he says dada, and doesn't roc on all fours hates to be on his tummy. With that being said my babies are fine! I know she gets to my SO too, because when Akio got his walker my boyfriend had to go out and get the twins a walker,all of the sudden. babies are different. Next I know she will just be askng baout teeth and everyhting else. I don't know if I am offended i think I just am more mad that my boyfriend feeds into her bull so if the twins aren't doing something that Akio is I think he feels like they are behind.
I try to explain to my boyfriend that, all babies are different number one, number two, we both work, work the twins are at the sitter majority of the time during the week. Neither his cousin, or his cousin's girlfriend work! I should hope Akio would be doing more than the twins they have two people all day everyday all day long to focus on ONE child to work with daily on developmental skills. I am so sorry that we have to work 5 days a week to take care fo the twins and only get to spend about 24 hours total during the week Mon- Fri with the babies because we have to ensure they are taken care of when BOTH of them stay home 7 days a week by choice and use the state to take of their child. I can' t do that! ! Like I said I in no way want to offend anyone, but these people are just two lazy grown *** people who are capapble of working but rather be on welfare by CHOICE then to get a job and they will never be able to get a job because they are only getting older and have no work experience, And for the record Iam not judging them by saying that those are FACTS! They could at least get a part time job or something because when their son does get older who will teach them what hard work is like and what you have to do to support your family if no one has ever worked. Then i would like to step in then and try to offer HER my 2 sense!! I just had to vent I am so sick of advice on how to raise my twins that has been not asked for and from people who don't have twins or not experienced mothers ata all it is so ANNOYING!!! I haven't been this irritated since I had whacked out hormones when I was pregnant. Thanks to listening to that ridicuously long,run on, type of vent for those of you who did understand the point I was trying to make. I take DAmn good care of my twins they are such angels. My whole life is based around them....two sense..unnecessary 2 sense with borderlines of jealousy are just offending! Thanks for listening.

 

Honestly, I think you need to just let what she says go in one ear and out the other. I am only saying this because I have a friend just like this!! It is SO hard to listen to it, trust me, I know. But don't let her get to you. Maybe it's her way of needing to feel good about herself and the way she is raising her baby. I'm sorry you are so frustrated. :hug99:

 

:hug99: I agree with Michelle about trying to ignore it... As hard as that is.

 

Oh how irritating! I am sorry you have to be around that-family is family and you just have to deal! Honestly if it were me the next time your SO's cousin is comparing tell her what you think..."my kids are right on track-I wish I could spend more time with them but I have to work to support our family-thanks for your advice but we are both new moms and learning and I am doing just fine"....hopefully that will give her the hint to shut up!
PS-Your babies IMO are ahead of schedule-they really can do a lot-you are doing a great job!

 

Oh that would annoy the heck out of me! It sounds like you, your husband, and your sitter are doing an EXCELLENT job with your babies. I agree, sometimes you have to just let that stuff go in one ear and out the other...or you could always make snarky remarks regarding the fact that they're playing 2 on 1 so they sort of have an advantage. I hope they realize what jerks they're being. Maybe you could just try putting some distance between you guys if the situation doesn't resolve itself soon. You have enough to worry about trying to work full time and take care of two babies. You don't need that added stress.

 

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Oh that would annoy the heck out of me! It sounds like you, your husband, and your sitter are doing an EXCELLENT job with your babies. I agree, sometimes you have to just let that stuff go in one ear and out the other...or you could always make snarky remarks regarding the fact that they're playing 2 on 1 so they sort of have an advantage. I hope they realize what jerks they're being. Maybe you could just try putting some distance between you guys if the situation doesn't resolve itself soon. You have enough to worry about trying to work full time and take care of two babies. You don't need that added stress.


I would be so annoyed, I hate it when people try to compete with babies! Your babies are doing fantastic, ignore her!!!!

 

Try to ignore her. I know it is hard, much easier said than done. Every baby is different and does things at different times. You are doing a great job and don't let anyone try to tell you different!!

Dianna

 

I have a person in my life who is a know it all and has tried to give me advice I used to ignore it but got sick of it so when she gives me advice, I give advice back that usually shuts her up.
I hope it gets better