two of the same toy

I got them a Tickle Me Elmo for Christmas and my sister sent them one too. Should I return one or let them have two? The only other time they got a duplicate gift was one toy for their birthday and I returned one. I am thinking I should do it now too, I just hate returns and if enough people tell me that I should let them each have one than I will.

 

A few toys we have two of the same since I know they will fight over them. Most we only have one, since I am trying to get them to share, but that is sometimes a losing battle. I think you should do what is easiest for you - whether that be returning it or not. If it were me in this case, I would probably return it since we have 1 Tickle Me Elmo and all three of mine share it, but that's just me.

 

Since they don't differentiate yet, it's probably fine to return it and get something else. When things are little (we try to get them each their own, like i got them each a stuffed horse when I had to travel for work) - for bigger toys or toys that are electronic (fisher price tool bench, laugh and learn musical something or other) they share.

With the boy/girl dynamic, i think as they get older they will naturally get toys that are more boy or girl oriented so they will have their 'own' toys and it won't be an issue. Right now they play together pretty well and share the toys they have.

As folks said, do whatever is easiest at this point.

 

Save yourself the sanity. KEEP TWO!
I still buy 2 of everything,....because its inevitable that what onbe has in their hands the other will want. And if they both like it why should they have to share one.

 

In general I don't buy two of the same thing. If it's something I think they're going to fight over, I buy two things that are slightly different (like one kitty and one puppy), and each thing belongs to one child permanently. Having two identical ones often just means that we can only find one of them, and then they fight, or they both want to have both of them, and then they fight. But strangely, if the kitty is Sarah's and the puppy is Amy's, they will almost always hand the toy over to the child it "belongs" to.

But... if someone gave us two TME's, I probably woudln't bother to return one, because it's just a pain!

 

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Save yourself the sanity. KEEP TWO!
I still buy 2 of everything,....because its inevitable that what onbe has in their hands the other will want. And if they both like it why should they have to share one.



I would keep them both. I nearly "always" buy two of everything



amanda

 

I would return it, there is no need for two, IMO. I would return it now before it gets crazy after Christmas! They need to learn to share, why not learn with each other?

 

4 months ago, I would say that you should return it and get something else. Now, I would say that you should keep both of the Elmo's. My boys fight over every kind of toy and now we buy two of basicially everything, except really big and expensive things.

 

Some things we have two of and some things only one. Our rationale is that we want them to share, but can't realistically expect them to share EVERYTHING. Each kid deserves to have some things that belong solely to him/her.

 

I would probably keep the second one. Maybe open one up at first and see how much they like it. If it seems like it might be a really loved toy then let them keep the second one. If they seem indifferent then return it.

 

I think I would keep it. At that age, they don't like to share and don't understand the concept. I am still getting a few gifts for Emilie and Trevor for Christmas that are exactly the same, because I know if I don't there will be problems.

 

I say keep the extra one. My girls are not yet a year old but they fight over every toy...